mesmerized Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Why do you keep making these thread? How does this affect you? People with unrealistic standards might stay alone and that's their business. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Or perhaps he himself doesn't fall into the league she is aiming for and feels personally slighted by that...? Hmmmm, really makes one wonder... But by his description of her - it doesn't come off like he's really aiming to tap dat ass. So would he care? Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillReigning Posted August 24, 2012 Author Share Posted August 24, 2012 Why do you keep making these thread? How does this affect you? People with unrealistic standards might stay alone and that's their business. I don't care, I'm just curious if anybody has an explanation or if they know others like this Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Why do you keep making these thread? How does this affect you? People with unrealistic standards might stay alone and that's their business. I didn't know there were more of these threads... SR are the other threads about her too? If so....hmmm, maybe you do have a lil thing for her - and... that would prove that she can get someone for a higher league.. ...interesting findings... Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillReigning Posted August 24, 2012 Author Share Posted August 24, 2012 I didn't know there were more of these threads... SR are the other threads about her too? If so....hmmm, maybe you do have a lil thing for her - and... that would prove that she can get someone for a higher league.. ...interesting findings... She wasn't talking about me specifically, I've never made a thread like this Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Hmmmm, really makes one wonder... But by his description of her - it doesn't come off like he's really aiming to tap dat ass. So would he care? Because he is upset with the caliber of women he actually can get...e.g., the one he is talking about now. Now let's consider the women that he would consider within his league and extend his premise to them. That is, they have unrealistically high standards...standards which he himself does not meet. Then he would be upset by the caliber of men that the women he wants are expecting... Either way, there is an underlying motivation...but I merely speculate... Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 I don't care, I'm just curious if anybody has an explanation or if they know others like this You do care, otherwise you wouldn't have made a thread about it. I wonder if you feel that you can't get a girl in your "league" because they are looking for someone better than you and you feel slighted by it. And if that girl dies alone, so be it. I'd rather be alone than with someone I wasn't happy with. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Feelsgoodman Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 If you aim high and miss...well so be it. If you aim low and hit...are you any better off? In the military, they teach you to always aim for the center of mass. There's a good reason for that. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 She wasn't talking about me specifically, I've never made a thread like this Yes she was. And yes you have. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 OP, don't you have a current thread running where the point is to complain about how other's complain about what guys and girls want? And here you are, making a whole thread … complaining about what some people want. I don't get it. Are you sure, too, that you are aware of what this girl's description of her "prince charming" might be? Maybe it's more about a guy who is madly in love with her and who wants to give her the world than it is about his looks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 In the military, they teach you to always aim for the center of mass. There's a good reason for that. Yes. The military. A fine example for mediocrity. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Because he is upset with the caliber of women he actually can get...e.g., the one he is talking about now. Now let's consider the women that he would consider within his league and extend his premise to them. That is, they have unrealistically high standards...standards which he himself does not meet. Then he would be upset by the caliber of men that the women he wants are expecting... Either way, there is an underlying motivation...but I merely speculate... That makes sense. If its true, but after all, these are just speculations Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Yes. The military. A fine example for mediocrity. I think you missed the point there... Aiming for the center of mass gives you the highest probability of hitting something, even if you are slightly off target... Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 It just seems that women, no matter what they look like or who they are, always demand the best. It's sad when the ones who could be a great catch for one guy, don't even notice him because she's off chasing another guy who won't even give her the time of day. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 That makes sense. If its true, but after all, these are just speculations Indeed. I am not experienced nor knowledgable enough to craft scientific facts...or use logic... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 I think you missed the point there... Aiming for the center of mass gives you the highest probability of hitting something, even if you are slightly off target... I got the point. When it comes to finding the right person you don't want to aim for "something". You want to hit the best target possible. And that would be the head. Too many people settling and ending up unhappy. Besides, my only experience with shooting guns is online video games, and I ALWAYS aim for the head. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 It just seems that women, no matter what they look like or who they are, always demand the best. And this is the very premise that is the base for the "league" theory, as explained in The Science of Sex Appeal. We all by our very nature try to go after the most attractive mate we can. As time passes and we realize that the "best" don't find us attractive, we lower those standards until we find the most attractive people who also find us attractive. That's how we discover our relative "league." For some, this discovery is quick, but for others, they hold onto that hope that they do rate the "best" mates and will hold out for that mate, long after their own prime years have passed. Some never get over it and do end up dying alone. