tmcc Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Ok I'll be real quick, I need an opinion, advice or something. I've been in a relationship for 3 years. I'm happy, comfortable, all that jazz. But, theres a babe at work thats real hot, funny and married. Every now and then when we e-mail each other, she talks about sex with me, or even a 3 some with me and my girl. I'm not going to cheat, I know this for a fact, but is this type of conversation ok? Sometimes I feel guilty for thinking fantasizing about a 3 some with this girl and my girlfriend or just about her for sexual reasons. Is that bad? Thanks alot. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Quit emailing her. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Ditto Moimeme Link to post Share on other sites
Matilda Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Originally posted by tmcc I'm not going to cheat, I know this for a fact, but is this type of conversation ok? No. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Quit emailing her. LOL….moi. Now here's the REAL line that divides the genders! If it were some horny married guy emailing a female colleague about having a threesome with her husband, instead of drooling over her keyboard , she could have him terminated for sexual harassment. Man. What are they putting in the office water coolers these days? Or maybe they've started slipping Viagra into the Crispy Creams?? BTW...just to give you and your colleague the "heads up" (Since she doesn't seem all that bright)...whoever maintains your internet access at work is privy to ALL you're internal email. They can, and often DO, read through people's correspondence. Curiosity is human nature, and the computer geeks running the show behind the scenes haven't signed off on any privacy wavers. You'd be surprised at what they do when they're bored at work. I learned that first hand! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Quit playing with fire. You're girlfriend deserves better if you are considering having an affair behind her back. If so, do her a favor and dump her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tmcc Posted July 16, 2004 Author Share Posted July 16, 2004 whoever maintains your internet access at work is privy to ALL you're internal email. I work in our IT department. I am that 'whoever'. Thanks for the responses Link to post Share on other sites
thinkingtoomuch Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Does anyone know if the IT people can read our instant messenger conversations at work? Is the conversation saved on a server or something? I, too, am happily married but I have it bad for this guy at work... we have had several sexual encounters on instant messenger. And I can't seem to give him up! Link to post Share on other sites
vanandme4him Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 yup, they can. i believe it stays in the temp files. oh, BTW, leave her alone. Her hubby is obviously not paying enough attention to her at home. she's on the prowl for someone, ANYONE. If you have a good relationship with your girlfriend...DON'T become your co-workers "someone". She'll find a guy eventually and screw him. Hopefully, he's a single guy and won't end up breaking his girlfriends heart. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Originally posted by thinkingtoomuch Does anyone know if the IT people can read our instant messenger conversations at work? Is the conversation saved on a server or something? I, too, am happily married but I have it bad for this guy at work... we have had several sexual encounters on instant messenger. And I can't seem to give him up! There are a few network tools which can be used to read/log and decode ALL forms of traffic. So to answer your question: If they have such software installed, YES. Everything you send can be read and recorded. On a side note, it's quite fun to install such software on a family network Link to post Share on other sites
simplybrill Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 I would stop talking to her. This kind of action could mess up your relationship with your girlfriend and it could get you fired for sexual harrassment! Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 I say stop talking to her. Unless you and your girl are down for a little threesome action? jk Stop emailing her and if you have to keep it business related. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 I know how you feel, before I started dating my bf I had was always e-mailing a co-worker with sexy comments, etc. But as soon as I started going out with my bf (the love of my life ), I quit the bad behavior immediately! I was just doing it out of boredom anyway! Yep, you are playing with fire. If you continue to e-mail her, you just might get into a bad situation. Hot e-mails could be the first step to an affair. This is why so many cheaters say "it just happened" because they think that flirting is innocent when actually it's like a gateway drug. They take small steps until they end up having sex. If want to stay in your relationship, then don't do it. I'm not going to cheat, I know this for a fact, but is this type of conversation ok? You shouldn't do it if: 1.) You feel guilty. 2.) You wouldn't want your gf to do it herself with a co-worker. 3.) You wouldn't do it right in front of your gf. You don't have to cut off all contact. Just ignore the sexy part of her e-mails. If it continues, then you may have to ask her to please stop and it makes you uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
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