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I have never cried due to a movie.

 

I have cried over losing family, ex's, and pets.

 

That is just me though.

 

To answer your question, crying is fine depending on what it is over and how often.

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good or wimpy?

 

Hes watching benjamin button/titanic/forrest gump and he cries.

Ive cried alone watching a couple different movies that really hit home for me and reminded me of tough times in my life. However, I didnt find any of the movies you mentioned to be sad at all.

 

Either way, most women I know appreciate a guy whos not afraid to show his emotions to her. The only people who still believe men cannot cry in front of women are wanna be macho lamers and bittchy women not worth your time. Most people wont fault you for getting connected to a movie and showing emotion though.

 

As Pyro said, its all about moderation...if someones crying all the time Id only understand if they went through something tough or traumatic...like a death of a loved one or a break up or something similar.

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I cried twice in the movie Up.

 

But other than that, I have never really had occasion to shed a tear. Although those homemade Youtube music videos of deployed military servicemembers coming home to loved ones sometimes get me teary eyed.

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I cried once watching a movie. When Ricky was shot in Boyz in The Hood. I was 10.

 

I'm not really much of a crier these days, for some reason. I don't know if girls are particularly turned off by a crying man, but I suspect if he cries over movies more than once, she might think it's a little odd, or just put it down to him being a bit over emotional.

 

Either way, I'm sure it depends on the girl. I don't really think it's wimpy, some people are criers.

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good or wimpy?

 

Hes watching benjamin button/titanic/forrest gump and he cries.

 

Good.

It's okay to be human.

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mortensorchid

Men crying? I've seen it, mostly when they are going to break up with me. Otherwise I have never seen men cry at anything like a sad movie or the like. But, I guess it doesn't make much difference to me if they did or didn't at another stimulus (like a sad movie).

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Huge, powerful events, like graduations, great speeches, and major sports triumphs get to me like that. I don't cry, I just tear up. I don't really know why. Something about the gravity of the situation.

 

I don't think a movie has ever made me cry.

 

Breakups will, but only after several days, when I finally realize the state I'm in.

 

My step-father's eulogy for my grandfather just about killed me.

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Movies rarely make me cry..though i did cry watching old yeller:lmao:

 

Seeing sick kids or thinking about or seeing something that reminds me of deceased family members or friends can give me tears..or for some reason seeing other people get emotional can get me emotional depending on the subject

 

Im not overly emotional but ive noticed now that im in my 30's[32] ive gotten more emotional..Maybe its because you can sense your owm mortality the older you get? or maybe you just mature and prioritize and look at things differently i dunno

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MercuryMorrison1

I'm not really a big crier myself. I've only cried during one break up. And I cried alone when my grandfather passed away back in 2008, and when I had to have my dog that I had for 15 years put to sleep.

 

So three times I can remember crying in my lifetime. I'll admit there have been a few movies in which I felt chocked up, but refrained from shedding tears.

 

Though I don't do it often, I don't think crying makes a man a wussie. Some men are just more in-touch with their inner emotions than others, alot of girls seem to appricate a man who can cry, assuming he doesn't do it all the time.

 

Crying all the time is unattractive...Doesn't matter if your a man or a woman...If you cry all the time about meaningless things then your just a cry baby and really need to toughen up a little.

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My dad taught me not to when I was little so I hold my tears back and I don't. But I can say gradually I might end up doing it sometime. You can't hide a big heart.

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MuscleCarFan

Hmmm, I think I cried when I almost gave up one of my cats.

 

As for movies, maybe get teary eyed, but never actually cried.

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Huge, powerful events, like graduations, great speeches, and major sports triumphs get to me like that. I don't cry, I just tear up. I don't really know why. Something about the gravity of the situation.

 

I don't think a movie has ever made me cry.

 

Breakups will, but only after several days, when I finally realize the state I'm in.

 

My step-father's eulogy for my grandfather just about killed me.

I didn't care to even get on the stage for my graduation (Master's). I was in the audience though cheering for one of my friends who also graduated along with me.:laugh: Major sports triumphs - yes and I also tear up, that's all. Breakups - their loss. I do not want anyone that doesn't want me. I feel no need to cry over them.

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The driveway in the rain scene between Tom Hanks and Helen Hunt in Castaway got me bad. The whole dynamic of love lost to apparent tragedy, then found again and to be unrequited was a huge emotional experience. That's SOP for my psychology and emotional temperament. I also can get emotionally weepy seeing a life-changing invention come to fruition, as an example of a different motivation. When I see something I've done change a person's life for the better, it moves me. My exW, and a substantial portion of other women I've been involved with, didn't particularly care for that side of me. Living is a strange beast sometimes. That said, I've found emotional honesty to be personally satisfying so can't see it changing, though I've toned it down around others, being far more stoic than in my younger years.

 

Good or wimpy? Depends on the observer's POV. I accept people as their authentic selves so I guess 'good' would be my opinion. Obviously, YMMV.

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Badsingularity

It's ok for a man to cry all he wants.

 

Just don't expect women to be turned on by it if it's all the time and over trivial things.

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Caius Ballad
I cried once watching a movie. When Ricky was shot in Boyz in The Hood. I was 10.

 

I'm not really much of a crier these days, for some reason. I don't know if girls are particularly turned off by a crying man, but I suspect if he cries over movies more than once, she might think it's a little odd, or just put it down to him being a bit over emotional.

 

Either way, I'm sure it depends on the girl. I don't really think it's wimpy, some people are criers.

 

No, it doesn't depend on the girl. Women in general are turned off by weakness in males no matter what the say.

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No, it doesn't depend on the girl. Women in general are turned off by weakness in males no matter what the say.

 

I've know women who are not.

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HeavenOrHell

Wrong. Being emotional doesn't = weakness.

 

 

 

No, it doesn't depend on the girl. Women in general are turned off by weakness in males no matter what the say.
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I've cried a few times during Forrest Gump. Funny you mentioned that movie. Tom Hanks is phenomenal, especially during the final scenes.

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