havNfun Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 I am interested in what is important to others and where they place priority. so, I am asking how you would rank these following items in terms of most important to least, and, there is no ties. The point is to make a choice if you have to. items: a) family (i.e. mom,dad,brothers,sisters,grandparents,cousins) b) spouse (even if you aren't married where will you place your spouse when you are) c) children (if and when you have some if you don't all ready) d) god (or religion) e) wealth (financial well being) f) sex (quality of sex life) g) friends (non-family others around your age that you hang with) h) health i) popularity (how many people know and like you and wish to do stuff with you) to get the ball rolling and to be fair I will list my order first: it is: d, b, c, a, g, f, e, h,i please share with us your priority and any discussion or explaination you might have about why you chose a particular order would be greatly appreciated too. please be honest, and rank according to your heart and not according to what you think is right or socially expected. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 I would rank them: d.) God, because without him I wouldn't have any of the other things I cherish. c.) children. I don't have any yet, but I plan to when I'm older. I just think that giving birth to someone who depends on you for everything, and raising them would create a bond that would be even more special than the one you share with your spouse. b.) spouse. I don't have one of these yet, but I know that when I do, I will love them more than anything (except for the 2 mentioned above). a.) family. My family is always there for me, and they're the ones that helped mold me into what I am today, so they are VERY important to me. g.) friends. My friends are always there for me, too, and help me with things my family can't. They mean a lot to me, and I don't know where I would be without them. h.) health. If I don't have my health, it would be hard for me to enjoy the things that mean a lot to me or to be there for the people I love. f.) sex life. I don't have one of these yet either, but when I do I think it will be a priority, but not a really big one, like my children. i.) popularity. This really important to me at all. Wow, it was kind of hard figuring out where each one ranked. This was a really good topic though, and really makes you think. Link to post Share on other sites
packersgirl Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 Oh these are always fun!! My list goes... D) God... God is always first. Without him my life would be meaningless. B) Spouse... I'm not married, but I know that when I do get married, my husband and his needs are a top priority. I'm spending the rest of my life with this guy, so I should bemaking him feel important, special, needed and wanted. C) Children... They are so important! Raising them right in this world is a delicate process that only my God, my husband and I could accomplish. A) Family... I am very family oriented, and my family has always and will always be an important part in my life. Friends, jobs, and other things come and go, but family will always be there. G) Friends... I believe that having friendships outside of family life and relationship life is very important. My friends have always been a big help for me and I couldn't abandon them for anything. E) Wealth... Being able to support yourself and/or a family is a big deal. Plus, not having enough money can create stress and problems. F) Sex life... umm, yeah.. I don't have one yet, but when I do, I'd like it to be good H) Health... Being healthy is always ideal, and with wealth I'll be able to provide healthcare for my family. I) Popularity... eh, its nice but not needed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author havNfun Posted July 17, 2004 Author Share Posted July 17, 2004 let me explain why I put spouse ahead of children. It is my view that the happiness and success of a family has everything to do with the strength and success of the parents. If kids are put before spouse is can lesson the bond between a couple upon which everything else of the family is built. It is my oppinion that if you wish to love your kids - love your spouse. With a high-rise building - you cannot put more weight on the top floor than into the foundation. that is my thinking. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
TreeHugger Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 Yes...a great topic! I have been thinking about this a lot lately! d) god (or religion) -- however, it is more of a spiritual sense, not much into the dogma of religion....but having a connection to a Higher Power (HP) is definitely number one c) children -- I have three, ages 20 years; 13 years and 5 years...I gained so much wisdom from being a mom...I would not be who I am today without them...they are my joy! h) health -- this has been a huge one lately! I have been kicking myself lately...need to get back to hiking and into the gym... e) wealth (financial well being) -- financial well being is essential in our society today. I am very grateful that I am able to support myself and my children. Having a means to provide has been a gift from HP (God, Goddess, Universe, Eternal Light...) g) friends (non-family others around your age that you hang with) -- without friends you might as well lock me up in a cave and forget about me... friends are completely essential. a) family -- Love them from a distance...great support, but sometimes a bit intrusive...love them regardless. f) sex (quality of sex life) -- in light of my pending