Strange to anyone else?

[chucksagent]

My fiance went to a chiropractor for the first time yesterday because he back was bothering her. I made the joke the night before, "Be careful, them and dentists are always the pervy ones." TOTALLY kidding (but in all jest there is some truth.)

 

She goes, is there for about an hour and half, gets home, we have dinner, and are watching TV. Her phone rings at like 9:45pm, she looks at the phone confused and doesn't answer it cause it's a strange # she doesn't recognize. She doesn't answer let's it go straight to voice-mail.

 

She checks the vm and just sets the phone down and doesn't say anything. I ask her "Who was that?" She hands me the phone and say's "It was the chiropractor, checking to see how I'm feeling. I didn't immediately say it was him because I didn't want to hear "I told you so."

 

My FIRST thought was "Wow, I never had a doctor call me at quarter to 10 at night! Lol. And clearly she thought it strange judging by her worrying I would say "I told you so."

 

She is a very friendly and attractive woman. Sometimes I think because of her down to earth personality mixed with natural beauty she may send signals when she isn't trying to send them at all. She had another medical professional call her at inappropriate times and she ignored the phone calls.

 

What do you guys make of this?

-Is 9:45 too late for a doctor to call when NOT an emergency?

-Why do these dudes call my girl late at night?

-I and nobody I know has EVER gotten calls from their doctor, it's usually their staff; to the contrary, it's usually HARD to get ahold of them when you need them!!

 

Thoughts?

[BetrayedH]

Sounds sketchy to me. What are the odds he was calling from the office at that hour? If not, he's calling from home or his personal cell?

 

My gut would be screaming and I've learned to trust my gut. I would VERY quietly start looking at cell records, financial records, and so forth.

[YellowShark]

Is there anyway you could kill them both and dismember them? Or are you bad with that kinda thing?

 

It is weird that he called after 9pm. But people in the medical profession work long and crazy hours. Perhaps he was simply making a call he expected to be answered the next day rather than "calling your wife at 9:45 to bang her."

 

Anyhow, see if a pattern emerges first, texts, emails, multiple contacts at unusual times.. before you decide "the chiropractor is after your wife."

 

Good luck.

[TaraMaiden]

I hate to be the voice of dissent, but my Chiro called twice, late evenings during two separate sessions of work.

 

chiropractic is hands-on work.

it's physical manipulation involving both spine/bone, and connective tissue/muscles.

Effects are felt both immediately, and a good while later.

this is what they're keeping an eye on. Later 'effects'....

 

on one occasion, my chiro told me to note anything that happened within the next day or so, after a fairly strenuous treatment of my neck and upper back.

The following day, I got extraordinarily weepy at one point, but paid no attention to it. I think I thought at the time I was just hormonal...

The next session he'd asked me how I'd felt, and with various questions assessed my progress. Then he asked, "Did you have mood swings? Did you get emotional or weepy at all?"

I then related the weepy incident to him and he replied - yes, with manipulation to the neck in that way, that can happen. Ok...."

 

And that was that.

But yes, I did get calls.

And i personally considered them to be very professional.

[chucksagent]

Taramaiden...are you a hot girl? Because if so, that doesn't help us much. Lol, j/k. It's just strange, I haven't heard of many other people getting calls that alte from medical professionals. I appreciate you telling me though because if you got late calls and no more moves were made on you by him, then I guess good chance to not worry. Although it's funny one of you guys used the word sketchy, cause I told two of my friends and one said "Sounds sketchy" and the other said "Sounds shady." Lol.

[TaraMaiden]

No, I'm a 55-year old ever-so-slightly dumpy diminutive Italian woman (still within my weight range, though).

does that make me less desirable?

I'll be sure to tell my H.

 

[BetrayedH]

I hate to be the voice of dissent, but my Chiro called twice, late evenings during two separate sessions of work.

 

chiropractic is hands-on work.

it's physical manipulation involving both spine/bone, and connective tissue/muscles.

Effects are felt both immediately, and a good while later.

this is what they're keeping an eye on. Later 'effects'....

 

on one occasion, my chiro told me to note anything that happened within the next day or so, after a fairly strenuous treatment of my neck and upper back.

The following day, I got extraordinarily weepy at one point, but paid no attention to it. I think I thought at the time I was just hormonal...

The next session he'd asked me how I'd felt, and with various questions assessed my progress. Then he asked, "Did you have mood swings? Did you get emotional or weepy at all?"

I then related the weepy incident to him and he replied - yes, with manipulation to the neck in that way, that can happen. Ok...."

 

And that was that.

But yes, I did get calls.

And i personally considered them to be very professional.

 

For what it is worth, I do think Chiropractors could make a follow up call as Tara mentioned. The hour is sketchy but if that's all you have, I wouldn't do much more than have my radar up (which it sounds like you do). I am also a bit hypervigilant thanks to my personal sitch (thus my previous post).

[nofool4u]

What do you guys make of this?

-Is 9:45 too late for a doctor to call when NOT an emergency?

 

Yes, too late and highly inappropriate

 

 

-Why do these dudes call my girl late at night?

 

Why do you think?

 

 

-I and nobody I know has EVER gotten calls from their doctor, it's usually their staff; to the contrary, it's usually HARD to get ahold of them when you need them!!

 

Thoughts?

 

Thoughts? Either something happened, or it didn't and this doc has designs on your wife.

 

But based on your description of the way she acted, she acted guilty. My guess is she got more than her back adjusted at the chiropractor.

[nofool4u]

I hate to be the voice of dissent, but my Chiro called twice, late evenings during two separate sessions of work.

