question...did you feel envy towards your ex???

[costablanca]

just a few questions..........

 

is it normal to feel envy after bieng dumped???

 

did you feel less attractive as a person than your ex, feeling that it would be easier for him/her to attract a better looking partner than you could yourself?

 

if your ex had a better job than you, more money....did it annoy you?

 

if they lived in a better area, country than you?

 

better future or opportunities in life?

 

more to offer a future partner?

 

if they were in better physical shape than you?

 

if they were younger, did you feel a bit jealous?

 

i know this all sounds superficial, but these are some of the things im going through right now.

 

normally i never feel envy of towards anyone. i feel angry with myself for feeling this way.

 

is it cause ive got no self esteem and feeling sorry for myself?

 

anyone else felt this way???

 

tracy xx

[HokeyReligions]

Well, my first thought when I broke up with my first serious bf was, "who am I going to kiss now?"

 

When I broke up with my 2nd serious bf I thought "I'm bored, now what do I do?"

 

When my husband and I broke up the first time I felt like a part of me had been cut off and I don't know that I had any clear thughts. I knew that I had as good a future as did he, especially since I had more education than him at the time and was on a career path and not just in a job. So there was no envy in that regard.

 

He was, however, going to a gym and I was not and I kind of felt like I imagine I would if a friend won the lottery. Happy for him, but jealous because I wanted it too!

 

Concentrate on your strengths and focus on the positives about yourself. What positive things did you bring to the relationship? You'll bring those to your next relationship. What would you like to change about yourself so that you have even more to bring to the next relationship? Now, think about how to go about achieving those things. If its diet -- find a book or look online for some good diet tips and start an exercise program. Once you take one positive step forward, it will be easier to keep moving that way.