Boyfriend cheated, will he feel remorse?

[ellllllarose]

So I'll give you some background info. I want to keep it short but it probably won't be, please bear with me.

 

I just made this because i desperately need to understand what's happening. We've been together for a while and things have always been rocky but he always assured me that he loves me and nobody else and that we're going to be okay. In the past month I've been starting to change myself for this boy and I've been doing well but it seems to me that he checked out or something. He blew me off on our seven month anniversary to sleep over a girls house with another girl and his guy best friend. Those girls publicly made fun of me on Facebook and when I asked him to defend me he said no and that he didn't care enough to do so. So I did it myself. Then the next day he broke up with me but said he wanted to be friends who do all the same things we always did? a couple of days later I drove to his house and we sat on his step and we talked and talked and then we made love. He told me he loved me and wanted to spend his whole life with me and wanted nothing but a future with me. So I took him back. Then that night he blew me off again to go to the movies with a bunch of girls and he wouldn't tell me the truth, just kept playing it off like he cared about me and that he didn't want anything to happen to me if we hung out late at night. Until I finally got the truth out of him. Yesterday morning he was locked out of his house and it was pouring so he called me and I came and let him sleep in my car. When it stopped raining, we sat on the step and his stepdad came home and told him to tell me the truth of why he got his house key taken away. He had another girl over without their permission and cheated on me. Then he screamed in my face that I drive him crazy and I did this. That day I let him cry in my arms and I told him it was going to be all okay, that was before I knew. Now I feel so stupid. All I want to know is will he ever feel bad? I didn't even get an apology. Nothing. I've been nothing but good to this boy, I've never cheated and he knew that. So why did he? and will he ever try to come back? I don't want him to come back, I just want him to try. So I know I at least mean something. I'm so dumb.

[veggirl]

:eek::eek:

 

why do you let him treat you that way?

 

why do you want him back...???

 

what a loser. he will never give you what you want. 7 months and he has cheated (likely multiple times), screams at you, lets others berate you....

 

you are obviously extremely young. you need to get away from him asap and salvage what is left of your self esteem, you need to figure out why you put up with behavior like this. read thru LS a bit...you'll see women in their 20s and 30s who put up with this and far worse, you don't want to be like that...

[ellllllarose]

:eek::eek:

 

why do you let him treat you that way?

 

why do you want him back...???

 

what a loser. he will never give you what you want. 7 months and he has cheated (likely multiple times), screams at you, lets others berate you....

 

you are obviously extremely young. you need to get away from him asap and salvage what is left of your self esteem, you need to figure out why you put up with behavior like this. read thru LS a bit...you'll see women in their 20s and 30s who put up with this and far worse, you don't want to be like that...

I'm seventeen, he's eighteen. It hurts pretty bad, he's good with his words. I don't want him back, I just want to know that I meant something and deserve an apology. Which I probably don't.. obviously.

[GLDheart]

He is preying on your low self esteem. He will continue to do so until you stop letting him.

[veggirl]

17!!!

 

Ohh :( this is too sad.

 

I hope you never speak to him again. I hope you don't settle for anything like this again.

 

My advice to you is figure out what your boundaries are. Really sit down and think about what you want in a boyfriend, what behavior is and is not acceptable to you. And if someone does something on the "unacceptable" side of that...you leave.

 

Sorry that he did this to you. He's a loser, yes an apology would be nice but I doubt you will ever get one

 

as far as will he ever feel bad...maybe. I mean, when he is much older he may look back and cringe at the way he treated his HS gf but it won't be any time soon :-/

[venusianx13]

Please get on with your life and never, ever, ever change for a man. Don't compromise your values and trust your intuition. I'm sure you knew all along that something wasn't right with your boyfriend. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I was treated much the same way by a boyfriend when I was 17... and if it's any consolation, yes, that boy did come back and apologize, but I was wiser and happier without him and didn't give him the time of day when he reached out to me. Go your own way, love yourself, and enjoy life. I believe he will reach out to you, but I am confident you won't give a damn when he does.

 

PS- I know it hurts, but you WILL heal and get on with your life. I'm testament to that.

[pteromom]

All I want to know is will he ever feel bad?

 

Maybe. Maybe not. This doesn't matter though. You are much better off without him!

 

I didn't even get an apology. Nothing.

 

He's a cheater. He's a liar. He's mean. That's who he is. Hard to apologize when you can't see what you've done.

 

I've never cheated and he knew that. So why did he?

 

Because he had the opportunity.

 

and will he ever try to come back?

 

I hope not. Because I fear you will fall for it!

 

So I know I at least mean something. I'm so dumb.

 

You aren't dumb. We've ALL been there. Who cares if you mean something to him? This is about you now. What did you learn from this? Hopefully:

 

- Never change yourself for a guy. If he doesn't love you for who you are, move on.

- When someone treats you with anything less than respect at all times, move on.

- When someone shows you who he is, believe him.

- ALWAYS pay attention to actions. Anyone can say pretty words. But actions will show what they really feel and who they really are.