This place feels like a graveyard!

[Tree_Salmon]

What does it matter how in love with himself he is?

 

We should all be in love with ourseleves.

 

This stuff IS truth. Every breakup should be a source of strength.

 

I live by this same code. I've been through all the intense pain of losing the "love of your life" but it only made me stronger.

 

People need to get this in their heads.

[Zammo25]

What does it matter how in love with himself he is?

 

We should all be in love with ourseleves.

 

This stuff IS truth. Every breakup should be a source of strength.

 

I live by this same code. I've been through all the intense pain of losing the "love of your life" but it only made me stronger.

 

People need to get this in their heads.

 

Yes they do and in time they will but a little subtlety and understanding would not go amiss. To have someone being so smug and making themselves out to be a better and stronger person is not going to help anyone.

[Breck]

Yes they do and in time they will but a little subtlety and understanding would not go amiss. To have someone being so smug and making themselves out to be a better and stronger person is not going to help anyone.

 

There's a red exclamation next to the topic title for a reason. Caution upon entering. There are a lot of kids that enter the military with emotional issues. Do you think they sit down and listen to everyone's problems in boot camp? No. They kick your butt into shape and train you to become an adult.

 

It helps to have a place where you realize you are not alone and other people are experiencing the same heartbreak. But I can't sit there and watch Johnny Heartbroken asking about a text he might have missed because his phone lost reception and how he's wondering if he should beg for his ex back or wait another 24 hours of NC. Get your swag on, celebrate her absence, and sleep with her friends. Live it up! If she has a retarded sister, piss on her face and then buy her an ice cream to keep her quiet.

[WeirdExs]

Breck is helping people out more on this forum than any other member that I've seen. He does it in a tough love way but that is what many of you need to hear. The fact that someone tried to insult him by saying that he's in love with himself is a joke. You SHOULD be in love with yourself, I'm in love with myself and as a result it has made me a stronger person.

[Zammo25]

There's a red exclamation next to the topic title for a reason. Caution upon entering. There are a lot of kids that enter the military with emotional issues. Do you think they sit down and listen to everyone's problems in boot camp? No. They kick your butt into shape and train you to become an adult.

 

It helps to have a place where you realize you are not alone and other people are experiencing the same heartbreak. But I can't sit there and watch Johnny Heartbroken asking about a text he might have missed because his phone lost reception and how he's wondering if he should beg for his ex back or wait another 24 hours of NC. Get your swag on, celebrate her absence, and sleep with her friends. Live it up! If she has a retarded sister, piss on her face and then buy her an ice cream to keep her quiet.

 

I have moved on mate and am dating an absolute hotty.

[Zammo25]

Breck is helping people out more on this forum than any other member that I've seen. He does it in a tough love way but that is what many of you need to hear. The fact that someone tried to insult him by saying that he's in love with himself is a joke. You SHOULD be in love with yourself, I'm in love with myself and as a result it has made me a stronger person.

 

It is called Narcissism. Not healthy overall.

[Zammo25]

• An obvious self-focus in interpersonal exchanges
  
• Problems in sustaining satisfying relationships
  
• A lack of psychological awareness (see insight in psychology and psychiatry, egosyntonic)
  
• Difficulty with empathy
  
• Problems distinguishing the self from others (see narcissism and boundaries)
  
• Hypersensitivity to any insults or imagined insults (see criticism and narcissists, narcissistic rage and narcissistic injury)
  
• Vulnerability to shame rather than guilt
  
• Haughty body language
  
• Flattery towards people who admire and affirm them (narcissistic supply)
  
• Detesting those who do not admire them (narcissistic abuse)
  
• Using other people without considering the cost of doing so
  
• Pretending to be more important than they really are
  
• Bragging (subtly but persistently) and exaggerating their achievements
  
• Claiming to be an "expert" at many things
  
• Inability to view the world from the perspective of other people
  
• Denial of remorse and gratitude
  

Yep. Reading that I think it just about covers it.

