FortyTwo Posted August 12, 2012 Share Posted August 12, 2012 Long time browser first time poster:laugh: I have been in an LDR for two years with a man I met online. He's 50, I'm 42. We are only a state apart and I had great hopes for this relationship after an amazing first meeting. Fast forward two years. We haven't seen each other since our first meeting(April 2011). Communication started to lag on his end and now on mine because I just don't feel like he wants to talk to me. The less we talk, the more I start to think that it just may be time to give up on this. I'm not selfish, I realize that he has a successful career, kids and aging mother to worry about. I have been the one initiating phone calls and texts then I decided to let him chase me which he hasn't. He has made no mention of future meetings or when the distance will end. What do you think? Is he content with our relationship as is? Does he just not care anymore? How do I voice my growing doubts about our future? Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted August 12, 2012 Share Posted August 12, 2012 Hi I'm sorry but it doesn't sound hopeful. It's quite amazing you're still together if you've not met up again since April last year. LDR's do need a lot of contact and effort, and visits, to sustain them, to keep the bond. How much contact were you having recently? He's not initiating contact, which isn't good, and not talking about meeting up or ending the distance isn't good either I would either let things fizzle out (which it seems they are anyway) and move on, or ask him if it's over for him and/or tell him you're not happy. Long time browser first time poster:laugh: I have been in an LDR for two years with a man I met online. He's 50, I'm 42. We are only a state apart and I had great hopes for this relationship after an amazing first meeting. Fast forward two years. We haven't seen each other since our first meeting(April 2011). Communication started to lag on his end and now on mine because I just don't feel like he wants to talk to me. The less we talk, the more I start to think that it just may be time to give up on this. I'm not selfish, I realize that he has a successful career, kids and aging mother to worry about. I have been the one initiating phone calls and texts then I decided to let him chase me which he hasn't. He has made no mention of future meetings or when the distance will end. What do you think? Is he content with our relationship as is? Does he just not care anymore? How do I voice my growing doubts about our future? Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted August 12, 2012 Share Posted August 12, 2012 I'm not selfish, I realize that he has a successful career, kids and aging mother to worry about. I have been the one initiating phone calls and texts then I decided to let him chase me which he hasn't. He has made no mention of future meetings or when the distance will end. What do you think? Is he content with our relationship as is? Does he just not care anymore? How do I voice my growing doubts about our future? Everyone has their own burdens, lives, responsibilities, etc. that keep them exceedingly busy. Assuming he found your initial meeting equally amazing, sounds to me like while the idea of having someone in his life has appeal (or at least, did at one time) with all his other obligations the reality of the situation is he's not willing/able to do what it takes to have one (at least, with you). Keep in mind a simple truth: People make the time for the people and things they think are important to them, and seldom do for those they don't. The only reason you're "still in in relationship" with this man is because you've been the only one trying to keep it alive. I think it's time to realize for whatever reason you're not important enough to be a priority in his life. Quit contacting him. You can do better. It's time you moved on. Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
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