Women who put topless pics online

[rainfall]

Would it surprise you to meet a person who was an exotic dancer, married, and faithful? I lived it for two years. Never came even close to having sex with anyone other than my husband.

 

 

Yep it sure would surprise me, since a big part of an exotic dancer's job involves taking her clothes off and dry-humping strangers.

There are ways to cheat besides just having sex with someone esle.

[sally4sara]

Yep it sure would surprise me, since a big part of an exotic dancer's job involves taking her clothes off and dry-humping strangers.

There are ways to cheat besides just having sex with someone esle.

 

Never dry humped a stranger. Not all exotic dancers work on a pole in a club with private rooms.

 

The lap dances some give would be cheating if the relationship did not allow for it. But I met girls who were in relationships with men with a different expectation and they followed those expectations. The percentage of one's who did not follow those expectations were pretty comparable to non dancer people and how often cheating happens for them. If someone can meet expectations in a relationship then they are able to respect relationship boundaries. Relationship boundaries vary and the variance isn't a weight of honor. Its the ability to live up to whatever you and someone else agree to that is a weight of honor.

[kaylan]

And those two guys are hot as hell, I might add!

 

Thank you, two hot guys.

Lmao I lol'd

 

This is like what I was saying before. People like seeing the goods, and haters gonna hate.

 

I see no issue in showing people what you are working with as long as it isnt nudity. Ive been in the gym myself, and once I get back into OLD, you know damn well Im gonna let girls know I take care of my body.

Would it surprise you to meet a person who was an exotic dancer, married, and faithful? I lived it for two years. Never came even close to having sex with anyone other than my husband.

You obviously take issue with the perception people have of women who take their clothes off for attention. Look, fact of the matter is that many women who used to do the work you did arent the most quality type of women and most guys wouldnt date them. Blame the women for that.

 

Enough guys (and gals) can tell you stories about those kinds of girls....so in the end you may be a great lady, but you arent the model for who an exotic dancer is as a woman. Thats just reality.

Edited August 17, 2012 by kaylan

[It's Just Me]

Relationship boundaries vary and the variance isn't a weight of honor. Its the ability to live up to whatever you and someone else agree to that is a weight of honor.

 

Yeah, and for some guys, showing your boobies to half the world on the internet (when you're not getting paid for it) is a boundary that shouldn't be crossed. You may not like it, but that's how some people think. Deal with it - to each their own.

 

I know you're probably tired of being judged for what you do, and I get it. But it's kinda silly for you to be judgmental when you're exhibiting precisely the same behaviour.

[MrNate 2.0]

I think I have some topless pics lurking out there..can't remember where I submitted them, though.

[mesmerized]

So with a bra it's ok?

[veggirl]

So with a bra it's ok?

 

Tacky. Posing in your undies online is just tacky. Guy or girl.

[mesmerized]

Tacky. Posing in your undies online is just tacky. Guy or girl.

 

I'd never do that personally for public to see, but I don't know why you guys are all so conservative. Who cares? if one wants to show off, let them show off!

[veggirl]

I'd never do that personally for public to see, but I don't know why you guys are all so conservative. Who cares? if one wants to show off, let them show off!

 

I'm hardly "conservative" but yeah I think it's trashy to be posting pictures of yourself in underwear or naked online for the world to see. Not to mention flat out stupid to do considering employers, your children, grandparents, etc could see it. I mean really...that's too conservative? I don't give a crud really if other people wanna do it, I just wouldn't date someone who did that stuff. Reeks of attention-whoreness and immaturity. I mean really. Unless you're like 19, I'm not sure how this could be confusing to understand.

[mesmerized]

I'm hardly "conservative" but yeah I think it's trashy to be posting pictures of yourself in underwear or naked online for the world to see. Not to mention flat out stupid to do considering employers, your children, grandparents, etc could see it. I mean really...that's too conservative? I don't give a crud really if other people wanna do it, I just wouldn't date someone who did that stuff. Reeks of attention-whoreness and immaturity. I mean really. Unless you're like 19, I'm not sure how this could be confusing to understand.

 

wow, you are being extremely judgmental! It's actually kind of funny. They are not harming anyone. It's their body and they do with it as they please. What if one posts a nude picture that's very classy, not a playboy type nude? You'd still call that trashy?

