She needs space. We both love eachother very much and I dont want to lose this.

[mike4jennie]

Hello all,

My name is Mike. Im 21 years old and have been dating Jennie for 6 years now. We met July 1998 on AOL, I was promoting a concert for my band and was searching for people in my area to invite to our show. We hit it off, before long we couldn't stop talking to eachother, up all hours of the night chatting and talking on the phone. Finally we met, she was beautiful and I was instantly in love with her. Soon after her brother coincidentally rented a basement apartment from my father. One day she was over to babysit and I saw here. It was like fate, we have been unseperable since. We have traveled all over the united states and lived in many different places.

I love this girl with all my heart. I wish to marry her and have a family more than anything in the world. For the past few years we have been engaged to be wed. My problem was I never actually sat down and set a date to follow through with our plans. She appeared to have no problem waiting for my to be ready to do this. She was ALWAYS there for me whenever I needed here. After 4-5 years had passed alot of the passion that we had initially in our relationship had dwindled. There definately was still love between us and still is to this day. But we became irritable toward eachother and less understanding. It got to the point where everything was just routine, and I belived that no matter what she would ALWAYS be there for my like she had in the past.

Just recently about a week ago we spoke, she told me that she felt like we were growing apart, and maybe we didn't have what it took to live out the rest of our lives together. I didn't want to end things. I know I love this girl, and I know that we can make eachother happy, after all we had done this for the past years. We talked about how we kept having the same problems and she said she didn't feel like we were going anywhere, just kind of idleing, and shee needed to feel like she was moving up in her life. We spoke about and commited to make our own feelings better understood by eachother so we could work on our problems and move past them. Two or three days later, she decided she needed space. At first I couldn't handle that, everything that I loved and all the security that I had was takin from me all at once. I lost it, I said alot of things to her that I should not have EVER said to the girl I love. The next day I called her every 20 minutes trying to apologize for what I said, and explain to her that I didn't know how to act. I am not the type of guy to just break down and cry, so when I feel like breaking down and crying, I turn those feelings into something else, in this case it was anger. I never did get ahold of her for the next 2 days, but yesterday I reached her at work. I explained to her what was going through my head and she seems to understand. We went to lunch and she came to the house to get some of her work clothes and makeup so she could continue her daily routine.

Now I am going crazy. I can't eat, I can't sleep, im sick and throwing up all day, I know I want to be with this girl for the rest of my life, and I know she wants to be with me. I have told her that I wanted to marry her. Complete our next step and move on. The problem is that she thinks I am just saying this to deal with our current prolem.

She loves me. I know she loves me and I know I love her. I know we can work together we've done it before. I need help. I dont know what to do or say to make her understand that I am willing to walk to the ends of the earth to make this work. To make both of us happy together. I am taking her to lunch today, but she does not want to talk about US she just wants to goto lunch and probably discuss our days with eachother.

 

Please!!! Someone help me. I need this girl in my life, she is everything for me. I belive we were ment to be together, But I dont know what I can do or say to win her back.

 

Any advice would be helpful. Failure is not an option for me I must marry this girl. Please help me do this...Please

 

Thank you all for listening to my problems,

Mike

[Dubgirl]

I feel your pain too We have the exact same situation

[jw32802]

Did you take her for granted while you were with her in a way?

[kutenkooky]

I think the fact that you are young and have been going out for such a long time might have something to do with it. I went out with someone for a long time and we just grew apart. There was still love but it was time to move one. Relationships do sometime run their course. They are there to serve as a learning experience. Maybe just give her time and give yourself time to just be alone. As an adult you might find it good to experience a little living before commiting yourself for the rest of your lives. THe pain does subside. Just be calm tell her how you feel and then move on. You can not force someone to be with you. Time will ease the pain and give you both some clarity. Good luck. She may realize you she doesn't want to be with out you either if you give her a little space and time to miss you. Just speaking from past experiences;)