cipherblaze Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 (edited) I'm friends with a girl, but very confused about the nature of our relationship. We've technically known each other for about 5-6 years, but we were only casual acquaintances, never really saying more than a few sentences to each other during the few times we'd run into one another. Over a year or so however, we've grown very close and talk to each other all the time, though she currently lives in another state. I am quite attracted to her and would frequently flirt with her. She would in turn return my flirting, and do things like joke about us getting married, and telling me we should spend as much time as we can together alone when she returns to our hometown for a visit. We have our own unique nicknames for each other, and she also tried to convince me to move up to Colorado to be closer to her. I should also mention that she would do this while she has a boyfriend, but their relationship seems to be breaking apart as she mentioned to me they chose to break up, though they are still rooming together. I was quite convinced she was interested in me based upon the evidence, but one night about a week ago I texted her one of my usual flirtatious texts and she responding by laughing and then asking me if I knew we were just friends. I said that I did know we were just friends right now. (though I tried to keep it ambiguous, because I planned on revealing my feelings to her when she returns to our hometown in a month or so, when I could see her face to face). Since then we haven't spoke. After that I decided I should try to distance myself somewhat, because I didn't want to come off as needy. I'm not just hoping she'll start to miss me, but also for my own benefit, as being a little more distant might make it easier to manage if she rejects me. It's already been a week, but I just don't know how to proceed. Should I keep from trying to contact her for another week, 2 weeks? I'm hoping she'll try to get in touch with me if she truly values me, otherwise I feel like I'm having to do all the work in maintaining this relationship. She seems like she's never on Facebook for me to talk to anymore though we used to I'm all the time, though she was returning almost all of my text messages up until the event I described. Maybe she's just busy or something, but I'm worried she doesn't really value me for me and is just using me for her own ego. Even if she does like me as a friend, what about the flirting and such? What was that about? I'm getting very mixed messages and I'm very confused and frustrated. If anyone has any advice on when I should try reaching out to her again or what I should say, it would be most appreciated. Edited August 16, 2012 by cipherblaze Link to post Share on other sites
chickydoodle Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 Why wait so long to contact her? She broke up with her boyfriend right? I don't think you should create so much distance. Could backfire on ya. What if she thinks you're not interested? Link to post Share on other sites
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