 

And did you act weird when he called like OP's wife did?

 

She didn't want to tell her H who was on VM. Otherwise if something wasn't fishy she'd have said, "thats odd, the chiropractor calling to leave me a message."

 

She didn't say anything after listening hoping her H wouldn't ask because she is guilty of something.

[nofool4u]

-Why do these dudes call my girl late at night?

 

Wait, I just caught this. This has happened more than once? How many "dudes" call her late at night. Does she go out partying and giving her phone # out to men or something?

[chucksagent]

No, she NEVER goes out. She is actually a very good and moral person (famous last words.)

 

She made convo with a guy in the deli line in the grocery store and part of the convo he asked her where she worked. He was like "Oh my company used to buy from them many years ago." The next Monday he called the office SPECIFICALLY asking for her, but not to buy product or make a deal. She came forward and I was honest.

 

Another doctor of hers called her LATE on Friday night, like 11:30, and didn't leave a vm. Then he texted her right after and was like "I saw a billboard that reminded me of you so I had to call you."

 

She never goes out at weird hours or does anything weird. All my friends who also hang out with her and know her attribute it to her beauty AND great personality. Claiming that a lot of desperate or horny men take a pretty lady being kind or nice as being interested or wanting more than friendship/professional relationship.

 

I will admit, she and I are a LOT alike. We are SUPER friendly to EVERYONE. Fat, old, young, foreign, etc. We subscribe to "do unto others." I'm just not hot like she is hahaha. Also, I think it's a BIG reason why MOST hot girls are rude is because they realize it's just an easy way to deter would be creepers.

 

I didn't mean to suggest my girl did anything wrong because she JUST started going to him via a mutual friend recommendation; he is in his 60's (we are mid thirties); she told me where she was going, etc. I posted to ask if you guys thought HE had alternate intentions because that's what common sense and my gut told me.

 

I think her being super friendly may send wrong signals. And the reason she didn't tell me about the vm (im assuming) is because I react to that **** like this and wanna haul off and tell off these creepers and make a big deal out of it. Lol.

[YellowShark]

Another doctor of hers called her LATE on Friday night, like 11:30, and didn't leave a vm. Then he texted her right after and was like "I saw a billboard that reminded me of you so I had to call you."

 

Well sounds like your girl is cool. But DAYM! Another Doctor called and texted? Huh? And it was about "a billboard that reminded him of your girl?" Uhhhh... now that's inappropriate for sure. I can understand your rationalization about being friendly to people.. but men (see: Dr.) should not be calling/texting at 11:30pm about billboards.

[mitch conner]

You really shouldn't be that surprised. They have to meet people somewhere, and may have even gone into that line of work for the hookups. Try taking a massage class, choose any female in the class to be a partner chances are it's going to lead to an intimate act. I knew guys in college who took those classes just for that purpose.

[CarrieT]

Is there anyway you could kill them both and dismember them? Or are you bad with that kinda thing?

 

Oh-my-gosh, thank you for that!!!!

:lmao::lmao:

[GLDheart]

Yes it's strange. But she reacted right. It's not like she lied and said it was a bill collector or something.

[chucksagent]

Good point GLDheart. Thank you for that. And that REALLY is the bottom line.

 

My annoyance and issue comes with her being humble/clueless that these guys are hitting on her. I feel she good better handle these situations with a little more self awareness.

[strongnrelaxed]

No, I'm a 55-year old ever-so-slightly dumpy diminutive Italian woman (still within my weight range, though).

does that make me less desirable?

I'll be sure to tell my H.

 

 

This does indeed make you sound undesirable. Especially the "mad" icon.

[strongnrelaxed]

It sounds like you have a woman who sends out signals to men. She may be aware of this or she may not be aware of it. You are going to have to get used to this. You cannot ask her to change and you certainly cannot control other men calling her.

 

You have to decide if you want to a) wait until she cheats and deal with it then; b) if you want to dump her while you are calm and rational; or c) take a chance that I am wrong and hide your head in the sand and pretend that this is normal behavior.

 

Good luck lad.

[Emilia]

 

My annoyance and issue comes with her being humble/clueless that these guys are hitting on her. I feel she good better handle these situations with a little more self awareness.

 

So you think they might f***k her because she is too stupid to realise what's going on?

 

You sound really controlling

[strongnrelaxed]

So you think they might f***k her because she is too stupid to realise what's going on? You sound really controlling

 

He never said that she would have sex because she is stupid. Why would you twist his words and then call him controlling because YOU twisted his words? You should be kicked off this forum immediately for such a sleazy disgusting move.

 

This guy is hurting and coming here for advice and you attack him?

 

Nice move lady.

 

His woman is either a) Clueless and does not know how to send the proper signals or b) she is not clueless and is sending improper signals knowingly.

 

Either way, he should leave her now before she does too much damage.

 

Yes it is odd that doctors call in the middle of the night. Even having to ask the question is proof enough.

 

Emilia, there are websites where you can go an attack men. Plenty of them. But I ask you to think twice before you try this teenage sleazy crap on a site like this. Your words are actually read by people. I am not attacking you I am criticizing your sleazy behavior.

[Pompom]

I was taught 10 pm and later is inappropriate.

I'd see the whole thing in its context rather than making it about one incident. Are they generally close, or is the doctor generally "very friendly" - or was it really only one call of genuine concern?

 

My dentist called me one early morning to ask how I was. He was going on vacation and wanted to see how my tooth ache was and if there was need for an emergency treatment before he left. I thought that was great. Because, heh, he did pop a nasty abcess a few hours later.