[kaylan]

There was a time a few years ago where I was in just a towel. Wouldnt do that again. I wouldnt do underwear either. Id do shirtless in shorts or a bath suit =D. Though tbh...underwear is the only thing where I can show on my legs as well =P

[rainfall]

wow, you are being extremely judgmental! It's actually kind of funny. They are not harming anyone. It's their body and they do with it as they please. What if one posts a nude picture that's very classy, not a playboy type nude? You'd still call that trashy?

 

 

I think its extremely trashy. Why would you want to send out that idea that you are that kind of person? People should have more self respect for their body then to post a naked picture online for everyone to see. Nude picture online for everyone to see and classy are two words that just don't go together.

[veggirl]

wow, you are being extremely judgmental! It's actually kind of funny. They are not harming anyone. It's their body and they do with it as they please. What if one posts a nude picture that's very classy, not a playboy type nude? You'd still call that trashy?

 

well I guess I'd need to see what is considered a classy nude picture? I mean I get what you're saying, kinda, but the point I am trying to make is that generally splashing nudes all over the internet is not a great idea. Like really.

 

I didn't say it is harming anyone--other than perhaps the person they are of. and like I said, I don't care if people wanna do it, that's their perogative, but really yeah I think it's pretty trashy. how judgemental of me I'm not telling anyone else what to do, people can post pics of their bodies all they want, whatever. It doesn't affect me, but no I wouldn't do it and whats so wrong with thinking it's trashy? I think plenty of things are trashy... that happens to be one of them.

 

glad I could make you laugh though.

[kaylan]

^I went to a school with a fairly high ranked Arts department. And I can assure you that nude modeling can be very classy and respected.

 

They put pictures in the library lobby on large display one semester.

[mesmerized]

I think its extremely trashy. Why would you want to send out that idea that you are that kind of person? People should have more self respect for their body then to post a naked picture online for everyone to see. Nude picture online for everyone to see and classy are two words that just don't go together.

 

Ok grandma. Just curious, do you feel comfortable with your naked body? Do you enjoy looking at yourself in the mirror when naked? Be honest.

[kaylan]

Back to the main topic though. Theres a good and a not so good way I believe, to show off your body online. You can give a picture or two to show off your goods and fitness level in a non slutty, or non attention begging way.

 

A simple beach picture or a picture after going to the gym will do. I have friends who take after gym pics and then add the caption "gym flo" to it. I respect people who take care of and enjoy their bodies.

[rainfall]

Ok grandma. Just curious, do you feel comfortable with your naked body? Do you enjoy looking at yourself in the mirror when naked? Be honest.

 

 

I feel fine with my body and enjoy looking at myself and enjoy letting my boyfriend look at it. However I am not trashy, I am not going to let 100s of random strangers look at me naked because I am desperate for attention and need the ego trip of spawling out naked for random men to look at.

[veggirl]

^I went to a school with a fairly high ranked Arts department. And I can assure you that nude modeling can be very classy and respected.

 

They put pictures in the library lobby on large display one semester.

 

art is not at all what the OP is about though. The OP and my comments are referring to a person taking self photos of themselves naked and sending them to people or just randomly posting online.

 

So if mesmerized and sally4sara were referring to ART this whole time... well thats not what the OP was about and not what I was refering to.

[mesmerized]

^I went to a school with a fairly high ranked Arts department. And I can assure you that nude modeling can be very classy and respected.

 

They put pictures in the library lobby on large display one semester.

 

Exactly. People who are so against nudism make me laugh, I feel like they're out of touch with their nature. When I see people nude I always think about how we are all basically the same thing despite how different we'd like to think we are. It actually gives me a sense of unity with other people.

[kaylan]

I wouldnt feel shame in sharing a before and after pic in my profile to show women how much fitness means to me. Theyd get the picture about how Im sporty and active, and would like the same ina foxy female package.

 

And I wouldnt shame someone for doing the same or for reveling in their sex appeal. Let them enjoy it. Lord knows it helps more then hurts them. As long as a profile has substance, and the body shot isnt your default pic, then most people arent going to care that you have a pic up thats captioned "Well hey, I had to add this just so you get an idea of what you might get with me =)"

 

A couple pics arent going to negate everything in a well written profile. Especially if a girl makes it known shes looking for a relationship, and is loyal, and down to earth.

art is not at all what the OP is about though. The OP and my comments are referring to a person taking self photos of themselves naked and sending them to people or just randomly posting online.

 

So if mesmerized and sally4sara were referring to ART this whole time... well thats not what the OP was about and not what I was refering to.

