One foot out the door

[Mr baseball]

Short story from a guy that has tried to start new thread but can stay logged on. Sorry for the run on! . I am a male who was going through a divorce with a child 11 years ago. I met this woman became best friend and fell in love all at the same time. We got married 2 years after dating. All was going great. About 4 years ago she started a new job. she was going to the bars with her boss who was a female by the way. She was also on depressant meds at the time. She was angry and close to violent at times. She quit her job and we found out that she was pregnant about 4 months later. She quit the meds and all seemed fine again. We had the baby and all was well untill about a 2 years ago whe she seemed depressed. I told her she needed freinds, go out, and get away. I think that was my mistake. She started to go out 1 or 2 times a week for coffe and now its 3 times a week to the bars. She started telling me she was not happy here and that we should have never got married. She said that I m not romantic. She said she is not attracted to me anymore. She said I only go for girls with self asteem problems. She will say she is confused and is taking this day by day. We have not had sex in three months. She goes out with females that all have marital problem and we seemed to follow siut exactly how their problems started. We have been to a counciler but seperate.

 

I want to know what you think. We both decided to divorce and changed our minds. I love her and my family but wonder if enough is enough. She told me that too much has went under the bridge that the bridge is gone? She and I sleep in the same bed. We do get along at times. She told me today that she was saving to get an apartment. Should I make her live with her decision to leave? She threw at me that would I throw her and her daughter out on the street! I think if that is her decision then thats it. Am I wrong?

 

Post all you want and ask questions!

[HokeyReligions]

I am a male who was going through a divorce with a child 11 years ago. Eleven years ago you were married and had a child with your wife right? (you were not married to a child 11 years ago!)

 

So your wife now is your second wife? It sounds like she has some self-esteem issues and is easily led and influenced. If thats the case, she may be right and it was a mistake to get married. That's all in the past though.

 

If she is not happy, and you've tried counseling, and she will not take her meds, then maybe its time to cut your losses and divorce. Give each of you an opportunity to learn about yourselves and what you want out of life and in a partner. Then move on.

 

I hate to see a marriage end and a family fall apart, and I would reccomend trying every avenue to save the marriage first, but if she is dead-set on going out without you and not trying to save the marriage, then there is nothing you can do but accept her and the lifestyle she is dictating, or move on.

[Mr baseball]

I had a child with the woman in my first marriage and I have a child with the woman in this marriage. My wife now is not on meds at this time but I think she needs them. I would say that she goes out to the bars with friends about 13 to 15 nights a month. I think that is way too much. We have a 2 1/2 year old child and a14 year old at home. I will also say that she plans to take the younger one when she moves. I don't see how that will fit into her lifestyle. Should I let her "find herself" or make her live with her decisions and make her leave. She says she has no place to go and I will put her and my child on the street. I think if she wants to leave she should go. She needs a place to stay and its with me I guess. But at the same time she doesnt want or is not sure if she want to be with me.