anubis1311 Posted August 19, 2012 Share Posted August 19, 2012 My girlfriend is due to leave to work aboard a cruise ship - See blog our long distance relationship (not a shameless plug, but it explains the situation!!) We have talked about getting married and decided that it is something we want to do but it will take ages to save up for the ring i want (it needs to be this exact ring as it holds so much sentimental value to our relationship). So i told her i wouldn't propose until i was in a position to give her this ring. But, do you think it would be a good idea to get her/us promise a ring before she goes away as a commitment to get engaged at a later date?? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Its lovely thought : ))) by all means go for it of course but ask first You don't have to spend fortune on ring at all me and my love have found breath stopping ring for me for little over 500 $ huge stone to. But my desire was no diamond but stone in color we both love and of course nice setting so talk to her again figure out will she have other opinions to and you might even get engaged sooner and become closer to each other then before. Best of luck with it : ))) maybe you can take a peek at my post to Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 How old are you guys? Promise rings smack of high school to me, but this situation seems a bit different and I've had friends who worked on cruise lines. Many, many relationships don't survive... Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Carrie don't do this to a poor guy he feels bad enough as it is And why should it not work they been together they love each other people overcome cancer why not this its not like she won't be back or he can't ever visit. Look i took a peek at your blog you two seem very sweet couple yes its going to be hardest thing you might have done so far but its not for sure failure nothing is for sure talk until you are blue in face talk about all anything everything about you two it will make huge difference cause once she is gone she is gone. I wish you all the luck Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 We have talked about getting married and decided that it is something we want to do but it will take ages to save up for the ring i want (it needs to be this exact ring as it holds so much sentimental value to our relationship). You're both too material for me. I don't understand why a ring should be expensive. I mean, I'm not saying you should get one through a vending machine, but a ring is just a symbol. So i told her i wouldn't propose until i was in a position to give her this ring. I don't understand this. Hopefully she did. do you think it would be a good idea to get her/us promise a ring before she goes away as a commitment to get engaged at a later date?? First of all, is it for you, for her or what? You want to buy two rings? Or you want to ask her to buy you a ring and you will buy one for her? Assuming you want to buy a ring for her: be sure to know her size. And buy one. I'm still very puzzled about a guy telling a girl: I won't propose for now, because I can't buy the ring I want to buy. Link to post Share on other sites
cheerylowe24 Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 better later... lot of things will be happen and you never know what it will be.. Link to post Share on other sites
Aquamelon Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 If in your heart you're ready for the commitment that comes a long with a proposal then forget about an expensive ring just get her any dang thing and pop the question! She won't be looking at the ring and determining how much you love her by the size of the rock! I know you want a specific ring but that ring can come later in the relationship. But if you're going to be stubborn about this "special" ring then give the girl a promise ring. Just make sure you have an actual promise to go along with the ring (whether it be a marriage proposal or whatever else you feel is right). Remember it's the feelings not the actual material object that make a ring so special and valuable amongst a couple. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anubis1311 Posted August 20, 2012 Author Share Posted August 20, 2012 Thanks for your posts! It's not just about the cost of the ring. There other reasons why I don't want to propose yet and she knows then and we are both in agreement. We want all our ducks in a row so to speak!! I have got a simple ring and will give it to her tonight. It is a promise from me that i will remain truthful to her and support her through everything, good times and bad. It is also a promise that one day i will marry her when the metaphorical ducks have assumed their positions effectively Thanks again!!! Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 So did you : ))) ? Am in sore need of bit cheerful news and hope that you did and that she loved it Am also sure rest of us is curious as well its sweet story and it deserves happy ending ... Link to post Share on other sites
Author anubis1311 Posted August 22, 2012 Author Share Posted August 22, 2012 So did you : ))) ? Am in sore need of bit cheerful news and hope that you did and that she loved it Am also sure rest of us is curious as well its sweet story and it deserves happy ending ... I did and she loved it!!! She was over the moon and loved the fact i made 3 promises to her as i gave it. It's really made us feel a whole lot better about the whole situation and i now know we'll definitely make it through this!!! She doesn't have a romantic bone in her body either so this is definitely 1-0 to the hopeless romantic Link to post Share on other sites
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