libra2k42000 Posted July 14, 2004 Share Posted July 14, 2004 I have been with my guy for 4 years. We recently split up for a number of months. I had a feeling he slept with someone else but decided it was best we did not discuss it. We got back togetehr and wantd to start fresh. Now, I have an STD. I am so angry and I don't know how to feel. I don't care that he had sex, but I care that he did so unprotected. How could he jeopardize my health? We are waiting for test results now. I know it is an STD. he won't admit to anything until I get the test results. I can't get it off my mind. I think of forgiving him because I feel I may have been capable of doing the same thing, but point is I didn't. i am so disgusted to think of what he did. I want details but I don't. I don't know how to feel. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
miz_barby Posted July 14, 2004 Share Posted July 14, 2004 I would want to know if he slept with only one person or more than one. Whoever he slept with that gave him that STD (if it turns out to be an STD) needs to be told that she has one and needs to get tested so she won't be spreading it around. (if it was me in the situation I would want the woman to know she gave him, which in turn gave me an STD) Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 14, 2004 Share Posted July 14, 2004 i am so disgusted to think of what he did. I want details but I don't. I don't know how to feel. Any advice?[ No one can tell you how to feel. You need to tell us how you feel and we can possibly give you some advice on how to handle the situation. You may feel one way and I could feel another way and it might not really help you any by giving my opinion of the situation. How does this change things for you? Does this change the way you feel for him? Is there a cure for the STD? Would that change your feelings if there was/wasn't? Link to post Share on other sites
jmsdmom Posted July 14, 2004 Share Posted July 14, 2004 You are right to get tested, of course, but I think the bigger issue is that he isn't coming clean until caught. That is a character flaw that you may seriously want to consider before getting involved with him again. If he did do this and isn't admitting to it, it may very well come back and bite you a lot harder if you remain involved with him. Honesty is so underrated these days, but SO critical to success. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted July 14, 2004 Share Posted July 14, 2004 I had a feeling he slept with someone else but decided it was best we did not discuss it. It's too late now, but I hope you realize it would have been better to discuss it. You share some portion of the blame (maybe 15%?) for putting your head in the sand on this one. As you agreed to reconcile, that would have been the time to talk openly about what each of you exposed yourselves to. You probably should have decided to go get tested together if you planned on resuming unprotected sex. I hope your STD is the curable kind. he won't admit to anything until I get the test results. You mean he is denying he gave you an STD from having sex with someone else unprotected? So does he think you're an idiot who can't put two and two together???? Perhaps you two need to talk a LOT more than you are currently doing. Link to post Share on other sites
confused2k4 Posted July 15, 2004 Share Posted July 15, 2004 Hi, thanks all for your replies. I am still unsure of how I feel. I see the doctor tomorrow to find out the results. We have talked a lot about it, and it would have been smart to both get tested. I assumed he would been smart enough to be protected. I am going through a mix of ups and downs. I would like to forgive him, but I guess only time will tell. I am thinking about whether or not I want any details. If I know I might obsess about it. maybe it's best to not know. I am so confused.... Link to post Share on other sites
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