OliviaKatz Posted July 15, 2004 Share Posted July 15, 2004 My boyfriend and I have not been good for quite some time. His on the east coast and I am on the west. We've been together 2 years. He says that we have not spent enough time together because of the distance and he really doesn't feel like he knows me. That he needs to spend more time with me. And that he is concerned that he feels like he loves me only half of the time. He said he might want to see other people. That he needed to think about it. He said we should take some time off. I said OK, but he called me every day after that. So, I was very confused and hurt. I ignored his calls for 6 days until he sent me a text asking if we were through. I called him that day and he acted like he didn't even care that I hadn't called him. He said he'd been busy and didn't notice. We used to talk all the time and lately he never want to talk and doesn't call me much. He always gets mad at me for bringing up our relationship because I do so on every call. We are supposed to meet this weekend to see each other in Chicago. Last night, i got so worried because he has not been calling and is out until 11:30 or 12 every night--something very uncharacteristic of him. I asked him what was going on and if he was cheating on me. He got mad because I am always paranoid about this and he just got really mean when I asked him. I was like: "what am I supposed to think you are doing?" He said: "I don't care what you think." He proceeded to call me an idiot. And tell me he didn't even know if he liked me anymore. This coming from a man who has told me that I am the one. He told me he didn't care if I cam on the trip. I kept pestering him and was crying. He got fed up because I don't trust him and hung up on me. What the hell am I supposed to do? He bought me a ticket with his miles but had to pay $75 and changed his travel for work so that we should meet up. Should I go on this trip? I don't know what to do...should I call him? Help me please. I haven't slept a decent night's sleep in forever. Thank you for your advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted July 15, 2004 Share Posted July 15, 2004 You need to see him and you both need an in person discussion. Paronia is one of the neg side effects of a LDR. Not seeing him is not going to relieve this at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Kristina Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 You should go on the trip. You guys need to see each other and work it all out face to face. It seems you were both happy and in love at one point, sometimes that all comes back when you see each other again even if you are going thru rough times. Hope all works out well for you! Link to post Share on other sites
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