JD1977 Posted August 25, 2012 Share Posted August 25, 2012 OMG Robert! You are crazy and out of control!!!! But very entertaining! Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted August 25, 2012 Author Share Posted August 25, 2012 No doubt, you don't want to take that kind of chance with your job. But I am curious about the idea of going to a legal brothel. How would that spin if it came to light? I honestly do not know. I like the old episodes of "Two and a Half Men". does that mean anything?................lol Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 OMG Robert! You are crazy and out of control!!!! But very entertaining! Perhaps. Given that my buddy is seeing about a dozen different women, I feel pretty conservative. Can you say "$5K a week"? Link to post Share on other sites
chattykathy64 Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 I wish I had an answer for you. I was only married for 5 years (first marriage) he left 7 months ago to move in with woman he was having a year long affair with and I still cannot bring myself to date. I've tried twice, both times I was a neurotic basket case before the date even arrived and the good night kiss saw me launch into shakes and tears. l Some people seem to have the ability to find closure quickly and move on. Or perhaps some live by the saying "best way to get over one love is to find a new love"...and then for others I believe the "walls" go up so as not to be hurt again. I'm 47 and believe in love BUT I'm still going through the divorce process and for me that means I am still married and I gave my word I'd be faithful. Just because he was not does not give me the right to break my word. Crazy eh? Link to post Share on other sites
JD1977 Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 Perhaps. Given that my buddy is seeing about a dozen different women, I feel pretty conservative. Can you say "$5K a week"? Hahahaha! That's pretty pricey! Wouldn't a mail-ordered bride be cheaper? Lol! Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 Hahahaha! That's pretty pricey! Wouldn't a mail-ordered bride be cheaper? Lol! Not twelve of them! The man is a maniac!!! He emails me at least once a week to tell me all about his newest and most amazing girl yet... Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted August 26, 2012 Author Share Posted August 26, 2012 I wish I had an answer for you. I was only married for 5 years (first marriage) he left 7 months ago to move in with woman he was having a year long affair with and I still cannot bring myself to date. I've tried twice, both times I was a neurotic basket case before the date even arrived and the good night kiss saw me launch into shakes and tears. l Some people seem to have the ability to find closure quickly and move on. Or perhaps some live by the saying "best way to get over one love is to find a new love"...and then for others I believe the "walls" go up so as not to be hurt again. I'm 47 and believe in love BUT I'm still going through the divorce process and for me that means I am still married and I gave my word I'd be faithful. Just because he was not does not give me the right to break my word. Crazy eh? Not at all. You sound as though you put a high degree of stock in commitment. That speakes volumes for you...........) For me, I learned to separate the physical aspect of sex from the emotional aspect of a relationship a long time ago. Whether or not that makes me "damaged goods" remains to be seen. Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 chattykathy Please feel free to start you own thread and tell us your story. We have all been through this or are going through this In my case, I caught my wife cheating, and a month later seduced the OM's wife into have a revenge affair I have been chided on this board for so quickly jumping into bed with another women, before I got my divorce decree. The way I looked at it, the vows I took were between me, my Ex and the big kahuna in the sky. And the second she crossed the line our marriage was over. As for the state, they are merely record keepers Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 shiftman For what it is worth, I was a year short of 50 when I began my relationship with my current GF. Both of us have gone through a divorce, and she had been in a long term relationship with her live in BF As for baggage, while I had no kids, she had two and a newly born grandbaby. Also her daughter and her Ex were in cahoots in trying to get her to reconcile with her Ex, which was never going to happen. The evil daughter tried many times to break us up, however I could see through her lies as did my GF. Still it did stop us from living together for the first decade of our relationship. Which was OK with me, as I liked living alone. Actually, the only time I was troubled was when we finally moved in together, as apart of me was totally happy living by myself. Though we had no fights, it did take me about a year to adjust to living with her and I couldn't be happier. The only one who lost out was on of my cats and one of her cats, as neither could adjust to sharing the house. They are now stick living in separate rooms. The biggest loser was my cat, as she was used to sleeping with me at the foot of my bed, and my GF and I sleep in the bedroom where her cat resides. While my cat lives in my study Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted August 26, 2012 Author Share Posted August 26, 2012 I am sure this is going to be one very interesting endeavor. As hokey as it may sound, I guess the online dating route will be the best option for me. My work commitments are far to extensive to accomodate much time in bars. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 I am sure this is going to be one very interesting endeavor. As hokey as it may sound, I guess the online dating route will be the best option for me. My work commitments are far to extensive to accomodate much time in bars. Hokey? Beyond the route that I went it is about the only option besides bars. Please keep us up to date and let us know how it goes. Good luck! Incidently, one friend of mine met a female lawyer online who just wants to get together for sex every few months. They each drive about 200 miles and meet halfway at a hotel three or four times a year. Too funny! Link to post Share on other sites
chattykathy64 Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 chattykathy Please feel free to start you own thread and tell us your story. We have all been through this or are going through this In my case, I caught my wife cheating, and a month later seduced the OM's wife into have a revenge affair I have been chided on this board for so quickly jumping into bed with another women, before I got my divorce decree. The way I looked at it, the vows I took were between me, my Ex and the big kahuna in the sky. And the second she crossed the line our marriage was over. As for the state, they are merely record keepers Apologies. I was not attempting to hijack a thread only just relating my situation as to moving on. I'm new. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted August 26, 2012 Author Share Posted August 26, 2012 I didn't read his response that way, but do not hesitate to post your story. There are likely posters who would have constructive advice that may have already visited this thread and won't see your story. Past that, how are you doing today? Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted August 26, 2012 Author Share Posted August 26, 2012 Hokey? Beyond the route that I went it is about the only option besides bars. Please keep us up to date and let us know how it goes. Good luck! Incidently, one friend of mine met a female lawyer online who just wants to get together for sex every few months. They each drive about 200 miles and meet halfway at a hotel three or four times a year. Too funny! I don't see me driving 200 miles for anything. Especially for a semi-monthly encounter.........................lol In all likely hood, I will suck at online dating. I can well imagine that my profile will certainly not read "outgoing and funny"............. Link to post Share on other sites
