Gmoney298 Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 I'm 26 and she's 21. Her and i dated for a year and we broke up after a fight. I later found out she had cheated on me and things went to no contact between us. Shes dating the guy she cheated on me with and has been with him for 5 months.A few weeks ago we talked for the first time in 6 months, it was refreshing but just a simple convo. The next week she wanted to meet up and have some drinks and we ended knocking boots. Her bf was in Colorado and has no idea; the next week we did the same except in a hay field while he was at work. For my birthday she sent me some good pics and said she wants to do it one last time and then be good to her man. She's told me she loves me and misses me and sometimes contemplates breaking up with him. Yesterday they got into a fight and she said she broke up with him for being so controllig; making her ask for permission before she can go anywhere and was going to move her stuff out; she said she wanted to see me but I had to work that night. So we made plans to see each other Saturday. However after reading Facebook I see that their still going on their cruise next wknd and things look as nothing's changed. Do I'm waiting to see how Saturday goes, if she comes over or not. I love the girl and it's stupid to say but I would take her back if she would. I just want people's opinions Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 Be with a woman who can happily have sex with two guys? That makes her a serial cheater. she cheated on you, she cheated on him... What was the question, again.....? Seriously - ?! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gmoney298 Posted August 17, 2012 Author Share Posted August 17, 2012 I guess the question is; is she playing me? Using me for her guy when things aren't going so well her; or is she possibly contemplating getting back together? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 Does it matter what she's doing? forget trying to work her out! What matters is whether you want to get back together with a woman who lied to you, lied to him, and lied to you - again. she sleeps around, and does things to achieve things to her own ends.... No matter how great the sex is - is this the kind of relationship you think you'd be content in? Link to post Share on other sites
all_hail_me Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 If you took her back, she would cheat on you again. I think you need to get away from this girl, she has toxic tendencies and a taste for sleeping around. Cuckold much? Link to post Share on other sites
GLDheart Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 This girl is flawed. Yuck. If you like hitting it as just a piece of @$$ then fine, but beyond that she's pretty worthless. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 To quote a passed post from GLDheart. Two words: "....wow..... ....run........" Dude, you went from being the boyfriend to the other man. She's cheating on her current boyfriend with you. And now she states that she "broke up" (which I don't believe) with her current boyfriend because he's too controling. I buy this, he wants her to check in with him, tell him where she's going.....Gee, I wonder why? He knows somethings up. There's a change in her behavior every since she started to hook up with you. AND he knows how he got her. By having her cheat on you with him! Therefore, he doesn't trust her. Time to move on dude. Write her off. Remember, she cheated on you. Now, she's cheating on him. I think you can do better than her. And I think you know it too! Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 I'm 26 and she's 21. Her and i dated for a year and we broke up after a fight. I later found out she had cheated on me and things went to no contact between us. Shes dating the guy she cheated on me with Do I'm waiting to see how Saturday goes, if she comes over or not. I love the girl and it's stupid to say but I would take her back if she would. I just want people's opinions My opinion is if you get back with her, then you are gonna get exactly what you asked for. A cheater. And of course her current bf doesn't want her going anywhere. He knows she is a cheater too and he should have realized that when she was cheating on you with him. What did he think? That she was a great girl? And here she is going to use him for a cruise and probably dump him afterwards. Ya, she's a real catch. So again, if you get back with her, you asked for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted August 17, 2012 Share Posted August 17, 2012 I guess the question is; is she playing me? Using me for her guy when things aren't going so well her; or is she possibly contemplating getting back together? ummm she cheated on you, dumped you for the guy she cheated with, cheated on him with you, is ready to dump him (or so she says), all the while whilst going on a cruise while you wait for the sign she'll come back to you...because you love a girl who cheated on you, left you for another man and is offering you scraps in a hay field. No she's not playing you, you wait for her, she'll be worth it in the end, I can tell she's a lovely girl. Link to post Share on other sites
foralittlerespect Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 Whooooa. Is she playing you....? Girls like her play EVERYBODY to get what they want and guys like you enable her to do so. Don't be surprised if there is a third or fourth guy in this mess!! Maybe she's hot or whatever but sounds Like that is all she's got to offer, in fact I'm sure of it. She needs help to sort out her daddy issues...and OP, puhleeze do us all a favor and don't get back with her...if you do you'll be back on this forum in no time updating us on her serial cheating. Also, remember that there are girls out there that are both incredibly hot and faithful by desire. Fall madly in love with one of them! Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 ummm she cheated on you, dumped you for the guy she cheated with, cheated on him with you, is ready to dump him (or so she says), all the while whilst going on a cruise while you wait for the sign she'll come back to you...because you love a girl who cheated on you, left you for another man and is offering you scraps in a hay field. No she's not playing you, you wait for her, she'll be worth it in the end, I can tell she's a lovely girl. Hang on.... wait.....no, don't tell me.....I got it... That's sarcasm - right....? Damn, I'm good - !! Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 Hang on.... wait.....no, don't tell me.....I got it... That's sarcasm - right....? Damn, I'm good - !! There's a spot waiting for you on CSI Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 Which one...NY? Miami? LV? I'm particular..... Link to post Share on other sites
