Author Dog Woman Posted August 31, 2012 Author Share Posted August 31, 2012 (edited) I've just very quickly skimmed through this...but I've got a question. If you and your H are truly seperated and in the process of divorce, no possibility whatsoever of reconciliation... ...then why is it that you don't/can't remain in contact with xOM? Unless he's married, it doesn't seem like there's a barrier preventing interaction anymore. Or have I missed something I should have read? He's still married so I have to keep my distance and I just feel so helpless. He's tried to reassure me by saying he'll be okay and I'm not to worry but at times I just can't get him out of my thoughts though I'm trying hard to put him to the back of my mind. Edited August 31, 2012 by Dog Woman Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dog Woman Posted September 1, 2012 Author Share Posted September 1, 2012 Or could it be that God does not exist and the poor man is just unlucky? It's pretty normal to feel bad about anybody, even a stranger's having cancer, even more so if it's a person we once loved. Dear Dog Woman, you are doing what you can, just being friendly and compassionate. Hope you'll feel better soon. Hugs. Thanks. I'm sure things will get better for me. I've just got mixed feelings at the moment. Part of me is aware I have to let go of him and move on but I just can't help feeling helpless. If I need further support with this, I'll post on the 'coping' topic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dog Woman Posted September 5, 2012 Author Share Posted September 5, 2012 Have decided to go completely NC with OM. A brief encounter with his wife last night has made me realise that he's been very economical with the truth. I sent him a very general text last night in response to a one he sent me. They response I got was from his wife. She had either checked his phone or was using his phone and wanted to know who I was. I apologised for sending the text in error to her husband and that it was meant for someone else. She seemed to accept that and explained that she thought at first he was playing around. He obviously has a history of this for her to jump to that conclusion straight away. I said I had made a mistake and apologised for bothering her and that his number would be deleted from my phone so I didn't make the same mistake again. So, if he has grief from her over the text then I'm not sorry because he hasn't been honest with me. As far as I am concerned now, I just want to forget him. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 Sadly, this specific episode sums it up. How can anyone truly expect someone who will deceive their spouse, to be completely open, honest and transparent with them? if they deceive in one direction, the unfortunate chances are that they will deceive in the other, as well. QED. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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