Necris Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 When it comes to dating do you feel that the way you look is a problem? Personally I don't have too many problems with the way I look most of my issues I think come from my social ineptitude and inexperience. The Positive: tall (If I go into a store or somewhere else public I'm usually the tallest guy in the building), somewhat muscular (It needs work, but I have been doing weight training so I look slightly muscular I'm not ripped or anything but overall people think I look pretty strong) The Negative: I was born with scoliosis so my spine is twisted unnaturally while this isn't too noticeable one shoulder is noticeably higher than the other. I also have a crippled hand again another birth defect my left hand is slightly smaller, my fingertips do not work without assistance, and my fingers are incapable of opening completely. I'm also not in the best shape, I'm not exactly fat, but my body can be certainly improved. I also find it difficult to speak correctly at times as I have a bit of a speech impediment its like my brain and mouth are not always on the same page. I'm just wierd and goofy acting in general. I probably have a host of other issues but these are the ones I notice. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 When it comes to dating do you feel that the way you look is a problem? I always felt this was the issue for me. Link to post Share on other sites
GirlontheLam Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Sort of. Where I live at least. I am cute, and also have some weight to lose. Working on the weight part. But on the flipside, it could be a bad thing in my case. I am very friendly. And super likable. It might cause me to get way too much attention. (Not trying to brag here) My co-worker describes me as having a "flight attendant" personality. People think I am friendly, and just want to chat with me. With no effort on my part. If I smile, people instantly want to chat. Right now I am a chubby hourglass.....so basically any weight I lose puts me closer to Kim Kardashian territory. It is interesting. For a lot of us women, weight can be a way to distract. After feeling like we attracted too much negative attention when we were smaller. I think my bigger problem is that I am skeptical of strangers. And I don't really like online dating! Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Im sexy and I know it! AHHHHH Girl look at that body... I work out! PS - I was kidding but what I just said is true and I believe it. Adopt a positive mindset and work on yourself...mind and body. Link to post Share on other sites
mario_C Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 When it comes to dating do you feel that the way you look is a problem? Yes. I'm pretty unattractive. Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 I think unless we look like Angelina Julie and brad pit, looks is somewhat holding us back. That doesn't mean we can't find love looking less than perfect, but that we'll have less options. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Yes. Everybody here knows I'm short. If I was 5'10 (my dad's height) with nothing else changed, I'd have no trouble with women at all. I guarantee it. Sadly, there is no way I'll ever know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Necris Posted August 20, 2012 Author Share Posted August 20, 2012 Yes. Everybody here knows I'm short. If I was 5'10 (my dad's height) with nothing else changed, I'd have no trouble with women at all. I guarantee it. Sadly, there is no way I'll ever know. You shouldn't feel too bad, I was born with scoliosis and a crippled hand though I am tall. Link to post Share on other sites
O'farrell Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 I have big ears and my height kills me self esteem. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 It's a combo of me turning down girls I'm not physically attracted to and having the same thing be done to me by girls I am physically attracted to Link to post Share on other sites
El Brujo Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Well DUH... I'd want to be a foot shorter so people would stop thinking I went AWOL from the NBA or the WWF. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 You shouldn't feel too bad, I was born with scoliosis and a crippled hand though I am tall. Did you get the scoliosis treated? As for the hand, cut it off and get a claw. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 It's a combo of me turning down girls I'm not physically attracted to and having the same thing be done to me by girls I am physically attracted to This. So I am now improving myself by doing hard core gym work. I want to have more options. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 This. So I am now improving myself by doing hard core gym work. I want to have more options. You will always have me as an option Just don't get too She-Hulkish. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Necris Posted August 20, 2012 Author Share Posted August 20, 2012 Did you get the scoliosis treated? As for the hand, cut it off and get a claw. Well the surgery required to treat my scoliosis would be extreme so I was advised not to. And my hand, lol I don't think a claw would be helping as it is still useful my hand is just more limited than some people in terms of movement. Link to post Share on other sites
ptp Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 I always felt this was the issue for me. For reals? dude wtf? Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 You will always have me as an option Just don't get too She-Hulkish. :love: And nah, too lazy for that 1 Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 For reals? dude wtf? Yes. For those with personal race issues, I feel that it's not the race itself that is the insecurity, but the physical characteristics and appearance associated with that race. So my race made me look a certain way; a way which really has never been glamourized by media and popular culture. I've done what I can with what I've been given to overcome that, and I'd say that I'm happy with the result. However, I can't say that it has changed the underlying fact. So yes, fo'rizzles. Link to post Share on other sites
SunandMoon Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 I'm sure my physical appearance is holding me back, but there is a slew of other problems that are more to blame. Or, I think. As far as negatives to appearance; overweight, balding and quite hairy. Also been told I look older. Most other cons take precendence over just improving the physical, however, well when possible... Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Yes. For those with personal race issues, I feel that it's not the race itself that is the insecurity, but the physical characteristics and appearance associated with that race. So my race made me look a certain way; a way which really has never been glamourized by media and popular culture. I've done what I can with what I've been given to overcome that, and I'd say that I'm happy with the result. However, I can't say that it has changed the underlying fact. So yes, fo'rizzles. Hmmm. That's interesting. So you think it's the physical characteristics? I struggle more with the perception of my race. You know, the whole, oh he's hispanic, so he must be an immigrant, a drug dealer, ghetto, uneducated, ignorant, have 5 kids by the age of 17, lazy, etc etc Physically a lot of women like latin men, and on the plus side, if we're attractive, we're seen as the latin heartthrob, but the negatives far outweigh the positives IMO Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Yes. For those with personal race issues, I feel that it's not the race itself that is the insecurity, but the physical characteristics and appearance associated with that race. So my race made me look a certain way; a way which really has never been glamourized by media and popular culture. I've done what I can with what I've been given to overcome that, and I'd say that I'm happy with the result. However, I can't say that it has changed the underlying fact. So yes, fo'rizzles. No no no no. Hokie no. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your looks or physical characteristics of yours race. It all comes down to personal preferences. Some people/women don't like something in others because they feel it emphasizes their own perceived flaws. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Hmmm. That's interesting. So you think it's the physical characteristics? I struggle more with the perception of my race. Yes, for me personally, my race issue has always been about physical characteristics associated with the race.This is why I used to always have a tough time receiving compliments of physical traits...I'd always be tempted to respond with, "ummm, thanks, but you do know I'm Asian, right...? Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 No no no no. Hokie no. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your looks or physical characteristics of yours race. It all comes down to personal preferences. Some people/women don't like something in others because they feel it emphasizes their own perceived flaws. Well sure, I might have an idea of this now, but when you're 14 or 15 years old...? Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 HUGE part..people can say whatever pc bs they want but looks are most of the initial stages to attract people.. My friends a self centered narcisist but very good looking so women flock to him then when he pumps and dumps them they blame all men for him even though it was obvious they were trying to jump leagues using their vagina.. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 Well sure, I might have an idea of this now, but when you're 14 or 15 years old...? But it's still affecting you now, even when you can look at it from a more rational angle... Link to post Share on other sites
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