chattykathy64 Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 (edited) I didn't read his response that way, but do not hesitate to post your story. There are likely posters who would have constructive advice that may have already visited this thread and won't see your story. Past that, how are you doing today? UG...me bad. Guess I could blame it on another sleepless night. I think I misread the tone of the response as well. FIFTY LASHES!!!! Sorry 2.50 A Gallon! And Yes, thank you I posted the short version of my story, well a womans short version anyhow. HA! I'm fabulous! Thanks for asking! It's a damp day here on the shores of the big pond. My son (23) home from college and we are cooking, declared today a munchie day - no real meals! Have ya tried online dating at all? I fpund it to be too rushed. Gents want a phone number to quickly and when ya do finally give it up they text ya! What ever happened to talking. LOL Edited August 26, 2012 by chattykathy64 Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted August 26, 2012 Author Share Posted August 26, 2012 Don't worry about the length of your post. When I first decided to post, my story looked like a short novel.............. I doubt that I fair well with online dating as well. I work at facilities that are full of women, but I absolutely do not like workplace romances. Who knows, I may end up joining a convent. I hear those places are full of females................................ 3 Link to post Share on other sites
chattykathy64 Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 (edited) Unsure if the Daughters of Charity will provide what you seek. *giggle* Besides, I doubt you wearing the habit and wimple would attract much! LOL There's always Thursday night BINGO at the senior center, plenty of widows! Ha Ha ha! OHH! I hear ya about workplace romances, flings and copy room quickies. I've seen plenty of train wrecks. My motto; Never mix company pens and ink! Edited August 26, 2012 by chattykathy64 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted August 27, 2012 Author Share Posted August 27, 2012 When I think of bingo, I think of blue haired ladies. I'm certainly old, but I don't think that I am there yet............................... On a brighter note, you actually smiled and sounded cheerful. Good!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
SuperGeek Posted August 28, 2012 Share Posted August 28, 2012 Like RobertZ, I have also enjoyed various female companions (escorts) the last few years instead of plunging head first into another relationship. Can't tell you how much it helped me get over the ex. While i have dated a bit off/on the last few years, i just wasn't ready emotionally to stick my neck out there again after i had my heart broken. OP, If you do go the escort route, keep it to yourself. Don't tell a single soul you know in person about it because you will be judged for it. Men have the raw end of the deal with it comes to sexuality and needs. Stay safe. SuperGeek Perhaps. Given that my buddy is seeing about a dozen different women, I feel pretty conservative. Can you say "$5K a week"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted August 28, 2012 Author Share Posted August 28, 2012 Rest assured that I would certainly keep such an endeavor to myself........ Link to post Share on other sites
buckeye Posted August 28, 2012 Share Posted August 28, 2012 Officially, my marriage lasted 28 years, though it was dead for years. I kept clinging to the hope that it would get better. It's been two years since the papers were signed. I've been on two dates and one "encounter". None of these were good experiences. I've been on two online dating sites. I have yet to even go on a "meet" let alone a date. I'm beginning to believe I may end up single the rest of my days. I'm bored with the head games. I think maybe Robert Z may be on to something. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted August 28, 2012 Author Share Posted August 28, 2012 Officially, my marriage lasted 28 years, though it was dead for years. I kept clinging to the hope that it would get better. It's been two years since the papers were signed. I've been on two dates and one "encounter". None of these were good experiences. I've been on two online dating sites. I have yet to even go on a "meet" let alone a date. I'm beginning to believe I may end up single the rest of my days. I'm bored with the head games. I think maybe Robert Z may be on to something. In this particular area, Rob Z is da man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 LOL! Well, I had to do something. If you plan to go this route I can make a few suggestions. Get in shape, go to the dentist or do anything you can to make yourself look better, dress well, always be a total gentleman, and always always treat them like the beautiful women that they are. Think of and treat the evening as date, not a paid lay. The girls will appreciate that a great deal. If you want to see the most beautiful women, unless you have buckets full of money, you will have to earn the right, even for a very pricey girl. And it will take time to even gain accesss to the top girls. It is funny though how much my life has changed. There was a time when my self esteem was all but gone, I was out of shape, I was chronically depressed, I eventually became suicidal, and I had lost all hope of my life ever improviing. I now enjoy life again, I'm reasonably happy, I'm motivated again, and my confidence has returned and is better than ever. I have a friend who now calls me James Bond. And the truth is that less those who know what I've been doing, I am now far more appealing to other women. I can tell in how they react and interact with me. And I may even have a legitimate date arranged with a beautiful 26 year old. I should know this Friday when I see her again. In short, this has all completely renewed my zest for life. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 (edited) Damn! No evening date yet but we're having lunch next week. She should be completely out of my league so I'll take it. There is defintely a general benefit from spending lots of time with beautiful young women, even for pay. Unavoidably you get used to it and then all other women seem more approachable. Edited September 2, 2012 by Robert Z Link to post Share on other sites
Author shiftman Posted September 2, 2012 Author Share Posted September 2, 2012 Damn! No evening date yet but we're having lunch next week. She should be completely out of my league so I'll take it. There is defintely a general benefit from spending lots of time with beautiful young women, even for pay. Unavoidably you get used to it and then all other women seem more approachable. I made it half way through the registration process on an on-line site. Then, I just closed the browser and shut down the computer. For some reason, it just felt a bit funny. Link to post Share on other sites
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