Naive Posted July 15, 2004 Share Posted July 15, 2004 Then you need to leave him and start brand new because in either case you are ruining your life! Link to post Share on other sites
Author teressa0397 Posted July 16, 2004 Author Share Posted July 16, 2004 Originally posted by naive_2001 Then you need to leave him and start brand new because in either case you are ruining your life! Link to post Share on other sites
Author teressa0397 Posted July 16, 2004 Author Share Posted July 16, 2004 i'am crying all the time now i cant help it i love him after all the affair last 8 years i want to moved on with my life i want to get him out of my system out of my soul it just dont seen right with out him it like some one has died; some one out there has done this tell me how you got over it and moved on; i want to pick up the phone and call but i wont; iam not going to make a fool out of myself again; i told him i love him; i just got to get over this some how; you no being on this web site has help me in a lot of ways; he no he has hurt me but seen to dont care; he E_mail me but i deleted it i didnt read it i was afraid it was something bad i cant stand no more pain then what i all ready have; please tell me some one how you get over it; heart broken Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Teressa, Don't expect any sympathy for us. You have been cheating for 8 years! You have no concept of what a relationship is all about. I doubt you & your husband have nothing close to a good relationship. This OM thinks of you as a sex-toy. That's it. You need to wake up. This is what most of us are trying to tell you what to do: 1) Tell your husband, if you are scared then write him a letter. Leave & proceed with divorce papers 2) No contact with this OM. He's been using you (and you using him) for 8 years. He has you psychologically messed you up big time. This OM DOES NOT CARE FOR YOU. You need to get this in your head. While screwing you, I can guarantee he's been screwing other chicks as well 3) Move away from that area and restart your life over again 4) See a councilor right away, you need one no matter how much you think you don't Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 This is a classic case of facing the consequences when we don't realize what a union between a man and a woman was designed to be. Teresa, you are married, you shouldn't of have had an affair to begin with. If you and your husband aren't living together as husband and wife, and he's physically abusive with you, you should've ended it BEFORE moving on to another relationship. And for goodness sake, find a relationship where the other man is single and un- attached. jmargel says we won't have any sympathy for you. I kind of do. Your human and we humans make mistakes. You are seriously hurting from your mistake and life just bites for you right now. It's not the end girl. You will laugh again!!! And I mean hard too. Get things settled with your husband, fix it or leave it, but settle it. Find a hobby or learn a new language, take a class to learn the guitar, occupy your mind with something that isn't so damaging. Then, and always remember this, NEVER CHEAT OR BE THE OW again!!! You seriously want to get even with him? Show him that you can carry on w/o him and be happy w/o him.....kill him with kindness. That will hurt him more than any beating your husband can deliver. Good Luck!! Moose Link to post Share on other sites
Author teressa0397 Posted July 17, 2004 Author Share Posted July 17, 2004 Originally posted by jmargel Teressa, Don't expect any sympathy for us. You have been cheating for 8 years! You have no concept of what a relationship is all about. I doubt you & your husband have nothing close to a good relationship. This OM thinks of you as a sex-toy. That's it. You need to wake up. This is what most of us are trying to tell you what to do: 1) Tell your husband, if you are scared then write him a letter. Leave & proceed with divorce papers 2) No contact with this OM. He's been using you (and you using him) for 8 years. He has you psychologically messed you up big time. This OM DOES NOT CARE FOR YOU. You need to get this in your head. While screwing you, I can guarantee he's been screwing other chicks as well 3) Move away from that area and restart your life over again 4) See a councilor right away, you need one no matter how much you think you don't thank's i needed to hear this you have been a help i will get over this; time will heal all scars; this man had a hold on me i seen what he was doing to me; i'am tired holding on; thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author teressa0397 Posted July 17, 2004 Author Share Posted July 17, 2004 Originally posted by Moose This is a classic case of facing the consequences when we don't realize what a union between a man and a woman was designed to be. Teresa, you are married, you shouldn't of have had an affair to begin with. If you and your husband aren't living together as husband and wife, and he's physically abusive with you, you should've ended it BEFORE moving on to another relationship. And for goodness sake, find a relationship where the other man is single and un- attached. jmargel says we won't have any sympathy for you. I kind of do. Your human and we humans make mistakes. You are seriously hurting from your mistake and life just bites for you right now. It's not the end girl. You will laugh again!!! And I mean hard too. Get things settled with your husband, fix it or leave it, but settle it. Find a hobby or learn a new language, take a class to learn the guitar, occupy your mind with something that isn't so damaging. Then, and always remember this, NEVER CHEAT OR BE THE OW again!!! You seriously want to get even with him? Show him that you can carry on w/o him and be happy w/o him.....kill him with kindness. That will hurt him more than any beating your husband can deliver. Good Luck!! Moose you are absolutely right; i'am going on fine a hobby and let him no he is history; thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author teressa0397 Posted July 21, 2004 Author Share Posted July 21, 2004 i broke down i was kinda coping here; my boyfriend came looking for me yesterday i e_mail him today i wanted to see him; he said he will try no promises see he has a job coal miner that his work thats what he does for a liveing; and its kinda hard for him to get away; but any way when you love some one like i love him you cant let go so easy; i need advise here do you think i should tell him what i want from him and he refuse then let go of him if he doesnt want to do it up right i will start my life over; [ trying] Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 You are not listening to our advice, therefore I am done in this matter. You have a husband! Forget the boyfriend. Re-read our posts to find your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Theresa, if you need to confront him with your feelings to fully understand the situation then do it. No more worrying or agonzing. Ask him to make the choice. Either way, someone is going to hurt. It may be you, when he says he won't give up his girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author teressa0397 Posted July 22, 2004 Author Share Posted July 22, 2004 Originally posted by jmargel You are not listening to our advice, therefore I am done in this matter. You have a husband! Forget the boyfriend. Re-read our posts to find your answer. well you no i went and see him to day and i had to say good bye to him i remenbering reading the advise that i was gave on this posts i could not do it to love on him like i did i realize he was uesing me i told him no more;i;am not a sex toy any more i walk off ;----------------thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author teressa0397 Posted July 22, 2004 Author Share Posted July 22, 2004 Originally posted by Mr Spock Theresa, if you need to confront him with your feelings to fully understand the situation then do it. No more worrying or agonzing. Ask him to make the choice. Either way, someone is going to hurt. It may be you, when he says he won't give up his girlfriend. how can a women love a man that much only a fool; thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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