I made my point about art because mesmerized brought up classy nudity. I was just saying that nudity can be classy and tasteful. I wouldnt expect to see it on an online dating profile because its against the rules anyways....art or not. Save the nudity for private picture sending. If people want to send them privately...then thats on them.

 

Most women dont do that though....and a hell a lot of more men send tactless nudity shots to girls than the other way around. But anyways, like I said...it wont be on a profile because those kinda shots get a profile banned.

Edited August 18, 2012 by kaylan

[It's Just Me]

wow, you are being extremely judgmental! It's actually kind of funny. They are not harming anyone. It's their body and they do with it as they please. What if one posts a nude picture that's very classy, not a playboy type nude? You'd still call that trashy?

 

People can do whatever they want. It's fine if the person doing it isn't expecting average people to find it attractive. What makes it funny is when someone does this, and wonders why only mouth-breathers, losers and skanks respond positively.

 

I feel the same way about people who pontificate about their right to tattoo their entire bodies as much as they want. Yes, please go ahead. I don't really care what you do with your body, because it's not mine. But wait - I own a restaurant. Or I'm in charge of the city pool, or beach. Or, I'm the principal of a high school. You want to come WORK for me? Good luck with that.

 

Welcome to society and its norms. Grow up.

[mesmerized]

People can do whatever they want. It's fine if the person doing it isn't expecting average people to find it attractive. What makes it funny is when someone does this, and wonders why only mouth-breathers, losers and skanks respond positively.

 

I feel the same way about people who pontificate about their right to tattoo their entire bodies as much as they want. Yes, please go ahead. I don't really care what you do with your body, because it's not mine. But wait - I own a restaurant. Or I'm in charge of the city pool, or beach. Or, I'm the principal of a high school. You want to come WORK for me? Good luck with that.

 

Welcome to society and its norms. Grow up.

 

Like "norms" are some god-written rules. Norms will change, always have and always will. And people who believed them like a religion and make harsh judgmental statements are the ones who will be made fun of for their close-mindedness, sometimes generations later.

[kaylan]

People can do whatever they want. It's fine if the person doing it isn't expecting average people to find it attractive. What makes it funny is when someone does this, and wonders why only mouth-breathers, losers and skanks respond positively.

 

I feel the same way about people who pontificate about their right to tattoo their entire bodies as much as they want. Yes, please go ahead. I don't really care what you do with your body, because it's not mine. But wait - I own a restaurant. Or I'm in charge of the city pool, or beach. Or, I'm the principal of a high school. You want to come WORK for me? Good luck with that.

 

Welcome to society and its norms. Grow up.

Moderation is key.

 

At the end of the day, the average man or woman is going to respond positively to a cool guy or girl who happens to have a sexy beach photo or gym shot at the end of their pictures. Thats a lot different from obvious bathroom shots showing off their breasts or V cut.

 

The same way the average person nowadays responds well to a few well placed tattoos. Which is a lot different from being tattoo from head to toe like some street performers we have seen on tv before. Piercings are the same way...good in moderation...a turn off if overdone.

[veggirl]

Exactly. People who are so against nudism make me laugh, I feel like they're out of touch with their nature. When I see people nude I always think about how we are all basically the same thing despite how different we'd like to think we are. It actually gives me a sense of unity with other people.

 

I'm gonna assume you are being obtuse on purpose now. You aren't acknowledging a thing we are saying.

 

Well, I'd write more child, but it's time for me to leave work. My job that, guaranteed, I would not have if my employer found me posting nudes all over the internet.

[rainfall]

Like "norms" are some god-written rules. Norms will change, always have and always will. And people who believed them like a religion and make harsh judgmental statements are the ones who will be made fun of for their close-mindedness, sometimes generations later.

 

 

The only people who make fun of the people who follow the "norms" are the ones breaking them and are made because they are being called a freak, skank, loser, etc.

 

I have 5 tatoos and I made sure I got them all in places that I could cover up when I went to a job interview or when I was at work. I know that in a "normal" workplace people with tatoos that can be seen are viewed a ceratin way and I didn't want to ever have my chance to get a job hindered because of my tatoos, so I make sure they are all covered.

 

People can post all the naked pictues online they want, they are only hurting theirselves. However, they shouldn't expect the majority of people to think its a good idea or be ok with it. Most people are going to consider it trashy and most guys or girls wouldn't want to seriously date someone who put a naked picture out there for everyone to see, Just like most places probably wouldn't want to hire someone who put a naked picture up.