[2muchlove]

• An obvious self-focus in interpersonal exchanges
  
• Problems in sustaining satisfying relationships
  
• A lack of psychological awareness (see insight in psychology and psychiatry, egosyntonic)
  
• Difficulty with empathy
  
• Problems distinguishing the self from others (see narcissism and boundaries)
  
• Hypersensitivity to any insults or imagined insults (see criticism and narcissists, narcissistic rage and narcissistic injury)
  
• Vulnerability to shame rather than guilt
  
• Haughty body language
  
• Flattery towards people who admire and affirm them (narcissistic supply)
  
• Detesting those who do not admire them (narcissistic abuse)
  
• Using other people without considering the cost of doing so
  
• Pretending to be more important than they really are
  
• Bragging (subtly but persistently) and exaggerating their achievements
  
• Claiming to be an "expert" at many things
  
• Inability to view the world from the perspective of other people
  
• Denial of remorse and gratitude
  

Yep. Reading that I think it just about covers it.

 

You got all of this from a few of his posts?

[Drseussgrrl]

Well whatever you want to call it I'd much rather get my swag back and feel good about sh*t again than sit around overanalyzing every single breadcrumb being thrown my way. I got stuff to do and a life to live and if he doesn't want to be a part of it, tough titty.

 

PREACH.

[Zammo25]

You got all of this from a few of his posts?

 

I think I have pretty much nailed the guy.

[2muchlove]

I think I have pretty much nailed the guy.

 

I hope you wore protection.

[hinatticus]

Breck is helping people out more on this forum than any other member that I've seen. He does it in a tough love way but that is what many of you need to hear. The fact that someone tried to insult him by saying that he's in love with himself is a joke. You SHOULD be in love with yourself, I'm in love with myself and as a result it has made me a stronger person.

 

How many people has he helped vs how many people he's made feel worse. And you've been here since only this month! Unless you've read every thread on this forum!

 

And does his "help" work in the divorce/separation forum?

[Tree_Salmon]

I have moved on mate and am dating an absolute hotty.

 

Sensing a bit of narcissism here myself.

 

You didn't get the hotty by begging, did you?

 

The world isn't so soft and flowery. This is the truth. Why sugar coat your OPINION for anyone?

 

I didn't see a "must be kind and throw out flowery language" disclaimer here.

 

Don't get me wrong I sympathize with everyone who's been hurt here (including me). But cmon, we need some reality.

[Tree_Salmon]

How many people has he helped vs how many people he's made feel worse. And you've been here since only this month! Unless you've read every thread on this forum!

 

And does his "help" work in the divorce/separation forum?

 

Why is this discussion even happening?

 

Why are we talking about censoring certain posts?

 

Simply don't click on it or don't take the advice. I don't see the issue here.

[Zammo25]

Sensing a bit of narcissism here myself.

 

You didn't get the hotty by begging, did you?

 

The world isn't so soft and flowery. This is the truth. Why sugar coat your OPINION for anyone?

 

I didn't see a "must be kind and throw out flowery language" disclaimer here.

 

Don't get me wrong I sympathize with everyone who's been hurt here (including me). But cmon, we need some reality.

 

The guy assumes I am still crying into my beer over my ex. I decided that after the last split even though I posted a lot of pain on here I was not going to do that again and I am seeing a stunning Woman now. I have just not shoved it into people's faces. I mentioned this only as he assumed I am still a weak and pathetic person.

[Tree_Salmon]

The guy assumes I am still crying into my beer over my ex. I decided that after the last split even though I posted a lot of pain on here I was not going to do that again and I am seeing a stunning Woman now. I have just not shoved it into people's faces. I mentioned this only as he assumed I am still a weak and pathetic person.

 

Yeah...well ....i bet my hottie is better than yours!

 

Can we move on now?

 

Moral of the story:

 

get dumped--pick up balls-- get confident--hotties fight over you---profit

[hinatticus]

Why is this discussion even happening?

 

Why are we talking about censoring certain posts?

 

Simply don't click on it or don't take the advice. I don't see the issue here.

 

Who said anything about censoring?

 

I'm responding to breck calling me weak. Judge much?

 

Plus that dude that said he's helped more people on this forum than anybody else he's ever seen. He's been here since this month.

 

Don't get me wrong. Breck has valid points but they are not universal.

 

You're right tho. I'm done with this thread.

[Drseussgrrl]

Pretty much. I dusted myself off and tonight I have a second date with a hottie dude 5 years younger than me. LOL It's all in your confidence.

[Tree_Salmon]

Pretty much. I dusted myself off and tonight I have a second date with a hottie dude 5 years younger than me. LOL It's all in your confidence.

