boy88 Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 i broke up with my gf 4 months back i was selfish back then was not thinking properlet , we were together for 3 months , i day i proposed to her she told me about her condition called keloids and i said ill be with you no matter what , it didnt bothet me at that time but as times passes i started googling it and all stupid thoughts came to mu mind and i really coiuld not move fws knowing that itl pass on to my kids neither can i break up with her , i dont want to hurther , i do not want to have or show false feelings to her , and one day i called her and told her that its over and im unable to move fwd , and we work in same place so we saw eachothwe 3 monhs after we broke up ans she msgd me after a week of break up and we dont know what we were , but it was like usual me going out with her , taking her to buy stuff she askes me to help her out , it was going on for 3 months andi was happy . suddenly one day she had to quit work for higher studies which shes been planninf from long back , since 2 weeks she quit she used to call me during wekends and and ask me how i was and things like that , but i could find the difference she waas trying to strictly not talk abot anything else just casual talk all this change only after she left office , and recently after seeing her pics on fb and she didnt call me for10days as sshe was busy , i felt bad and i was missing her , and i realised that i wahted her and keloids dosent atter anymore to me and i called her one night and appologised to her and at the end cried on the call ..im never like tht i literally beged her to take me back all she dais was i had my chaance and i dont sederve a second chance and hang up ..she never did that to me .and since then she dosent eply to my texts says shes busy but shes actually not i can see pics of her in fb howing shes not busy..im really feeling miserable about what i did to her ..and waht i caused to myself..dont know what to do ..she says she just want to be friends nothing more and she wont be confortale to talking to me untill im over it and shell contactme when im over it ...i really want her back..i dont care about anything anymore . i stopped messagin her sonce a week ad she said me "dont make me ignore you i dont like thw way you are messaging to me " , sonce then i havent messaged her .please tell me waht i dod to her was complelety wrong??? is there no way of getting back to her ? ,,,btw shes in a better position now ad her college is goood and shess gave hav a better life after college , but she knows i know my office work sucks and pays low ..please help me.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author boy88 Posted August 18, 2012 Author Share Posted August 18, 2012 please ignore my typos . Link to post Share on other sites
salmagundi Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 That is really damn hard to read... Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 It's broken, move on. Don't be a door mat. Link to post Share on other sites
Author boy88 Posted August 19, 2012 Author Share Posted August 19, 2012 I tried to move on,i sent her a best of luck good bye message and I get the below response from her, "you're trying to complicate it for yourself and me. i said i'll remain your friend but the way you talk to me still has a different note to it which is something i dnt want And as for your statements..i expect ppl to mean it when they say things to me saying something just coz you felt like it, or someone else wanted you to... is not smthn i can accept or understand you said its over i had my share of mourning and i said ok and everything we did after that was purely smthn i would have done to any of my other frenz and thats why i asked you every single time you came with me to the college too... i thought you wanted to come along and thats why i called you along and like i said then, had you refused i obv have my other frenz to do the same for me... i dnt wanna sit and dissect everything now... coz there's nothing to be done. it cant be helped. it's done and over. and until you change your mindset abt this, abt me.. and come in terms with reality that there is nothing between us, that nothing can happen between us again... i cant be comfortable talkin to you... and dnt think you can fool me with your cheery texts... coz i always know when ppl are pretending... so you concentrate on your work or studies or whatever it takes for you to get over this.. get over it and i will know then that we can be frenz again im not gonna entertain you in this regard... and please let us not have this baby baby discussion again The day you are willing to accept this, message me again... we can talk then. until then, good luck to you and all the best." If she hates me then why dose she wants to be friends back with me, she's not giving me a clear sign off, I'm feeling terribly bad for what I did, and I realised that she is all I want now, I'm unable to concentrate on anything in my life, feel lost. I'm just trying to understand what she really wants if there is even a slight hope I don't want to loose it, plz tell me I need your help guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Author boy88 Posted August 20, 2012 Author Share Posted August 20, 2012 Rephrasing the first post . i broke up with my gf 4 