hurting tonight Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 I'm not looking for advice, just a place to be able to put my feelings as I have no one to talk to. I just don't get why after 3 weeks, now I start missing him, dreaming about him, and feel empty, lots of anxiety. I admit how I would give anything just to day hello.I don't get why now, and before it didn't bother me as much. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Bailey14 Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 Probably because the numbness caused by the death of your relationship has worn off and has now been replaced by sorrow and sadness. I know after my sister died back in April I went through the motions for about 3 weeks and then the real grief set in. I began to deal with the finality of it all. The end of a relationship is the same. You are now dealing with everything you put aside for three weeks. I wish you well with your recovery. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurting tonight Posted August 14, 2012 Author Share Posted August 14, 2012 I thought I was done with my crying, and my emotions out of no where are crazy. I really miss him. For what's worth, I hope his life together, and he can fix things. I wish him happiness. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 I'm not looking for advice, just a place to be able to put my feelings as I have no one to talk to. I just don't get why after 3 weeks, now I start missing him, dreaming about him, and feel empty, lots of anxiety. I admit how I would give anything just to day hello.I don't get why now, and before it didn't bother me as much. Thanks. Hey hurting, Sorry for how you're feeling. The grieving of the end of a relationship/attachment is a bag of surprises and is a roller coaster. You have highs and lows and IME, there were lots of false alarms of being over it....then I'd come crashing down desperate to talk to the person, missing them, wanting to cry, waning to lock myself away etc. It's a process and you're gonna be neutral some days, happy some and incredibly depressed on others....it often goes on like that erratically, until it reaches equilibrium. Hang in here, the feelings will past. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happyface Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 Having the same problem at the moment after 18 months. We broke up Christmas 2010. Sunday will be his 71st birthday and as old as we both are, that attachment was still formed. It doesn't go away in three weeks or three moths. I am hoping in three years it might have faded. You will find that your feelings, now you have overome the numbness, will be very raw indeed for a while. I do hope things improve and my thoughts are with you, Happyface Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurting tonight Posted August 14, 2012 Author Share Posted August 14, 2012 To boot, I seen him today. Go figure. Link to post Share on other sites
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