SierraMist Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Hey guys, I just thought id tell you guys what im feelings coz im pretty sure all my friends are sick of hearing my story..but here it is: I was dating this girl for 7 months, and boy were those 7 months the greatest moments in my life. Some rough roads came along and she went out with another guy while we were together. A week later they broke up because she knew she had done wrong and apologized to me until i took her back. So i did and now were together again, but ever since we've been back together all ive heard is that she has been messing around with other guys and such. Living in California, the place is huge and i got friends that hang out with their friends that hang out with her and see her messing around with other guys. Btw im not stalking, people i hang out with randomly tell me out of nowhere. Being me, i didnt believe and i even talked to her about and she totally denied it. Even though i know shes lying to me. BUT heres the thing, one night while i was about to go to bed, i thought about the situation and u know what i came up with??? I dont need a girl like that, I need a girl that cares for me on the same level i care for her. I dont need a girl that cant stick to 1 guy, i dont need a girl that can't commit to something, i dont need a girl that lies!. I need a girl that i can TRUST. thinking about this, i never felt so liberated. Anyways, im gonna call things off and move on. Its a hard task, but theres nothing i cant do. Especially after the way she has treated me. As soon as i have completed this task, i can finally say that this is the final chapter of this book, and time to start a new one being single and instead of thinking about her, start to think about myself for once, and how i can improve. Knowing this, its making things easier to let go just thought id tell you guys hehe Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Congratulations! I think you've really got it together! Before you look for a new girlfriend, be sure to think about what you want in a partner and don't accept less than you deserve. (Meaning you deserve someone who will give you the same as you give her.) Link to post Share on other sites
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Author SierraMist Posted July 18, 2004 Author Share Posted July 18, 2004 Well i finally did it...i broke up with my cheating gf...it hurt so much to see her face, and just saying the words "Lets just be friends" Hurt sooooo much but i finally did it. I am really down in the dumps but also i know its for the better. Right now im just kinda staying at home thinking of the good outcome, decided not to hang out with friends tonite and just be alone. It really hurts but i needed to do it. What can i do to ease the pain?? Link to post Share on other sites
Dinny Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Good for you my friend!!!!!! You have been so brave and its great to hear of a man who is intouch with his feelings and emotions!!! Hate to tell you (even though you are doing the right thing!) but the only way to ease the pain is to give yourself lots of time! I came out of a relationship with a guy 5 weeks ago........someone who I had wanted to spend the rest of my life with, I loved him so completely and unconditionally but I went to see my family for 2 weeks without him and whilst I was at home my family told me how much I had changed (and not for the better I might add!) and when I came back to my boyfriend the brake had done me the world of good and I realised that it was HIM who was changing me!! I had given so much to the relationship, but he was so self absorbed, selfish and not willing to make me a priority in his life and I realised that this is not a life I want to have. I, like you want to find someone who will appreciate me, love me totally and make me the most important person/thing in their life! I don't think that is alot to ask! and so I walked away from him.........it nearly destroyed me and I hibernated at home for a month, going to work in a daze and then hiding away from the world when I came home because thats what I needed to do!!! 5 weeks on I'm feeling much stronger and although I remember all the good times we had.....I remember the bad times even more!!!! You've done the right thing mate believe me because as much as you loved this girl your instinct was telling you it wasn't right and there is one thing guaranteed in life......you can always trust your OWN instinct when you can't trust those around you! take some time out for you, spend time with friends when it suits YOU, if they are good friends they'll leave you be when you wanna be on your own and be there for you when you don't. Above all else, don't have any contact with this girl, certainly not for a while until you have healed because after a break everything "looks rosie in the garden" but things won't change - if you know what I mean! Good luck to you and keep me posted on what happens, I really admire what you are doing for YOU!! Take care! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SierraMist Posted July 18, 2004 Author Share Posted July 18, 2004 Update: I woke up today and the first thing that came in my mind was her face lol...call me stupid but i already miss her soooo much. She kept on trying to call today and i had to tie my hands behind my back for me not to answer...she called 3 times today...i dont know why but she did. I thought to myself maybe it was important and i should answer it. Then again she has other friends that will help her if she was in trouble. I feel so alone, my friends keep calling me but i just tell them i dont really feel like hangin out. We had plans to take a 1 hr drive around California and stop whenever our 1 hr was up and talk a walk around. I joined them but found myself thinking about her....Alchohol was around and i easily could've drank and heal the pain, but naw i told myself im stronger than that. Its so hard, when she keeps calling and i have to battle myself to tell myself not to pick up! and that shes not worth the fight anymore. I kept on giving and giving, only to recieve jack **** in the end. Althought she might be the most beautiful, most fun girl ive ever gone out with, its not worth it!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Ana Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 I went out with this guy for 2 years. I was madly in love with him although he never prioritised me. In the end I found out he had been seeing another woman for the past 3 months, even going away with her on weekends and buying her outrageously expensive gifts. Although he had been the centre of my life for 2 years, and I had changed everything about myself to be with him, I knew I needed to end it before it ended me. Walking away from that man - the most charismatic, sexy, brilliant man I have ever met - was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. I thought I would die and we work together, so seeing him every day without falling back into the same pattern was torture. But I did it. It's 5 weeks on now I and I still feel like a walking black hole. I'm depressed and don't want to interact socially, but deep inside I know I did the right thing and in time, I will be able to move on and find someone who deserves me. Good luck, you're not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SierraMist Posted July 19, 2004 Author Share Posted July 19, 2004 I really wanna call her back! but then i think of the negative things that shes done, and it just makes me wanna snap out on her. I need some help, what should i do?? I keep thinking about her every second and its not going too good for me. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 Make a list of all the reasons not to call her, then tape it on your phone. Make a list of all the reasons that she is bad for you or all the bad things she's done. Then write about your perfect woman and how different she would be than your ex. Do it! Link to post Share on other sites
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