bac Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 I guess the question is; is she playing me? Using me for her guy when things aren't going so well her; or is she possibly contemplating getting back together? IMO Yes, she is a player because she washes brains two or maybe a few more guys. It is so easy to figure out the things. Let her know that if she wants you back she has to break up with her BF openly. But, if you can see the real facts about her, she is 21 and she wants to have some fun with multiple men. Who can blame her for that if she is just 21? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 IMO Yes, she is a player because she washes brains two or maybe a few more guys. It is so easy to figure out the things. Let her know that if she wants you back she has to break up with her BF openly. But, if you can see the real facts about her, she is 21 and she wants to have some fun with multiple men. Who can blame her for that if she is just 21? All the guys can blame her, that's who.... If she were to openly say.... "You know what, guys? I'm young, and I'm into fun. I won't commit to any of you, and just so's you know, I intend seeing you all, if that's what you want, and if I want to sleep with all of you, I will. The choice is yours, take me or leave me, but don't tie me down - I'm way too young, and I prefer to be a free agent and live my life the way I want to. If that doesn't float your boat, I'm ok with that, no problem. but that's the deal." ...Then that would be one thing. But she hasn't. she's being deceptive, using guys for what she can get and cheating left right and centre - all the while apparently keeping these guys at arm's length and playing with their emotions. So yes. She can be blamed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gmoney298 Posted August 19, 2012 Author Share Posted August 19, 2012 So here's the funny ****; more like kinda devilish. This whole situation is based on the thought that I won't tell her boyfriend; him an I have kicked it twice before back in the day and him I hot the **** about her cheating on me then messing around on him while they were talking (not bf/gf). It's kinda an idea that I could send him all the pics and texts he's sent me and let him know that she's ****ing another guy (me). He's the one who actually told me that she's was cheating on me with him. Talk about BALLS! Anyways I know if I do it I'll probably end up with some flat tires and busted windshields. But I'm still contemplating it. I'm now looking at this girl as a booty call; she's hurt me too much in the past to salvage anything. But do I tell the guy and ruin my wave riding or do I just let the pieces of the puzzle fall for themselves? He's supposedly saving for an engagement ring! After only dating her for nearly 6 months. Save the guy some money or say **** him? Link to post Share on other sites
lovejoy41 Posted August 19, 2012 Share Posted August 19, 2012 (edited) No GMoney, just go ahead and let that mess go. I mean really paying back evil for evil is only going to make matters worse for you. If you really want revenge, cut this trife of a female loose & move on with your life. If you ask me she's not even worth a booty call and continuing to screw her doesn't make you any better than the guy she cheated on you with. Furthermore, even if you did use her as a booty call can you really handle the fact that she'll be doing both of you? Sounds to me like you still have feelings for her and a booty call will only spell disaster. I think it's quite disgusting to be sexing two men like that. I'm not judging, I'm just saying. This guy got her through her cheating on you, so why would you do him any favors by telling him about this other than to selfishly hurt him? I know you want revenge but think about the trouble this could bring your way. Trust, I've told my ex's gf about what he was doing with me and it made absolutely no difference. As far as I know they're still together. Why? Because I'm sure he told her some crap about me. Hell, that didn't even stop him from trying to come back around me. As I said on someone else's thread, at the least it might've sparked an argument which is why he came running back to me. And to think I was foolishly taking him back. smh I finally used the brain that God gave me and simply walked away & guess who tried texting me afterwards? He did! The point is, simply walk away. Besides that, it's going to make you look childish and chances are she'll patch it up by telling her bf that you're nuts and that you're just trying to break them up. Let this guy feel some of what you felt now that she's all his. She is now his problem, not YOURS. Edited August 19, 2012 by lovejoy41 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 19, 2012 Share Posted August 19, 2012 So here's the funny ****; more like kinda devilish. This whole situation is based on the thought that I won't tell her boyfriend; him an I have kicked it twice before back in the day and him I hot the **** about her cheating on me then messing around on him while they were talking (not bf/gf). It's kinda an idea that I could send him all the pics and texts he's sent me and let him know that she's ****ing another guy (me). He's the one who actually told me that she's was cheating on me with him. Talk about BALLS! Anyways I know if I do it I'll probably end up with some flat tires and busted windshields. But I'm still contemplating it. I'm now looking at this girl as a booty call; she's hurt me too much in the past to salvage anything. But do I tell the guy and ruin my wave riding or do I just let the pieces of the puzzle fall for themselves? He's supposedly saving for an engagement ring! After only dating her for nearly 6 months. Save the guy some money or say **** him? Bear this in mind: When you try to s.hi.t on someone, you're the one that stinks first. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gmoney298 Posted August 22, 2012 Author Share Posted August 22, 2012 So she didn't come over Saturday; and they got back together. She said he flipped out tho and punched holes in the wall then finally broke down and cried. I know she loves him but I don't think she's in love with him? Any opinions? Last night will probably be the last time I speak to her for a good bit; till she hits me up which will probably be never. Oh well; hopefully the Army works out for me. Link to post Share on other sites
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