Author SarahRose Posted August 10, 2012 Author Share Posted August 10, 2012 It is amazing what a swift kick in the pants does for a man. All the understanding and coddling does nothing. Men just think you are a weak sap pushover. So within an hour of me laying it out for him about him being lazy and not looking for a job, he actually registered for the job site he had been pretending to search on and applied for 2 jobs. He also cleaned up his video mess in the living room. So hoping this will stick! Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted August 11, 2012 Share Posted August 11, 2012 A good swift kick in the a$$ , is under rated. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 11, 2012 Share Posted August 11, 2012 It is amazing what a swift kick in the pants does for a man. All the understanding and coddling does nothing. Men just think you are a weak sap pushover. So within an hour of me laying it out for him about him being lazy and not looking for a job, he actually registered for the job site he had been pretending to search on and applied for 2 jobs. He also cleaned up his video mess in the living room. So hoping this will stick! Well, to be fair, it is worth being understanding if the guy is actually trying. Such as if he had genuinely drafted up a business plan and started working on it. In your husband's case though, a swift kick in the arse was definitely well-deserved! Glad things are improving for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted August 11, 2012 Author Share Posted August 11, 2012 Well, to be fair, it is worth being understanding if the guy is actually trying. Such as if he had genuinely drafted up a business plan and started working on it. In your husband's case though, a swift kick in the arse was definitely well-deserved! Glad things are improving for you. If he had been trying this thread wouldn't even exist. I think it is pretty easy to tell when someone is trying or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Mount Posted August 13, 2012 Share Posted August 13, 2012 I feel bad for SarahRose.....and actually there have tons of those kind losers that rely on women to keep their living/lifestyle. And no surprise, next thing he will do, is CHEATING....Just wait and see. At least you get warning or headsup now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted September 4, 2012 Author Share Posted September 4, 2012 Well it is time for an update. He is clearly just messing with me to keep his lifestyle of loafing around. His enthusiasm lasted a couple of days and it was right back to loafing on the couch again. I had not said another word about finding a job like I had promised but just watched to see what would happen. So in the past month he would work on his business site one day a week and the rest of the time being lazy. He has not applied for any more jobs. He is just messing with me doing the very very bare minimum to pretend he is doing something. He must think I am really really stupid. My injury is still healing and I am not ready to return to work yet. So last week a headhunter has been pushing me pretty hard to take a new consulting gig in another state. I really don't feel well enough enough to take it. My husband was pushing me to call them back and take it. When I told him I didn't feel well enough yet, he was pretty angry in a passive aggressive way. He insulted my book and then said I should take the job because the bills are piling up and they need to be paid. I then said well you can certainly go out and get a job and work on paying them can't you. He just stormed out of the room and then he kept letting the dog in here which the dog isn't allowed because it pees and doing stuff like that to irritate me. So apparently he has got the idea that it is solely my job to work and pay the bills while he lays around like an overgrown teen and does nothing. Next step is getting my ducks in a row and leaving. Link to post Share on other sites
giotto Posted September 4, 2012 Share Posted September 4, 2012 sorry to hear that, but I think you have done everything you can and you are left with no option... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mycteria Posted September 4, 2012 Share Posted September 4, 2012 You've been given the perfect solution! Take that job in another state. Move out. Turn off ALL the power to the house your husband lives in, internet included. Then inform him that the house is on the market, and you are getting divorced. He can sink or swim. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 well that particular consulting gig fell through at the last minute. I did apply for and get accepted into a small business development program that will provide a modest income while developing my business. I am pretty happy about it and really am looking forward to doing something else as a career. Needless to say my husband seems rather unhappy about that and he is pushing me to get another job doing what I hate. He is starting to complain about how poor we are and telling me i like being poor. I told him there was nothing stopping him from getting off his butt and getting a job. He says well you make so much more than I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Later82012 Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Sarah, where do you guys find these people and how do you end up getting married to them? So, are you going to keep pushing him to be responsible for the rest of your life? Is divorce an option? Link to post Share on other sites
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