divorce...sex is not on my daily "to do" list anymore...so it is here near the bottom of the list...but good sex is wonderful. Married sex was the best for me...a time to just have fun and enjoy my husband! If I were in a healthy relationship, sex would hold a different priority, as I feel it is a vital way to keep a strong connection and bond with your partner. Good sex rocks! Ok...I think I'm gettin a bit warm!! LOL These two are a huge toss up...don't give a darn about either one...I'm just me and hang out with others who share the same values... b) spouse -- if (and only if) I remarry will this category make a second place on my list. I guess after 7 years of marriage, and now a divorce...I need to focus my energy elsewhere to heal my wounds and move on to a healthier me. i) popularity -- honestly this has not entered my since...hmmm sixth grade maybe...I find myself attracted to the crowd that doesn't fit into that box...and who attempt to rebel and be the antithesis of mainstream...lol Link to post Share on other sites
AngryGirl Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 Well my order is quite different. Here it is: g) My friends are my family, I love them to death and they make my life enjoyable every day. e) What can I say, I am a material girl! h) I am a personal trainer so my health, fitness and wellbeing is extremely important to me. Like they say, without your health you have nothing. i) I guess this is linked to friends... I enjoy having a wide circle of aquaintances and a very active social life. f) I need sex on a regular basis; it keeps me both healthy and happy! As for: (a) family; (b) spouse; © children; and (d) god/religion, well they don't really rate on my scale because none of them are a part of my life. Both my parents and my sister were killed when I was young and I don't have any other family. I don't intend on ever getting married because I don't believe in the institution - I enjoy casual relationships. I also can't stand children and never want to have them. Finally, I am an atheist so god/religion/spirituality means nothing to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author havNfun Posted July 17, 2004 Author Share Posted July 17, 2004 treeHugger, thank you for the post. It is very interesting that you have quite a different order than some. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 you know, this is more philosophical than you realize I think...why? well...because of priority. If you have something or are comfortable with the status of something, you may not give it priority eventhough you may value it more than another. Let's say you have Apple and Orange...if you already have apple and you value it more than orange but you don't have orange, you may lend priority to it over apple to obtain it. confusing? maybe, lol e) wealth h) health a) family b) spouse g) friends c) children i) popularity f) sex d) god I wonder if mine will be the most odd to many, hehe. God is last because it is to respect and not to rely on god. God to me should be at the bottom, it is that which is built upon by the rest. Wealth and health are at the top because without them you can't truly enjoy the path you lay before yourself. To achieve a minimal level of the 2 can you begin to live life fully. Outside of yourself is of course your family. Family and spouse...that is questionable when often times there are neglectful parents and the only person to turn to or rely upon is a spouse...the 2 can be interchanged. Children....when the time comes...but when it does they are the most important...and you must have wealth and health to give your children the world. Popularity? who cares, I don't. Sex? Another last thought in my head...though I am a healthy hetero person if I had a mate who could not, her heart and mind are enough to keep me for eternity. And of course god is there to watch over you, god does not want you to rely on him. reminder IMO the prior thoughts are IMO . It is like the aurora borealis...it is the phenomena that it is, but is never the same...always changing yet always consistent . edit note: I went back to make sure I kept GOD an asexual enigma Link to post Share on other sites
TreeHugger Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 dudesomewhere I appreciate your philosophical reply...thought provoking...and definitely always changing as the tides in the ocean havNfun good topic to remind of us to take an inventory of where we are currently placing our daily focus and energy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author havNfun Posted July 17, 2004 Author Share Posted July 17, 2004 I suppose priority can be broken down into these two types: One's current priorities as far as what is receiving the most focus at the time. Or priority looked at in terms of overall priorities in life and what a person ascribes the most meaning to in life as a whole. What we most cherish as important in our lives. we may be focussing on work this particular day because we need to. But just because today's focus is on going to work and doing a good job, this doesn't mean that work is our top priority. It is just our top focus at the moment. I don't have children yet so work is more of a focus for me. But, in life I would place a higher amount of meaning and importants into children. Link to post Share on other sites
soccorsilly Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 C-Children B-Spouse E-Wealth F-Sex G-Friends A-Family H-Health D-God I-Popularity Link to post Share on other sites
RoboHobo Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 B-Spouse H-Health A- Family G-Friends F-sex E-Wealth I-popularity I don't believe in god, and I don't want children. Just want a home with my ex and her two dogs. Link to post Share on other sites
