RAA Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 Hi, How i deal after cheating him,,I started conversations with him on face book.at that time i was using a fa ke id..Which i made just for fun with frnds,combine id...I told everything about me,,,,,,fake details,i m sach sick person,,i told him that i m doctor,,,my parents are not in this world,,,my family is like n ideal one,,,,,,,,,my family is ideal,but what i told him is like fairy tales...Anyways as timegoes on,,after 2 months i got injured in accident n my friend told him about that,he become so worried and like a mad person he decided to come to my city to see me..All his actions,,,,conversation with my friend,,,my friend told me when i got my senses back,,at that time,,,,,,i fell somthing in my heart,,,Before that i use to ignore him,,he always complains,but after that i started loving him,,,BUT,,,,I do 1 thing wrong that instead of telling him truth i continued with that fake identity,now its 9 months relationship,,,many times we met,,,,,he is mad after me,n i too,He is a very honest person,,emotional,i want to spend my whole life with him,,,,Fromlast 3months m in strong depression that how can i disclose all that,,he will hate me,,he will leave me,,I can do this that,i couldnt tell him,,n disconnected with him,but my heart n mind is all the time blaming me,i want peace,plz tell me,,,,,,,,,,what can i do,,,,,,,,,,,,plzzzzz Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 RAA, You have no viable choices here. Either tell him the TRUTH and risk losing him and if so, start moving on, or keep lying and that will only postpone the first option. Sorry, RAA, but you really dug yourself a hole here. Good luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 Have you ever seen a therapist? Sounds like you could be a pathological liar. I'm not judging..it is an illness..but you should seek help for it just like any other illness. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
not-a-drive-by Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 You need to tell him the truth. He will find out the lies sooner or later. It's better that it comes from you than him finding it out from other sources. By then, you won't stand a chance of getting him back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RAA Posted August 17, 2012 Author Share Posted August 17, 2012 RAA, You have no viable choices here. Either tell him the TRUTH and risk losing him and if so, start moving on, or keep lying and that will only postpone the first option. Sorry, RAA, but you really dug yourself a hole here. Good luck. >....U r rite,,,,,,,,,if istart moving on,what would be the end,some day things willbe clear,i want to tell him.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author RAA Posted August 17, 2012 Author Share Posted August 17, 2012 RAA, You have no viable choices here. Either tell him the TRUTH and risk losing him and if so, start moving on, or keep lying and that will only postpone the first option. Sorry, RAA, but you really dug yourself a hole here. Good luck. Thx,,,soccerrprp,,,,,,As i m a big liar,,,,,,,,,,,i hate myself,it is so easy for me that i tell him1 more new story n leave him,,,,,,but i want him,,,i want to tell him truth,,,,,,,,from last 3 months,,,,,,but feeling helpless that from where i take start,,,,,,, Link to post Share on other sites
Author RAA Posted August 17, 2012 Author Share Posted August 17, 2012 not-a-drive-by.frm where i could take start,,,,,,,,,plz,its my fault that i lie,,,,,,but now i cant live without him,,,,,feeling sohelpless Link to post Share on other sites
Author RAA Posted August 17, 2012 Author Share Posted August 17, 2012 Good intentions do not always bring about good outcomes, but negative intentions often succeed at bringing about the worst.so i want to tell him,,,,just tell me how i tell him truth,plz:(:(:( Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 One work on your English. Second tell him the truth for the longer you wait the worst things become. There is a good chance this can be salvaged. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 One work on your English. Second tell him the truth for the longer you wait the worst things become. There is a good chance this can be salvaged. First, English might not be her first language..if that's the case, then she's doing just fine. Second, people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. It's worse, not worst. Also, it's either First and Second or One and Two. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 Yeah, you need to tell him. First, you told him you were a Doctor. It's definately unethical but also could be illegal. It would be considered fraud to present yourself as an MD when you're not. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 >....U r rite,,,,,,,,,if istart moving on,what would be the end,some day things willbe clear,i want to tell him.... If you want to tell him, it is as simple as telling him. Do it in person and do it soon. Tell him everything and don't minimize it or hide anything. Don't blame him. Tell him you are sorry and that you will do whatever it takes for him to trust you again. People make mistakes, sometimes big ones. Give him a chance to forgive you and then earn it. It may be a dealbreaker for him. If so, you will have to move on. If that's the case, it was going to happen eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 You told him you were a doctor ? LMAO. What if he asked you medical advice. I can just imagine where that would go. Link to post Share on other sites
not-a-drive-by Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 not-a-drive-by.frm where i could take start,,,,,,,,,plz,its my fault that i lie,,,,,,but now i cant live without him,,,,,feeling sohelpless Are you still suffering from depression? If so, you need to seek help first. The relationship may eventuate to nothing after you tell him and it might make your condition worse. Like BetrayedH said, you need to tell him in person. Not over text, chat or phone. MUST be in person. Find a quiet place where there are no distractions and tell him the truth. It'll be hard for him to accept and he may need some time to digest it all. One thing you should keep in mind, you've destroyed the trust in the relationship. Even if it works out, you will have a lot to work on to maintain this relationship as he will often have doubts whether you are telling the truth or lying to him. My ex broke my trust when he was smoking behind my back. He had no guts to tell me and I found out on a medical report when he injured himself, one year into our relationship! I was distraught, flipped out and almost broke up with him for hiding it from me for a YEAR. But I loved him, and he promised to quit. Although he promised, it has always been on the back of my mind. I do believe he hasn't gone back smoking since that day. Not the reason why we broke up now, but hey, just letting you know, it's never quite the same after the trust is broken. Link to post Share on other sites
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