UpwardForward Posted August 23, 2012 Share Posted August 23, 2012 I've been accused of being a troll. I've been accused of being the wife. I've been accused of being stupid. You know what? I'm just a 26 year old girl who is in love and knows that I'm with a man who has done bad in his life but I really think he loves me and I'm going to see what happens. I meet both kids this weekend. We are talking about moving in together. I think I'm going to be happy in the end and I am willing to find out. I'm young and I've got time to see if it can work. He's worht it. He loves me. His wife is pushing hard for the divorce and as soon as they agree on a settlement it will be over. And we can focus on us and not the rest of the stuff. His kids are accepting that I am his girlfriend and are not worried about meeting me. They don't seem to care about any of it anymore. No one does. So we can now be together without all that baggage. No one is free of their past, not before D - or after. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rosieisblue Posted August 23, 2012 Author Share Posted August 23, 2012 No one is free of their past, not before D - or after. He has left his baggage behind with his wife. Most of it is her issues and she won't stop giving him a hard time about his 'sins'. I understand that it was difficult for her to find out who he was but he wasn't happy for years and that was all just a symptom of a bad marriage. Now he's got what he wants and he's happy. all he wants is the kids to meet me and see that I'm a nice person and we can then make a new life with them a part of it. his wie will always be their mother but they can have a great time with MM and me and we will make it great. His past is in the past, we've talked about it and the wife even did me a favor by telling me all about it because there are no secrets between us. he's explained why things happened the way they did and we've talked it through. We've coem to understand what he needs and what I needs and I really believe it will work. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 23, 2012 Share Posted August 23, 2012 I've been accused of being a troll. I've been accused of being the wife. I've been accused of being stupid. You know what? I'm just a 26 year old girl who is in love and knows that I'm with a man who has done bad in his life but I really think he loves me and I'm going to see what happens. I meet both kids this weekend. We are talking about moving in together. I think I'm going to be happy in the end and I am willing to find out. I'm young and I've got time to see if it can work. He's worht it. He loves me. His wife is pushing hard for the divorce and as soon as they agree on a settlement it will be over. And we can focus on us and not the rest of the stuff. His kids are accepting that I am his girlfriend and are not worried about meeting me. They don't seem to care about any of it anymore. No one does. So we can now be together without all that baggage. Great Rosie! If everything is so peachy keen why do you keep posting here? Tell the truth, you are still worried he is going to cheat on you aren't you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author rosieisblue Posted August 23, 2012 Author Share Posted August 23, 2012 NB, I mean Rosie , you are so funny, you can't even keep your story straight in your two consecutive posts. Bolded below. lol :laugh: What is wrong with that? I'm meeting them this weekend, which means I am now going to meet them. yes, you think I am the wife. Go ahead. I wish I was and I will be. Wahtever. You're nuts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rosieisblue Posted August 23, 2012 Author Share Posted August 23, 2012 Great Rosie! If everything is so peachy keen why do you keep posting here? Tell the truth, you are still worried he is going to cheat on you aren't you? I don't know what I think. I love him but everything everyones said since I started posting here has made me thinka bout things but at the end of the day I think it can work and I trust in his love and I don't know, I guess I want to prove everyone wrong, I guess. I hate that we started as an affair but thats what happened and I am feeling good about things but most everyone here has said it wont' work. I just want to show people that no mateer how hard it can work out. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted August 23, 2012 Share Posted August 23, 2012 What is wrong with that? I'm meeting them this weekend, which means I am now going to meet them. yes, you think I am the wife. Go ahead. I wish I was and I will be. Wahtever. You're nuts. You're quite right on this one Rosie. The past tense for meet - is met, folks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rosieisblue Posted August 23, 2012 Author Share Posted August 23, 2012 Oh come on.......you think I'm the one who is nuts, don't think so. In one post you said you HAD met them, your next post you were going to meet them. One of them is a lie, or maybe both of them are lies. You are the one who posted it, not me, so your pronouncement that I'm the one with a nut missing is a little off. BTW.......I should give xmm the credit for my newfound ability to spot liars. :bunny: I met one of the his kids awhile ago. Actually I met him twice, Once in a shop and once at a amusement park. The other one has refused to meet me but now has agreed to meet me so its going to happen this weekend. What is hard to understand about that? Its about the older one who has been awful about this whole ting. The younger one has been pretty ok and not too crazy. The older one is like his mother, angry, bitter and very p*ssed off at me, not understanding that I had little to do with the end of the marriage other than he was looking and he found me. And no, I'm not nuts. you are. You went me a PM accusing me of being his wife. I will be his wife and I'll post here when I am and then I'll laugh in your bitter 'betrayed' wife face. All you 'betrayed' wives think your saints and no, your not. You didn't give your men what hey wanted and they found it somewhere else. Sorry its so hard for you to see that half of it, at least, it your fault. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rosieisblue Posted August 23, 2012 Author Share Posted August 23, 2012 Pull your claws back in, OK. You are really showing your ugly side with the bolded above. The two posts I copied, pointing out what seemed to be a complete contradiction but perhaps it was your lack of spelling and grammar skills instead of a lie, so maybe I was wrong about that. As for who you might be or might not be, my jury is still out. Now.......newsflash, which I would think you could remember this but you are so absorbed in yourself that you don't even remember posters history or what they have posted to you. I'm a FOW, not a BS. I'm also the daughter of a serial cheater. Oh I'm not bitter or mean, just surviving the baggage of my past and have come out from it on the other side. Whatever. There is no contradiction about what I said. I met one of the kids but am now meeting them both and we're going further into our future. I thought you were a betrayaed wife because your so bitter but whatever. guess what...my MM and I will be together an we will make it work. We are hapy. Sorry it didn't work out for you and your mm but don't dump on me. HIs kids will be ok and we'll end up liking and maybe lvoing each other. His wife I hope will find someone else and stop making things difficult. He needs his money and he deserves it because he has worked so hard for everything and he's giving her a lot of money to buy a new place but she wants more, she wants alimony forever, which is bull****. I will never be like her and sotp working and I will always contribute but he is very succesful so it will take time for me to reach his level. But I will. I hae no plans on being his wife, just sitting on my butt while everyone pays the bills and makes things nice for her. She needs to get off her but and find her own life and stop expecting mm to take care of her. Its crazy. Shes supposed to be a smart and educated woman Why cant she just get on with life and just let it go and stop askign him to take care of her? He is giving her alot of money to buy a new place. Why is't this enough? Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorrigby Posted August 23, 2012 Share Posted August 23, 2012 Rosie you can't do anything about what MM's BW wants and want she will get in the divorce. You can't affect this at all. You are powerless in this particular situation. The courts will decide. Why worry yourself to death over things you can't control? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 23, 2012 Share Posted August 23, 2012 Its about the older one who has been awful about this whole ting. The younger one has been pretty ok and not too crazy. The older one is like his mother, angry, bitter and very p*ssed off at me, not understanding that I had little to do with the end of the marriage other than he was looking and he found me. You yourself said that D-Day occured on his sons birthday. There's the reason why his son doesn't want to meet you. The poor kid has every right to be upset, bitter, angry. He's a KID, kids aren't supposed to understand affairs and why they happen. All he knows is, he's been forced to meet you and has caved to please his own father. I wish you luck rosie. I hope ALL of you are able to put those kids first and respect them. After this meeting, please back off of them and don't push to include them so quickly. They have a mom already, they aren't looking for a stepmom, or someone to replace their mom in their lives. Allow them the time and courtesy of choosing when they are ready to be involved, okay? Please think about their wellbeing and not what you and MM want. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rosieisblue Posted August 23, 2012 Author Share Posted August 23, 2012 MM and me want to move in together. We want to sell our places and combine our money and get a great place together. And the only way we can do that is if the kids accept things between us becuse he has them a couple of days a week. Also, he travels for work so I need to make a relationship with the kids so that when they are with us and he is not here I can do the whole stepmom/babysitter thing. I know its going to be hard but it can work if the kids get on boad. We are taking them to a movie this weekend and maybe for a bite to eat. I hope we can make friends and it will be ok. His wife does't seem to care so it shoudln't be an issue with us or them or anyting.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rosieisblue Posted August 23, 2012 Author Share Posted August 23, 2012 You yourself said that D-Day occured on his sons birthday. There's the reason why his son doesn't want to meet you. The poor kid has every right to be upset, bitter, angry. He's a KID, kids aren't supposed to understand affairs and why they happen. All he knows is, he's been forced to meet you and has caved to please his own father. I wish you luck rosie. I hope ALL of you are able to put those kids first and respect them. After this meeting, please back off of them and don't push to include them so quickly. They have a mom already, they aren't looking for a stepmom, or someone to replace their mom in their lives. Allow them the time and courtesy of choosing when they are ready to be involved, okay? Please think about their wellbeing and not what you and MM want. yes it happened on his birthday but that's the wifes fault for dumping it on th skids on that day. She didnt' have to do that. She chose to tell them on that day. The kids come first but I also have to make sure that i am important and that our future is secure. the kids are fine, they have their mother, but when we have kids its going to be hard so i want to make friends with them now so they wont hate me for having a baby. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rosieisblue Posted August 23, 2012 Author Share Posted August 23, 2012 <i'm 26 now. And I am mature and a grown up. and I know what I'm getting into. And I am ready. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 23, 2012 Share Posted August 23, 2012 yes it happened on his birthday but that's the wifes fault for dumping it on th skids on that day. She didnt' have to do that. She chose to tell them on that day. The kids come first but I also have to make sure that i am important and that our future is secure. the kids are fine, they have their mother, but when we have kids its going to be hard so i want to make friends with them now so they wont hate me for having a baby. You have it backwards. You back off and allow them the chance to work through it all on their own (divorce and adjustments)and then when they are ready to get to know you, reach out to you, then they will. Fact-They caved to please their dad. They are only doing this to get him off their backs. That meeting is not going to be fun for them, it'll be stressful and upsetting for them to see their dad with another woman so soon, before their parents are divorced. I really don't understand the desire and push for them to accept you this quickly. bolded part - That isn't a good enough reason. It's selfish and mean to them to be forced to meet you under these circumstances. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Stephanie Posted August 23, 2012 Share Posted August 23, 2012 (edited) Thread closed for moderator review. An update will be posted once the review has been completed. UPDATE: This thread is kind of all over the place. Let's try again...OP if you'd like to restate your question in a new thread, feel free. Let's keep the answers relevant to the actual question so we can stay on topic. Edited August 24, 2012 by Stephanie Link to post Share on other sites
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