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 It just seems that women, no matter what they look like or who they are, always demand the best. It's sad when the ones who could be a great catch for one guy, don't even notice him because she's off chasing another guy who won't even give her the time of day. This doesn't makes sense. What's best for you is not what's best for someone else. How do you know if one person is the right fit for another? The only person who knows is...THAT person. People over complicate dating and relationships way too much. They are very simple, actually. And I didn't have the benefit of being able to ask a hundred different questions on an internet forum when I was dating. I had to figure it all out on my own. Something I think these forums do more harm than good. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 I got the point. When it comes to finding the right person you don't want to aim for "something". You want to hit the best target possible. And that would be the head. Too many people settling and ending up unhappy. Actually, I think it's the opposite...as I explained in the post above, it's the ones who do realize where they actually stand and eventually "settle" who end up more happy than the ones who never stop chasing the pipe dream. Besides, my only experience with shooting guns is online video games, and I ALWAYS aim for the head. BOOM! Headshot! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Maybe a super attractive dude is out of her league, but if that is who she dreams of, what's it matter to you? The prevailing theory thusfar is that he wants to be that guy that she dreams of... Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Actually, I think it's the opposite...as I explained in the post above, it's the ones who do realize where they actually stand and eventually "settle" who end up more happy than the ones who never stop chasing the pipe dream. I strongly disagree...but it's just my opinion. I don't think anyone should settle. I'd be curious to see how many people have been together for a decade or more and are still very happy...and whether or not they settled for each other in the beginning or if the other person was all that they were looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 I strongly disagree...but it's just my opinion. I don't think anyone should settle. I'd be curious to see how many people have been together for a decade or more and are still very happy...and whether or not they settled for each other in the beginning or if the other person was all that they were looking for. Well, this is where we'll get into semantics of what we're defining as "settling." I purposely put quotation marks around the word "settle," as I am defining it in the context of league theory as accepting anything other than the most attractive of the population. By my interpretation, your belief that no one should settle would mean that 99% of the population would forever remain single, because they will not settle for anything below the top 1%. When I say "settle," I mean that we continue to subconsciously refine who we find attractive based on who finds us attractive. So with that, we don't ever think we're settling...it's just that ourfigurative "10" has been adjusted down the scale to match our own attractiveness. Link to post Share on other sites
yongyong Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Next time, meet her at a high end club. No americans will tell her the truth to her face. even her mom will support her. But there is one person who will be honest with her. the doorman at the club......lol Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted August 24, 2012 Share Posted August 24, 2012 Well, this is where we'll get into semantics of what we're defining as "settling." I purposely put quotation marks around the word "settle," as I am defining it in the context of league theory as accepting anything other than the most attractive of the population. By my interpretation, your belief that no one should settle would mean that 99% of the population would forever remain single, because they will not settle for anything below the top 1%. When I say "settle," I mean that we continue to subconsciously refine who we find attractive based on who finds us attractive. So with that, we don't ever think we're settling...it's just that ourfigurative "10" has been adjusted down the scale to match our own attractiveness. Good/bad is all subjective. When I say don't settle, I mean don't go for what you don't want in a partner, whether it be looks, personality, income level, etc. Look...if a guy wants a dumb blonde with huge tits and the personality of a drum...I say GO FOR IT. If a woman wants a rich wall street mover/shaker...go for it! Those are obviously extreme examples. Most people want someone they find attractive, fun, secure, intelligent, etc, etc. And I don't think this really changes much over time...just like your personality really doesn't change. You might alter some things based on experience, but I know that the things I value most...physical attractiveness, social outwardness, fun personality, integrity, self confidence...hasn't changed since I can remember. My first gf didn't have many of those qualities and I fully admit I "settled" for her because I just wanted a gf. As I dated I got closer and closer to what I wanted and I eventually found it. But I never lowered my standards or changed what I truly wanted just because I hadn't found it right away. I know, personally, I would never be satisfied with being with someone who wasn't what I truly wanted in a person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillReigning Posted August 24, 2012 Author Share Posted August 24, 2012 Either way, there is an underlying motivation...but I merely speculate... Stop with the dumb psycho analysis, there is no motive. I'm just curious You do care, otherwise you wouldn't have made a thread about it. I wonder if you feel that you can't get a girl in your "league" because they are looking for someone better than you and you feel slighted by it. And if that girl dies alone, so be it. I'd rather be alone than with someone I wasn't happy with. So you find it perfectly reasonable for somebody who is in the bottom 10% to demand a top 10% partner? Link to post Share on other sites
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