Goldfsh79 Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 So, I posted a few weeks back about exMM calling me 6 months later to say goodbye. Well, just recently he text me to remember to not call him. I am so confused!! The last time I CALLED HIM was over 6 months ago! I miss him and am slowly recovering, some days good, some bad, but I don't know why he is contacting me like this. It makes no sense. I have not initiated contact for so long. What is with him? Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorrigby Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 So, I posted a few weeks back about exMM calling me 6 months later to say goodbye. Well, just recently he text me to remember to not call him. I am so confused!! The last time I CALLED HIM was over 6 months ago! I miss him and am slowly recovering, some days good, some bad, but I don't know why he is contacting me like this. It makes no sense. I have not initiated contact for so long. What is with him? He's fishing. A text like that is purposeless except to get your attention. Link to post Share on other sites
j'adore Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 Me and my mm have just had a dday. Yesterday he told me i was coming on to him, (he was coming on to me). He told me I was following him (he was behind me). WTF I don't get this behaviour except they are so used to lying that they actually believe themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 It could have been his wife or maybe she requested he send it or he was fishing for a response from you. Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 Me and my mm have just had a dday. Yesterday he told me i was coming on to him' date=' (he was coming on to me). He told me I was following him (he was behind me). WTF I don't get this behaviour except they are so used to lying that they actually believe themselves.[/quote'] Wow j'adore...really? It appears he is so used to lying about you that he actually believes it. Well...now you know what he has been saying about you all along. Run away as fast as you can because he duped you. Sorry for th thread jack. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 So, I posted a few weeks back about exMM calling me 6 months later to say goodbye. Well, just recently he text me to remember to not call him. I am so confused!! The last time I CALLED HIM was over 6 months ago! I miss him and am slowly recovering, some days good, some bad, but I don't know why he is contacting me like this. It makes no sense. I have not initiated contact for so long. What is with him? He may be fishing for attention... Reminding you with a text not to call...ridiculous If there is a way to block his messages and calls you should and don't engage in his game playing and don't allow him to erode your progress with his silliness. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 Actually, after thinking about it more, he was fishing for a reaction from you. Responding in anger means you are still thinking about him a.k.a ego boost. Don't play his game and ignore him. Link to post Share on other sites
Ellin Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 Goldfsh this is incredibly odd and stupid. Like something out of a comedy. Is he the type pf person who likes to play games with people? Or attention seeker? In any case, it won't do you any good if you spend too much time trying to figure it out, because it will mean he will be on your mind a lot (maybe it was his purpose?), while it is better for you if he is on your mind as little as possible.. So I'd say ignore him in actions and try to do the same in thoughts.. All the best.. Link to post Share on other sites
Artie Lang Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 no offense, but if you're sooo over him... WHY DO YOU CARE! why are you letting it occupy headspace? Link to post Share on other sites
RickFox Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 Why? Mission accomplished. You're thinking about him all over again. He did what he set out to do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
East7 Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 So, I posted a few weeks back about exMM calling me 6 months later to say goodbye. Well, just recently he text me to remember to not call him. I am so confused!! The last time I CALLED HIM was over 6 months ago! I miss him and am slowly recovering, some days good, some bad, but I don't know why he is contacting me like this. It makes no sense. I have not initiated contact for so long. What is with him? 1 - Playing games OR 2 - Wife sent a message at his place (if a d-day). OR 3- Wants to protect his a$$ from being busted (maybe wifey has her doubts and controlling phone calls). Whatever the reason, it is either a childish or a selfish one. Not worthy to think about.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Goldfsh79 Posted August 16, 2012 Author Share Posted August 16, 2012 1 - Playing games OR 2 - Wife sent a message at his place (if a d-day). OR 3- Wants to protect his a$$ from being busted (maybe wifey has her doubts and controlling phone calls). Whatever the reason, it is either a childish or a selfish one. Not worthy to think about.. Well they are seperated so don't think it was her. I do think he is trying to hurt me. When we were together, I turned him down and told him we shouldn't talk and that we should say goodbye that I know (w his revenge personality) he is trying to make me hurt like I did him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Goldfsh79 Posted August 16, 2012 Author Share Posted August 16, 2012 I had told him to not call me before too when we were together. As I think more, I see how he tried harder with me and I resistef making him mad (he told me i did this) so this game playing is done in an attempt to hurt my feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
sleepie Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 My vote is game playing, too. And I agree with the "to get you thinking about him" thing. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 So, I posted a few weeks back about exMM calling me 6 months later to say goodbye. Well, just recently he text me to remember to not call him. I am so confused!! The last time I CALLED HIM was over 6 months ago! I miss him and am slowly recovering, some days good, some bad, but I don't know why he is contacting me like this. It makes no sense. I have not initiated contact for so long. What is with him? And I'll put this out there again, it doesn't matter what xMM is thinking. What matters is your husband. Wondering what the OM is thinking is continued disrespect of your H, and if you are worried so much about what MM is thinking, then set your husband free from you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 no offense, but if you're sooo over him... WHY DO YOU CARE! EXACTLY!! Her husband shouldn't have to put up with this. Link to post Share on other sites
Lamplight Posted August 19, 2012 Share Posted August 19, 2012 Cheating MM are usually just a bunch of crazies. Seriously, total nut jobs who get off on controlling and playing games with others. The next time he contacts you, tell him to take his crazy, psycho ass and get lost. They can't stand it when they lose control or when they are called out for being crazy. If he continues to contact you, report him. Link to post Share on other sites
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