InAFog Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 To some people, Breck, the people that we meet in our lives and share meaningful experiences and emotions with MEAN SOMETHING! Of course everyone has the right to do as they please and pursue their own happiness. People also have the right and luckily enough the ability to lean on and have others lean on them during their rough patches. All of us here are trying to work through emotions in order to get to a place where we can be comfortable with periods in our life that have passed. Do you not ever look back at your life and the people who were in it and be grateful for them, the experiences and the lessons? That's where we're trying to get, and with a little support and shared experiences we'll all get there. Grow up and get over yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breck Posted August 30, 2012 Author Share Posted August 30, 2012 Don't you hate those PC updates that pop up and ask you "update now" or "remind me later"?? Don't you wish you could turn those stupid reminders off? That's what most people here are like. Reminders that you wish you had the option of perminantly disabling. Talk amongst yourselves.. Link to post Share on other sites
2muchlove Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 I think most people on here have valid points about all ends of the spectrum why can't we all just agree to disagree and take the advice of whomever we wish at any given moment? But in all seriousness... I ****ing hate those updates. Link to post Share on other sites
youngnlove89 Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 Don't you hate those PC updates that pop up and ask you "update now" or "remind me later"?? Don't you wish you could turn those stupid reminders off? That's what most people here are like. Reminders that you wish you had the option of perminantly disabling. Talk amongst yourselves.. Breck, I need your wisdom please!! You said you loved me right? Help me! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breck Posted August 30, 2012 Author Share Posted August 30, 2012 Breck, I need your wisdom please!! You said you loved me right? Help me! Give me the problem in a couple of sentences. I'll tell you what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
youngnlove89 Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 Give me the problem in a couple of sentences. I'll tell you what to do. My ex keeps coming back to me. He keeps giving me mixed signals. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breck Posted September 5, 2012 Author Share Posted September 5, 2012 I can't remember what it was that I came back here. I love being the dumper. You can't even remember who you dumped or why. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breck Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 This thread definitely needs to be revisited after seeing all the heartbroken n00bs. Link to post Share on other sites
Mike_d Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 This thread definitely needs to be revisited after seeing all the heartbroken n00bs. ya, the lack of testosterone in some of the new guys here is appalling. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AngrySmile Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 I get what you're saying. 4 years is a long time. My rule is an hour grieving for every month together, so 48 hours of grieving seems fair. Take 2 days after the breakup to make that shopping list. Then again, why even wait 2 days. You'll regret losing those 2 days in the future and you may have missed a bargain! Don't forget your discount club card and a blank check. Been reading this thread from the beginning. I've not been here long at all, what, 4 days? And I'm really at the fresh open wound phase, but I appreciate what Breck said back then. I still need to finish reading the thread. [left---read..read..] Finished... In a sense, everyone is showing support in a way that suits them. I've began remembering how I was before I met my ex--but I can't. I was still not a good person back then, I was literally fresh out of college and had nothing. I think we both jumped too fast and it sunk us. Oh I wake up still hurt and think about her alot of course, but ..I kinda likie that rule. The whole NC thing can't work for me-Her family is really cool and still likes me and stuff, and we're not on bad terms. The key here is that I know there's no hope left, and I just dropped it this morning. But damn, an hour for every month? That's 90 hours man, I don't have time for that. I'm sick of crying now >o! I think I read this at the right time. :/ Sick of this sad ****. I'm the best damn person in the world, and everyone keeps reminding me of it, so why the hell do I ignore it anymore? I keep putting other people first, and there were times I said I was just doing me, but even then I wasn't. I was just drinking horrendously (yeah I cut that out now.) and not doing anything but getting drunk and passing out on trains in NYC-waking up 9 hours later in a different part of the city (don't know how I lived so long...) Yeah I still love her, but honestly...I just had to drop the hope. She outgrew me, as she says. Fine. There are more than enough good memories, and I'm not gonna burn 7 years of photos away (never understood why people burn away good memories x_x Its not clinging to hope if you liked the time you had in Florida, sheezus!) But uhh being called out for "swag" earlier in the thread really had me laughing my face off. Harder than I laughed in a good while. So I'm going to say thanks Breck. Long ass road ahead, but its about damn time I scare the world once more. Link to post Share on other sites
