Marry to grow old

[IHeartU]

I'm no expert, since i've never been married, but i have found it strange that people always say they want to marry the person to grow old with them. Then a few years later they divorce etc. never getting to grow old together.

 

My take is that you should take it day by day instead of looking too far into the future, as if growing old is a goal.

 

That's how i will approach it anyway, when the time comes.

[january2011]

For me, it's important to be able to visualise myself with my partner in later life. I've also found that when we take each day as it comes, there's a tendency to become short-sighted and we don't realise that our life goals are incompatible.

[Forever Learning]

I'm no expert, since i've never been married, but i have found it strange that people always say they want to marry the person to grow old with them. Then a few years later they divorce etc. never getting to grow old together.

 

My take is that you should take it day by day instead of looking too far into the future, as if growing old is a goal.

 

That's how i will approach it anyway, when the time comes.

 

Sounds good to me! It's probably a mix of enjoying the moment and planning for the future.

[RiverRunning]

I think it's a mix of both.

 

Some people are too guilty of looking at only the milestones (i.e., wedding day, growing old together, having a baby, etc.). Some people take the day-by-day to heart too well - to the extent that their marriage becomes a boring, mind-numbing prison.

 

A balance of taking interest in both is important. Understanding that the big events are wonderful to share with each other, but that there will also be many dull, monotonous, typical days in between - and that there's nothing wrong with that.