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Broken hearted & don't feel like I can go on..

Vikki_26

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youngnlove89

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okay okay. But I just know how it feels to have everyone tell you such great advice, but when it comes to following it, your heart wants to do the opposite. When emotions are involved logic is thrown out.

 

We love our ex's, that is why we are here. Vikki loves David. It's obvious.

 

Letting go is very hard but once you do, you will find out soon enough that holding on was harder.

 

After all of you telling me over and over what I needed to do, I didn't listen. But now that I did what I needed to do and got it out of my system, I am ready to let go. I took all of your advice and kept it in the back of my mind, but I wasn't able to put it to use until I was READY.

 

She isn't ready yet. She will be. She hasn't thrown away all this advice either, it just takes time.

 

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Drseussgrrl

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I get that she isn't "ready".

 

But like you, youngnlove, this man has dumped her MANY times and by hanging on she's setting the stage for history to repeat itself. She is making no attempt whatsoever to heal.

 

Believe it or not there ARE women out there who wouldn't tolerate such B.S., myself included, and ironically those are the women these types know they can't f*ck around with.

 

When are you going to be one of those no B.S. women? If a man wants to leave you, you help him pack and get on with things. You don't don't hang around like a lost puppy dog hoping that he'll change his mind about you.

 

SCAROO THAT.

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I get that she isn't "ready".

 

But like you, youngnlove, this man has dumped her MANY times and by hanging on she's setting the stage for history to repeat itself. She is making no attempt whatsoever to heal.

 

Believe it or not there ARE women out there who wouldn't tolerate such B.S., myself included, and ironically those are the women these types know they can't f*ck around with.

 

When are you going to be one of those no B.S. women? If a man wants to leave you, you help him pack and get on with things. You don't don't hang around like a lost puppy dog hoping that he'll change his mind about you.

 

SCAROO THAT.

 

Naw, I say if someone wants to leave you, you don't help him pack and get on with things. You throw their sh*t out onto the street and let them pick up the pieces, give them the finger and slam the door shut.

 

Now that's the only way to treat someone who decided that you're not worth fighting for:bunny:

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youngnlove89

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I get that she isn't "ready".

 

But like you, youngnlove, this man has dumped her MANY times and by hanging on she's setting the stage for history to repeat itself. She is making no attempt whatsoever to heal.

 

Believe it or not there ARE women out there who wouldn't tolerate such B.S., myself included, and ironically those are the women these types know they can't f*ck around with.

 

When are you going to be one of those no B.S. women? If a man wants to leave you, you help him pack and get on with things. You don't don't hang around like a lost puppy dog hoping that he'll change his mind about you.

 

SCAROO THAT.

 

"She is making no attempt whatsoever to heal."

 

She actually is. Although she, nor you, may realize it.

 

I didn't think I was either. But continuously throwing yourself into the "fire" and always walking out burned, does turn on a switch in your brain eventually, you become scarred and you began to wonder if what you are doing is reaping any sort of benefit. When you continously try to make something work with no benefits coming from it, you do eventually get tired of it. You do eventually get the hint. In a cruel way, albeit.

 

That is what happened to me. I had to hear him say it 1,000 itmes that I wasn't the one and had to sleep with him 100 more times to realize it wasn't going to make him come back. But that is what I had to go through unfortunately.

 

You eventually do learn a lesson and realize that, hey this fire is burning me and causing more harm than good, I need to stop now. It isn't till you have done everything you can do until you realize there is nothing left.

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LostGirl11

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This whole post in exasperating. It's crazy. She takes 2 steps forward and 50 back. When ever she hears from him she gets a high from it, and then she has a downer. Sounds like shes more addicted to him than in love to be honest.

 

Good luck Vicky :o

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Drseussgrrl

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You say you "had" to do this or that to finally get it through your head.

 

I disagree. You CHOSE to stick around long after these dimwits tell you that you're not the girl for them. You need to figure out why you don't CHOOSE YOURSELF over this nonsense.

 

I fell pretty hard for a guy over the summer. This is kind of a big deal for me, honestly. After three months of really awesome dates, concerts, time with our friends, etc. I finally asked if we were exclusive. He said he couldn't give me what I needed at the moment. So did I stick around for more of his ambiguous nonsense? HELL NO. Despite my very strong feelings toward him, I thanked him for his honesty and NEVER CONTACTED HIM AGAIN. Yeah it sucked and I thought about him non-stop for at least a month. I know I could have contacted him and had him back in my life on his terms. But that wasn't working for me. So I had to walk. And I did.

 

And now I'm doing SO MUCH BETTER and no contact has allowed me to heal from the whole sitch and feel proud that I didn't allow him to play with me anymore.

 

CHOOSE YOU!

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geegirl

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"But continuously throwing yourself into the "fire" and always walking out burned, does turn on a switch in your brain eventually, you become scarred and you began to wonder if what you are doing is reaping any sort of benefit. When you continously try to make something work with no benefits coming from it, you do eventually get tired of it. You do eventually get the hint. In a cruel way, albeit.

 

This behavior is what you call denial.

 

This behavior is you feeding the denial, (that's when you keep going back) until you get sick and tired of being sick tired, and (that's when the switch goes off in your head that you can't take it anymore).

 

What you describe above has nothing to do with healing.

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Vikki_26

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Your right I'm just too thick to let it sink in :-( back to feeling low again.

 

 

I met up at brands think I told you all on here? He left saying I love you. I then met up last week and he kept stroking my back, holding me etc. we ended up having sex. I left next morning and he said there is still hope for us. Yesterday I ask him if there still is and he said no after an argument, about Saturday. Then I sent him a text saying this....

 

I asked you the wrong question on the phone to answer . Ill ask one last time. Regarding our relationship. Do you A. Have no interest in getting back with Vikki. B. Would get back with Vikki now. Or C. Not now but there is hope as love her for the future. Please answer ...

 

C but complicated

 

 

 

What do I do guys? I'm so fed up of this but don't want to give u. I am scared of getting back and arguments again, so is he. He told me he still loves me the same as when we were together.

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