Mike_d Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 bumping this thread, I think a lot of the guys who are not currently acting very "man"-like and instead are just being totally unattractive need to read this. Yes, you. You know who you are. Link to post Share on other sites
lovejoy41 Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 (edited) Wow... I've read this and you guys are going in! I don't want to get chewed up and spit out here. I'll just say this. I get what Breck is saying although it may have been the way it came across. I've been here since August and I admit when I came here I was pretty screwed up. I have been giving updates here and there and I usually try to include some words of encouragement or "tough love" if you want to call it that. Here's the thing though: We all grieve differently. I myself prefer to go through it. I tried just getting on with my life in the past and it landed me in the mess that I just came out of with this a**hole. What I'm doing is focusing on me and my issues before I move on to another. I am confident that there is someone out there for me though. So, I get it but I tell you I wasn't always at the place that I'm at now and coming here sadly but truthfully often spilling out my guts about the guy was a big help. Until I got to a place where I had to just totally break away from here and heal cold turkey. Today I'm doing great and I am moving on. So, I'll leave it at that. Even now there are times when I don't want to hear "Let it go", "Girl, f*ck him" even though it's the truth. This is just when I have one of those days & I'm venting that people will say that. Yet I know that I have to and already are moving on. It just takes time with people. I figure after a while people just get tired of hearing "anything" regarding your ex. So, that's my take on it. I think it's wonderful to encourage others but only you(dumper or dumpee) know when you are ready to move on. I can tell you all day long to move on but it's totally up to YOU. From what I've seen on here most of us will either make the choice of going backwards and learning the hard way or moving forward and reaping the benefits. Moving forward has brought me freedom, happiness, a clear head, peace of mind, and good nights of sleep. lol It has brought him a bit of karma & one less option, ME! So, I prefer that it stay that way. Of course I'm hurt, but never will I go backwards. I haven't seen too many reconciliations on here although it is possible. Most of them end up breaking up again though. It's taken me 2 1/2 months to do it but I'm going through it and I do feel better than I did 2 1/2 mos ago. Love is tough. You have to weigh your options and go from there. We don't know everyone's situation in detail. We just know what they post here. I personally can't or won't go back. I was totally disrespected, abused, and used. I see my future ahead with someone in a healthy happy relationship. I refuse to let him keep my power by NOT moving on. I mean heck, he's gone on with his live-in and living happily(or so it appears) so why shouldn't I?! No backtracking and crying over him anymore for me but to each his own. So we have to do what works for us but a little encouragement doesn't hurt when you convey it without offending anyone. I wasn't offended at all but I can't speak for everyone. You just have to choose your words carefully when it comes to "tough love" because some things could reopen wounds of a wounded person, especially when you're dealing with rejection. Edited September 29, 2012 by lovejoy41 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mike_d Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 great post LJ41, thanks for your perspective 1 Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 bumping this thread, I think a lot of the guys who are not currently acting very "man"-like and instead are just being totally unattractive need to read this. Yes, you. You know who you are. Being someone you are speaking of, i'm much happier to do that here then do it where my ex will know/see it...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breck Posted December 18, 2012 Author Share Posted December 18, 2012 Damn. I visit this place 3 months later and fools are still posting about 'should I wish her merry Christmas?' How are we ever gonna evolve as a species if we keep going round in circles? Ya dig? Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 Damn. I visit this place 3 months later and fools are still posting about 'should I wish her merry Christmas?' How are we ever gonna evolve as a species if we keep going round in circles? Ya dig? What's with going around in circles? NASCAR drivers make millions doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breck Posted December 18, 2012 Author Share Posted December 18, 2012 What's with going around in circles? NASCAR drivers make millions doing it. They're also dumbasses from the south and nothing intelligent comes from down there. The farther north you go in North America the smarter you get. Take Mexico and Canada. Damn Alaskans are all physicists up there. Link to post Share on other sites
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