Moving in together soon.

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My bf and I met online and have been together ever since. We're going into a year in four months, I'm soo excited! We do not live together or near each other, we have an hour distance between one another. We both just got new jobs this few weeks. He got a job closer to where I live and I got a job literally 5 minutes away from my home. Just 2 days ago my bf told me that he had great news that he found a house for us in the area.

 

I was really happy because 2 months ago we were looking and it was kind of difficult because at the time he worked up where he lived and I didn't have a job at the time because I moved back for summer break from college. I actually attended on campus near his home before we even knew each other, so funny.♥ Anyway, he's going to meet up with the home owner about the place and check it out.

 

Everything seems great because the campus that I'll be on is near the area that the home is located. I'll be able to still work and attend class. The only thing that I'm concerned about is something I think a lot of people have dealt with..a mother of a bf/husband. My bfs mother and I aren't on talking terms because of an inccident that happened after I took my finals in May. She have always tried to make my bf choose between her and I.

 

We got along at first until my bf started to fall in love with me and "changed" for the better, which is completely normal. My bf takes good care of me and we spend time together as much as we can and I think she feel as if I'm taking his time away from her. Sometime I came to her to assure her feelings were wrong but she still treated me like sh**. My bf and I have put up with her mess for awhile.

 

She gets angry when he call and we talk all the time(duh, he's my bf) when he drive up to see me every weekend, she tries to make plans so he would have to choose but it's always me because that is what we do, and intrude on our conversations and try to put in her input. Their's just so many things this woman tries to do to me, honestly. I already accept the fact that she is disturbed by her first born son dating a black girl and she have her eldest neices testing me and putting me in awkward situations.

 

I do not let any of their problems affect me like it use to in the beginning of our relationship. When my bfs mom found out that he got the new job close to my area and his dads area, she was livid. She made a comment, "I see where this is going, you're going to spend all of your time at your dads and gfs and won't have no time for me." I wasn't shocked because she try to guilt him a lot and even me at times.

 

I just wish she was like my mom, respect the change and move on. My worry is that his mother oversteps boundaries already and I will not allow this to happen when we move in together. Do any of you have any suggestions on what to do.

 

Thanks