Ex called to hang out! I need ADVICE PLEASE

[rutgers24]

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We were going out for two years and both 20 years old. The reason we broke up was because he wanted to be on his own for a while and I guess do his thing. But there is an important factor in all of this. His best friend backstabbed him about 6 months ago and they stopped speaking. Maybe around three months ago I see his ex best friend at the gym and I confront him. I tell him that they should talk and patch things up. Well to make a long story short, they patched things up, but my boyfriend started changing. He still hung out with me and we were the same, but something was off. He was now always out with his friends and he just changed personality wise. So he broke up with me, like I said last month. Now here is my problem. Yesterday, he called me up to say Hi and see if I wanted to have some coffee. I said Yes and didnt think anything of it. When I saw him, he kept smiling from like ear to ear. At first I didn't say much because it was weird. So he kept asking me whats new and than he said joking around, "You love to talk and your not talking, and now Im the one thats talking". I just got a feeling that he was nervous that I wasnt saying much at first. So we went out and had coffee, than he asked if I was hungry so we got something to eat. I offered to pay for my own food but he said no. After we were done eating, he asked me if I wanted to go out with him and his friends, but I said no. After we went out to eat, we ran into his friend(the ex best friend in the story). He had the nerve to not say Hi to him until my ex boyfriend told him"Hey, you dont know how to say Hi". The friend proceeded to say he didn't see me, which I knew he saw me. When the evening was over, he said bye and told me to call him whenever I wanted to hang out. So my question is, why did he call me to hang out? All my friends say its because he misses me and wants to have me there when he's done doing his thing. I guess Im kinda surprised that he would want to hang out this soon into the breakup. I was his first love and he was mine. Also, when we broke up, he was like "Your the perfect girl for me, and I hope I end up with me, but right now I need to be on my own. But, Im not surprised because we're only 20 yrs old, and if its meant to be it'll be. The part that throws me off is that he doesn't believe in being friends with an ex. He always said either we're together or not. So why does he want to be my friend?!I just need ADVICE PLEASE about why he wanted to hang out.

[Fayebelle]

There have been a few replies to your other post.

[t866]

Men handle things a lot differently then woman. He sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. What I mean is... he wants to go out and be with his friends and do "his own thing", but he also wants to know that your still there as well. It's hard. I'm going through the same thing. Your young and have a lot of time to find a person that has the same morals/beliefs as you. Can you handle just being his friend or wait around for him until he's done doing his own thing. You deserve to have someone treat as good as you treat them or better. He does sound like he cares about you enough to call and hang out. You guys tried it didn't work out, doesn't mean it was good or bad. GOOD LUCK!!