Chibaby Posted July 14, 2004 Share Posted July 14, 2004 OK, So this is driving me nuts. My boyfriend right before we met went on this 6 week trip to China. After we met, and discussed the numbers and ex's and such, he told me he didn't date, or let alone even kiss anyone while in china. Of course I believed him then, why wouldn't I, I see no reason to lie about something like that, but now this is driving me nuts. It's 3 years later, and through the "friendster" web site, some girl contacted me asking if I was his girlfriend. Well, I was chatting with her and found out that he had infact been with someone while he was in china. She even sent me the pictures (they were obviously together in them)! It was before we met, so it isn't like he cheated or anything, but why does he lie and lie about it? I confronted him again, and he still lies when I have the proof! I'm starting to wonder, if he lies about dating people, what else is he lying about!?! I mean, the fact that he's lying about something so trivial really puts out red flags for me! This is getting to be a bigger issue in my head just because it irks me. ANy advice on how to hash this out, it's making me mental? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 14, 2004 Share Posted July 14, 2004 I can see telling the first lie. He just met you, getting to know each other, maybe he just was uncomfortable about it. Then he was trapped. He may get angry at your questioning and throwing it in his face all the time now. If he can't own up to it now though---if you approach him in a non-threatening way and don't put him on the defensive, then he may have a problem with lieing. Are you sure the pictures aren't photoshopped or something? Is he still in contact with anyone from China? Maybe the girl in China thought that they were a couple, then he met you and just never told her or ended it properly and he's ashamed. Could be a lot of things. Is this really enough to destroy your trust in him? I've let little lies go with my husband. He hides food and I find it when I'm cleaning, or I'll find a food wrapper. Sometimes I'll say something to him, but other times I'll let him have his little secrets. I still trust him. (he's diabetic and restricted on what he can eat) Link to post Share on other sites
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