months back ,i was selfish back then ,i was not thinking properly, we were together for 3 months , On the day i proposed to her she told me about her condition called keloids and i said ,ill be with you no matter what' it didn't bother me at that time but as times passed i started reading about it in the internet and all stupid things and fears came to my mind and i really cold not move fwd knowing that it's genetic and will pass on to my kids, neither can i break up with her i did not want to hurt her , i also did not want to have or show false feelings to her ,so one day i called her and told her that its over and im unable to move fwd and i broke up with her and she cried for a few days and then she was back to normal. we work in same place so we saw each other everyday for 3 months after we broke up and she messaged me after a week of break up and we did not know know what we were (friends or bf/gf ), but it was like usual i started going out with her , taking her to buy stuff she asked me to help her out and i did , it was going on for 3 months and i was happy . suddenly one day she had to quit work for higher studies which shes been planning from long back , after she quit the first 2 weeks she used to call me during wekends and and ask me how i was and things like that , but after a month of her quitting office , i could find the difference she was trying to strictly not talk about anything else, just casual talk all this changed only after she left office , and recently after seeing her pics on fb and she didnt call me for 10days as she was busy , i felt bad and i was missing her , and i realised that i wanted her and keloids dosen't matter anymore to me and i called her one night and appologised to her and at the end cried on the call even begged .im never like this , i literally beged her to take me back and all she said was i had my chance and i dont deserve a second chance and hung up the call .she never hung up on me before .and since then she dosent reply to my texts says shes busy but shes actually not i can see pics of her in fb showing shes not busy..im really feeling miserable about what i did to her ..and what i caused to myself..dont know what to do ..she says she just want to be friends nothing more and she wont be comfortable to talking to me untill im over it and shell contact me when im over it ...i really want her back..i dont care about anything anymore . i stopped messagin her since a week after she said me "dont make me ignore you i dont like thw way you are messaging to me " , since then i haven't messaged her .please tell me waht i did to her was complelety wrong??? is there no way of getting back to her ? ,,,btw shes in a better position now and her college is good and she will have a better life after college , but she knows and i know my office work sucks and pays low ..please help me. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 First of all..you proposed after 3 months?? Second, you dumped her for something that was completely out of her control..I can't blame her for not wanting you back. You sound very young..you obviously have some growing up to do before you try to enter into another relationship..whether it's with her or with someone else. Leave her alone like she asked you to do. If she wants you back, she will come to you. You'll be ok no matter what though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author boy88 Posted August 20, 2012 Author Share Posted August 20, 2012 I'm sry if my message was confusing, I proposed to her 3 months after I met her, we were together for 3 more months, 4th month I broke up with her, most of them said that I was not being mature, which I was, rt now I've understood what it is like, ppl learn from their mistakes, im not justifying myself, but whatever I did is bad, and never ever have I ignored her, like what she is doing to me now. Nothings there on my hands now rt?.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author boy88 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Share Posted August 21, 2012 She gave me an option to be her friend, im going to say yes, even though I have feelings for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 She gave me an option to be her friend, im going to say yes, even though I have feelings for her. This is the worst thing you can do for yourself. Plus, she even said she can't be comfortable being friends while you still have feelings for her. Mark my words. If you try to be friends with her you will be back here telling us of your pain or trying to read things into everything she says and texts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author boy88 Posted August 22, 2012 Author Share Posted August 22, 2012 I totally agree with you, but I don't want to block her in fb and ignore her and make it sound like She did a mistake, it was totally my fault, so I'm looking for a peacefully way for me to be back to be normal. I cannot seem to control myself I keep looking at her fb pics and feeling bad, Is it rude for me to unfriend her in fb? .i don't want to be rude. Link to post Share on other sites
salem mark Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 heh balzaqc you provide great advice!! can you check my post today and advice please Link to post Share on other sites
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