Mount Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 (edited) As always, I want to update my current situation with the MM. So far the A seems to be ended, remember I did not say NC, as we still have contact. And also this time the ending was initiated by MM at the most part after I have been ignored him and been distant last whole week. So today at work we talked a bit and the MM said he was sorry as he was only thinking of present and did not think through the future consequence that the A will bring to me and him. Although he loves me, misses me.., we maintain at professional level should be the best for both of us. I was totally fine about this and feel very relieved right now, and also told him that he does not need to say sorry that much, or apology accepted by me anyway. Let the past event (A) go anway. And interestingly he says he still loves his wife, but kept telling me that he suspects his wife having A about one year (he mentioned that a few time before as well). Then I keep telling him that he must be suspicious too much and he agreed that it could be his guilty. Guess this time the A finally is gone. But I feel interesting that why MM keeps saying sorry that much both in text msgs and in person spoken. Edited August 14, 2012 by Mount Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 Because he's sorry?!?! It doesn't mean he still wants to be involved with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mount Posted August 14, 2012 Author Share Posted August 14, 2012 (edited) That is correct, that is our goal, isn't it? We do want A to be ended and back to professional only. Otherwise I won't feel relieved either if I know A will be still continuing. I was saying why he said that much sorry because I was willingly engaged into A as well, not like he dragged me into affair. Because he's sorry?!?! It doesn't mean he still wants to be involved with you. Edited August 14, 2012 by Mount Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 I think you know the reason but maybe want someone else to say it... He feels sorry For you. Because he feels guilty for wasting your time, telling you lies, misrepresenting himself, or for using you to make him feel better about himself. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 Probably because he is sorry and does feel bad for all the rigmarole and realizes the whole thing was unfair. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mount Posted August 14, 2012 Author Share Posted August 14, 2012 Yes it might. :cool: And looking at it positively, the time we wasted was not too long....And honestly in my mind, do you think I don't know? Of course I knew, but I was willingly engaged in that behavior as well. So whom to blame? Forgot to mention, during our last meet-up, I asked him if we would have future or not, he either answered vaguely or tried to drag into other topic. I think it might ignite our affair's ending as well, because it would be very nightmare if the A was ended very badly between us, rather ending now between us politely and mutually, because we have to work together. I think you know the reason but maybe want someone else to say it... He feels sorry For you. Because he feels guilty for wasting your time, telling you lies, misrepresenting himself, or for using you to make him feel better about himself. Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 (edited) If you asked about a future together, he might feel genuinely sorry for you getting at that point and him hurting your feelings. No point in going back to clarify that "hey it wasn't intense for me" though... Edited August 14, 2012 by cutedragon Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mount Posted August 14, 2012 Author Share Posted August 14, 2012 Actually the affair was intense though, but ending now which is not that bad. If you asked about a future together, he might feel genuinely sorry for you getting at that point and him hurting your feelings. No point in going back to clarify that "hey it wasn't intense for me" though... Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/337441-i-have-honest-you-guys-non-intense-probably In your own words. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mount Posted August 14, 2012 Author Share Posted August 14, 2012 You have to look at based on time range. 2.5 months A, first month extremely intense, next month the A was at medium intense, and now it is ending amicably. The post was around the end of second month, is that clear? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/337441-i-have-honest-you-guys-non-intense-probably In your own words. Link to post Share on other sites
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