Tracy21 Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 1)God 2) Health 3)Spouse 4)Children 5)Family 5)Wealth 6)Sex 7)Friends Popularity means nothing to me. Without health how can you function and take care of the rest? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 My choices: God Health - i cannot stand the hought of being unable to take care of myself or be a burden to anyone Children Husband Family Wealth Sex Friends Popularity Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Originally posted by havNfun a) family (i.e. mom,dad,brothers,sisters,grandparents,cousins) b) spouse (even if you aren't married where will you place your spouse when you are) c) children (if and when you have some if you don't all ready) d) god (or religion) e) wealth (financial well being) f) sex (quality of sex life) g) friends (non-family others around your age that you hang with) h) health i) popularity (how many people know and like you and wish to do stuff with you) You forgot one: SELF. Your h) is that health of self? health of family/friends? I include that in with each being that is important to be---its part of what is important. Their health, happiness, and welfare. 1. Self 2. Children (before they died) now 2. is Pets 3. Spouse 4. Family 5. Wealth 6. Friends The others do not matter to me. I am agnostic so god/religion is not a factor. My friends are my friends but I can get along without them if I must, but the tax-man comes first! I can't pay my mortgage, insurance, or other bills and cost of living with friendship. Sex is not important to me at all. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 had I known you could leave choices out I would have a shorter list! Damn thee and all thy rebelliousness Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 h) health b) spouse (or partner) g) friends i) popularity f) sex e) wealth a) family(I'm an only child and I don't like my parents an awful lot) d) god/religion c) is not on the list because I'd not like to have children for another few years. but when and if I do they'll probably be first in my list Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 good thread havNfun.... d) god b) spouse c) children a) family h) health g) friends f) sex e) wealth i) popularity I agree with you havNfun...the love for the spouse is number 2! I can relate to that. Your kids will leave one day and you will be with your spouse WITHOUT the kids. I was taught that you owe it to your kids to show them the love between you and your mate. Very interesting thread! Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 a) family (i.e. mom,dad,brothers,sisters,grandparents,cousins) b) spouse (even if you aren't married where will you place your spouse when you are) c) children (if and when you have some if you don't all ready) d) god (or religion) e) wealth (financial well being) f) sex (quality of sex life) g) friends (non-family others around your age that you hang with) h) health i) popularity (how many people know and like you and wish to do stuff with you) FOR ME: d c- all children, not just my own b a g h f e i Link to post Share on other sites
Clarity Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 if I was a mom: 1- children 2- spouse 3- family 4- God 5- wealth 6- friends 7- health 8- sex 9- popularity but since I'm not, this is the reality of it all: 1- spouse (significant other) 2- sex 3- family 4- God 5- health 6- wealth 7- friends 9- popularity Hope I don't get struck down. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms_Sweetness Posted July 25, 2004 Share Posted July 25, 2004 Here's my list: 1-God 2-family 3-spouse 4-children 5-wealth 6-friends 7-sex 8-popularity This is a very good topic. I'ts nice to see how different yet similar we all are Link to post Share on other sites
Author havNfun Posted July 26, 2004 Author Share Posted July 26, 2004 Why do some of you place your children ahead of your spouse? Its no wonder that so many marriages fail?? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 I put my kids before my spouse because I put my kids first before me. I will not put my future hubby before me, nevertheless before the children. Ideally, it's not about classification. If there's communication and common set of values in the couple, "kids put first" is not an issue. It's a given thing. My huby ain't gonna have a Corvette if that my son ain't gonna have the money to go to the best school he can go. We ain't gonna move if he/she/they can have the best in one city. I won't go to a vacation in my life if it's necessary. I want my kids to be happy and become the best person they can be. If they're gonna miss one chance, it will only because they've tried really hard and didn't make it. Not because of me. Not because I choose me before them. All I can do is pray to find a man that feels the same way about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Originally posted by havNfun Why do some of you place your children ahead of your spouse? Its no wonder that so many marriages fail?? I believe the children are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way.... Plus -children are a couple's immortality so placing them 1st is a sign of love for the one you are with. Link to post Share on other sites
thecake Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 e. wealth b. spouse f. sex h. health a. family g. friends i. popularity c. children (I’m not planning on having kids – but if I did they would rank higher) Link to post Share on other sites
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