ziggue Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 There is this guy I have been seeing for about a month and a half. Is dating once a week the norm when a guy works full time and is a Gym nut? We mainly see each other on weekends. Never during the week. I get texts from him every couple of days during the week, always on weekends, with him telling me about his day and with him asking about mine. Should I be initiating dates as well? Could he be waiting for me to be doing that or is it better for the guy to do all the chasing? I just thought that this would be the time where we can't get enough of each other and he would be looking for excuses to see me in person. I know that things seem to be going well because he does keep in contact a fair bit. Even has initiated phone calls a few times. I never have rang him first. Does it sound like it is going well though regardless? Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 It's not abnormal. People are busy or he prefers not to date as often. Or he is dating others during the week...I'm like this, I'm really busy and have other commitments, so it's just tough trying to make plans much more often than for the weekends. Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 He's likely dating other people as well. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 Are you into multi dating? Have you asked if he is seeing others? Are you having sex? Have you tried initiating dates during the week? Do you initiate phone calls? You need to be asking him more questions and showing a little more initiative to get some clarity. A month and a half is plenty of time to start doing these things... Link to post Share on other sites
Fondue Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 Work/Gym/Etc. Seems normal. I doubt he is dating other people. Or if he is, you are the priority anyway. He saving his weekend time for you. This is a good thing. Link to post Share on other sites
henderson14 Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 I'm not sure about initiating dates, but you could come up with ideas or invites when he contacts you. Don't let him always come up with ideas. Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 Work/Gym/Etc. Seems normal. I doubt he is dating other people. Or if he is, you are the priority anyway. He saving his weekend time for you. This is a good thing. Yeah, this could be a good thing. Do you see him both days of the weekend? How much time do you spend with him during your dates? Anyway, I would say that you are probably his priority, but does not mean he is not dating others during the week. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ziggue Posted August 18, 2012 Author Share Posted August 18, 2012 (edited) I did get out of him that he is not dating other people apparently. Tip toed my way around a couple of questions without putting pressure on anything. That was the main thing I wanted to know. He has admitted he has a ball with me and thinks I am a sweetheart and wants to see where it goes. On the weekends when I am not busy doing other things. Yes. We seem to go out mainly both nights. This weekend he was busy with friends and still made time to wanna see me Sunday. One Saturday when I was out with my friends a week or two ago. He started texting and we were texting most the night. There was a week and a bit when I did not see him because he was sick and got texts every couple of days with him going on about himself and asking how my day was. We spend hours together. As much time as we can when we have got it. I make sure that we go out and do things or do some sort of activity together even if we are at home so we have something to bond over before anything intimate happens. It seems to be going well. He always plans dates days in advance. Never last minute One time last week he sent a text apologising to me that he forgot to ring when he told me he would ring one day. That really surprised me. Was not expecting to hear from him at all. Then he asks me if I am doing anything I let him know I am free for a chat and then rings me not long after. This all being on a week day. He always initiates. He has rang around three or four times to just say hello. All those times were during weekdays. Are these good signs? Edited August 18, 2012 by ziggue Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 Good signs. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 Are you sleeping with him yet? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ziggue Posted August 18, 2012 Author Share Posted August 18, 2012 Yes. I am. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted August 18, 2012 Share Posted August 18, 2012 Yes. I am. ok, then I doubt he is seeing others if he's spending full weekends with you. It sounds to me that he has his stuff together & isn't blowing his friends off or changing his life around for a woman. This is how I did it when I was single before kids. The week nights were for me & they would come over & spend the weekends at my place. It's only been a month & a half. Are you used to guys dropping their lives to spend as much time with you as possible? So many guys fall off the face of the earth when they get a GF. Blowing off their friends, not doing their "stuff". It's kinda sad & it never ends well for them. Link to post Share on other sites
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