Legal dating/sex sites for Omega males?

[Mme. Chaucer]

I do believe that drama addicts rarely change and when they do it is after years of introspection.

 

I pretty much agree about the drama addicts, though I was one and now I loathe drama of most types. I do think that women can go through a "bad boy" phase and get completely over it without years of introspection, though - just like guys can love "party girls" until they start to feel that settling down urge.

 

Settling down, I said. Not the dreaded "settling."

[Woggle]

I pretty much agree about the drama addicts, though I was one and now I loathe drama of most types. I do think that women can go through a "bad boy" phase and get completely over it without years of introspection, though - just like guys can love "party girls" until they start to feel that settling down urge.

 

Settling down, I said. Not the dreaded "settling."

 

I would give a pass on a woman who went through a bad boy phase before 25 but anything after that is going into drama addict territory. When you see women still being jerked around in their 30s and even 40s a man should beware when she wants a sudden change. I would say the same thing about men who just want to date party girls. Somebody like Charlie Sheen will never change just like the woman who enjoys scumbags most likely will not either.

[pteromom]

This isn't exactly encouraging to tell men that when women get tired of being jerked around by the alphas that a woman will settle for him? We all know how those guys get treated in their marriages.

 

It's not SETTLING. It's called MATURING.

 

You get to a point where you realize big biceps and a six pack and a charming smirk doesn't equal happiness.

 

It's about how a woman is treated. It's about a man's character. It takes some women longer to learn this than others.

[Woggle]

Is either settling or maturing based on who you talk to. Listen to many of the women that married these guys after years of going the other way and they very much do consider it settling and settled for men get treated like garbage.

[pteromom]

Women who like men like that tend to like them from a relatively young age. The ones who spend years getting jerked around by alphas might get tired of being jerked around but the attraction never goes away. They end up marrying the nice guys but in the end are not happy and often will cheat when they find a man who gives them that passion they are craving. I have seen it happen plenty of times.

 

I disagree. Of course, there are gonna be SOME women like this. But I have friends who drool over shirtless pics of Jon Bon Jovi, and are still thrilled to go home to their bald, fat husbands. (And have plenty of sex with them too.)

 

There's a difference between ATTRACTION and LOVE. Sure, a woman may always find bad boys attractive. But after a few burns, you start learning that they are fun to look at, and maybe even fun to flirt with, but not worth the hassle.

[pteromom]

Is either settling or maturing based on who you talk to. Listen to many of the women that married these guys after years of going the other way and they very much do consider it settling and settled for men get treated like garbage.

 

If someone feels they settled, then that's sad, and that's on them.

 

If someone gets treated like garbage, that's his fault as much as hers. What's that old Dr. Phil saying? You teach people how to treat you.

 

If you don't accept being treated like garbage, you won't. And it isn't an "Alpha male" thing. It's a personal-boundary thing.

[Woggle]

Bon Jovi always had a nice guy reputation though. He is happily married to his high school sweetheart plus lusting over celebrities is different. I am talking about women who always date the bad boys who just have sex and dump them or cheat on them or in some cases do even worse. Women who this for years and then all of a sudden want the nice, faithful man should be a huge red flag. I have seen it happen over and over again.

[pteromom]

I am talking about women who always date the bad boys who just have sex and dump them or cheat on them or in some cases do even worse. Women who this for years and then all of a sudden want the nice, faithful man should be a huge red flag. I have seen it happen over and over again.

 

That would be me. (Well not the cheating part.) In my case, it was definitely a maturity issue. My self-worth no longer comes from being wanted by the "hot guys", but from within me. Letting go of the drama of unstable relationships took me to a different level, and my priorities changed.

 

If you want to place a red flag on the pattern of behavior, fine. But I wouldn't discount someone for that alone.

 

It's no different than a hot guy who gets to bang tons of hot girls. And when he reaches 30 (or 35 or whatever), he gets tired of all the shallowness and drama and wants a family. So rather than dating club girls, he starts looking for a "nice girl" who will make a loving wife and a good mom.

 

Most of us grow up at some point. Well, except Charlie Sheen. But age doesn't fix crazy. You need meds for that.

[Woggle]

Correct me if I am wrong but didn't you say that you were unhappy in your marriage.

[pteromom]

Correct me if I am wrong but didn't you say that you were unhappy in your marriage.

 

You are correct.

 

Not because he is a nice boring guy though.

 

Because the nice boring guy I thought I was getting turned out to be not so nice. Which is why I try SO DANG HARD to share what I've learned with young'uns on here who are dealing with abusive relationships.

[Ross MwcFan]

I thought beta males were lower than omegas, and omegas were between alpha and beta.

[Big Blue Box]

I thought beta males were lower than omegas, and omegas were between alpha and beta.

 

Omega males and females are the lowest of all. Betas, OTOH, are the lowest acceptable for a relationship. Gammas and lower are not worth the time and effort to try to work with. Think of it as the human equivalency of "natural selection." It shows who is worthy and who isn't.