I did it! I am finally over my ex girlfriend! (Reflections)

[Pacman]

It's about darn time too! Considering I have never fell for a girl as much as I fell for her

 

She dumped me saying she wants to be single and just have fun. I gave her that. I didn't plead, or beg her to think about it. She wanted to stay friends and I said let me get over you then we'll talk. Implemented NC.

 

The past few months were a roller coaster ride. But I learned so much in so little time that I am also thankful that things happened the way they did.

 

After the break up, I really focused on what I wanted to do. I literally punched my thigh as hard as I could whenever I would think about her the first few weeks. What I wanted to do was become a MAN. I wanted to mature and I wanted to get my life together. I realized so much after this break up

 

I realized I didn't rebound. I usually rebound after a break up but this time, I did not. I focused on self-growth and self-improvement to get over her. I thought to myself, If I were to rebound I'd be as bad as my ex girlfriend. Just because I am hurting, it doesn't mean that I need to hurt another person so I can feel good about myself. No. That's just unfair to the other person.

 

I realized I treated her the best I could, she didn't appreciate it so why waste my time with her? I'll just find another girl who appreciates that way I treat her. I realized that she's not the one for me. I will not end up marrying her and if the relationship were to continue it's only because it feels comfortable. It's the addiction of being in a relationship.

 

I realized I didn't end up playing games. I didn't find a girl just so my ex could see me with another girl. I didn't post pictures of me with other girls. I didn't try to make her jealous. What's the point of wasting time and energy? I don't want her back. She's no good for me and my future. Albeit she made sure that I saw her with other guys and even PDA in front of me. I wanted revenge so bad. I went home so furious and angry. But I didn't. She's not worth the time.

 

I realized shes too immature for the relationship that's to come ahead. I'm eventually going to go off to med school which will take a lot of my time. I'm going to need a girl who will be there for me and will be able to handle this kind of relationship. She's just way too immature. She'll end up cheating on me or breaking up with me saying I don't spend enough time with her. It's better that it happened now.

 

I realized shes an important person in my life. Did I hate her for what she did? Absolutely, but without her I wouldn't have gone through this self improvement and self growth. Without her the next girl that's going to fall for me due to my newly found self confidence wouldn't have been possible. I would like to be her friend one day. But until then, I wish her the best of luck. Because the best version of me is approaching.

 

Feels so damn good.

 

Feels much better not having to analyze her every move. Time to move on.

[ihateslowjams]

It's about darn time too! Considering I have never fell for a girl as much as I fell for her

 

She dumped me saying she wants to be single and just have fun. I gave her that. I didn't plead, or beg her to think about it. She wanted to stay friends and I said let me get over you then we'll talk. Implemented NC.

 

The past few months were a roller coaster ride. But I learned so much in so little time that I am also thankful that things happened the way they did.

 

After the break up, I really focused on what I wanted to do. I literally punched my thigh as hard as I could whenever I would think about her the first few weeks. What I wanted to do was become a MAN. I wanted to mature and I wanted to get my life together. I realized so much after this break up

 

I realized I didn't rebound. I usually rebound after a break up but this time, I did not. I focused on self-growth and self-improvement to get over her. I thought to myself, If I were to rebound I'd be as bad as my ex girlfriend. Just because I am hurting, it doesn't mean that I need to hurt another person so I can feel good about myself. No. That's just unfair to the other person.

 

I realized I treated her the best I could, she didn't appreciate it so why waste my time with her? I'll just find another girl who appreciates that way I treat her. I realized that she's not the one for me. I will not end up marrying her and if the relationship were to continue it's only because it feels comfortable. It's the addiction of being in a relationship.

 

I realized I didn't end up playing games. I didn't find a girl just so my ex could see me with another girl. I didn't post pictures of me with other girls. I didn't try to make her jealous. What's the point of wasting time and energy? I don't want her back. She's no good for me and my future. Albeit she made sure that I saw her with other guys and even PDA in front of me. I wanted revenge so bad. I went home so furious and angry. But I didn't. She's not worth the time.

 

I realized shes too immature for the relationship that's to come ahead. I'm eventually going to go off to med school which will take a lot of my time. I'm going to need a girl who will be there for me and will be able to handle this kind of relationship. She's just way too immature. She'll end up cheating on me or breaking up with me saying I don't spend enough time with her. It's better that it happened now.

 

I realized shes an important person in my life. Did I hate her for what she did? Absolutely, but without her I wouldn't have gone through this self improvement and self growth. Without her the next girl that's going to fall for me due to my newly found self confidence wouldn't have been possible. I would like to be her friend one day. But until then, I wish her the best of luck. Because the best version of me is approaching.

 

Feels so damn good.

 

Feels much better not having to analyze her every move. Time to move on.

 

Im in the process of my self improvement/growth at the moment. My process will take much longer than yours will, but i hope i get to the same mentality that you do real soon. However, i really doubt it since I probably will only be happy once I transfer to a university and find a dorm/apartment while I attend there. I gotta get used to the fact that Ill be "that old guy" on campus... -_- sigh

[Exit]

Congrats I'm glad you are feeling better. I have been having a couple decent days myself but I hesitate to say I'm finally getting there, because I have been here before just to go back downhill again.

[Tyler.]

Great mentality dude you're on the right track. Just by realising that you've given your best and not blaming yourself for the breakup, you've taken a major step. Kudos to you, future doctor