 

Yeah, I'll pick you up at 8 btw

[Zammo25]

Yeah...well ....i bet my hottie is better than yours!

 

Can we move on now?

 

Moral of the story:

 

get dumped--pick up balls-- get confident--hotties fight over you---profit

 

I agree with you on that. 3 years ago when my ex split up with me I was a basketcase. The last time earlier this year I thought " you know what ? I am a great bloke and if you can't see it someone else will " People like Flitzanu helped me with this process I have a lot of time for that guy. I went into the pool pretty quicky but at 50 I am short of time LOL and met a real hot woman. It may not last, most likely I will screw it up like I always do but I will enjoy the ride while it lasts as life is very short.

[Zammo25]

Pretty much. I dusted myself off and tonight I have a second date with a hottie dude 5 years younger than me. LOL It's all in your confidence.

 

Good for you. GO YOU

[WeirdExs]

You are right that I have only been here a month but his advice has been the best based on what I’ve read. It is spot on and what everyone should be listening to, even if you don’t appreciate in the manner it comes out. There are way too many people on this forum drooling over the fact that one of their ex’s sent them some breadcrumb “hey, how’s it going” after two months of No Contact or they are mopping around without even a remote understanding of why their ex broke up them or even that it might be good for them. As mean as that may sound, people don’t have enough confidence on this forum. All Breck is saying is that you need to have confidence and you need to love yourself to move on. Personally, I think that the reason why I keep on coming back to this site is because I want these people who are struggling to have more confidence like Breck. Maybe not go out there and sleep with their best friend (as one of his posts suggested) but to get your self-confidence back and get back out there.

[Breck]

Let me clarify what I mean by 'sleeping with their friends' as I can see where some of you are offended. I'm not telling you to sleep with one of your ex's friends. That's just dumb. I'm telling you to sleep with ALL of their friends. Go down the list. Belinda, Betty, Bonnie, Brandy.. save the A's until last just to confuse your ex.

 

Important: You should write all the friends' names down before you begin as you'll forget who your ex even was by the time you reach the M's.. and that would just confuse things.

 

Imagine your ex trying to organize a woman's week away. Well Monday doesn't work for Belinda because she has her strip tease class at Breck's, and Tuesday doesn't work for Betty because she has riding lessons with Breck, and Wednesday Bonnie can't make it because she has some hot yoga class, and Thursday Brandy has to stay in town..

 

OTHERWISE.. If you don't appreciate my advice, just check out the current topics. "I'm so dumb...I contacted him", "This is my glimmer of hope..", "Feeling Pathetic 1.5 months post BU", "NC or friends maybe?", "been acting kinda crazy" These aren't new posters on LS. These are members that received your advice and are making decisions they will later regret.

[Mike_d]

her friends are hags so that dog won't hunt, plus I don't want to remain in that circle of friends no matter how damaged they are. on to bigger and better. but not bigger as in fat chick, no slumpbusters for me

 

OTHERWISE.. If you don't appreciate my advice, just check out the current topics. "I'm so dumb...I contacted him", "This is my glimmer of hope..", "Feeling Pathetic 1.5 months post BU", "NC or friends maybe?", "been acting kinda crazy" These aren't new posters on LS. These are members that received your advice and are making decisions they will later regret.

if you could cure the significant levels of co-dependency in here the impact would be epic, but I'm as guilty as the rest, but I'm working my ass off to get out of it and not repeat this behav ever again in my life. co-dep is the number 1 impact of 99% of us in here

[Breck]

her friends are hags so that dog won't hunt, plus I don't want to remain in that circle of friends no matter how damaged they are. on to bigger and better. but not bigger as in fat chick, no slumpbusters for me

 

if you could cure the significant levels of co-dependency in here the impact would be epic, but I'm as guilty as the rest, but I'm working my ass off to get out of it and not repeat this behav ever again in my life. co-dep is the number 1 impact of 99% of us in here

 

So true Mike_d. People don't like my swagger and my insensitivity, but I have to see the Ex that dumped me long ago every week. I can't avoid her. I have to see her this Friday. And every time I see her she tries to make me jealous. It's my swagger that made it easier. Now I look forward to seeing her and being the obnoxious Breck we all love or hate. I celebrate our breakup. I make light of it with her. I wear t-shirts with her name on them.