Confessed Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Why can't I leave this man alone? We've been together for four years. My life changed a lot. I don't do the things I use to do because I worry about making him mad. He doesn't trust me. Why? I don't know. I've never cheated nor gave him any reason. He always accused me or cheating and I'm tired of it. I know what to do because I'm not happy. But why can't I do it. I feel stuck for some reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 What feelings do you have when you imagine yourself leaving? What does the scenario look like in your imagination? Link to post Share on other sites
Karlise13 Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Why is he so suspicious of you? Sometimes cheaters are the quickest to accuse.... Link to post Share on other sites
cherished Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Why can't I leave Post: 1 | Quote: Why can't I leave this man alone? We've been together for four years. My life changed a lot. I don't do the things I use to do because I worry about making him mad. He doesn't trust me. Why? I don't know. I've never cheated nor gave him any reason. He always accused me or cheating and I'm tired of it. I know what to do because I'm not happy. But why can't I do it. I feel stuck for some reason. I can relate sadly. I've been with the same man for a year or so and he does the exact same thing! I'm sick of it but I stay because I love him! Yeah Yeah I know people are probably thinking "yeah right same old story" but I really do. When things are good they are great but when they are bad it really hurts and makes ya think "why do I stay with such an a**h***" When i attempted to leave him twice he came back crying and swearing to me how much he loves me and he says he is like this because he loves me and is scared of losing me. I gave in because I really do love him. I was about to post something similar to this but read this so I didn't. I hate not knowing what to do about my situation also. I know people will say you allow people to treat you this way but I hate the thought of being without the man who makes me so happy when he isn't acting like an ass! Link to post Share on other sites
jlr_05 Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 I never thought so many people would have the same problem as I have, but reading through everything it seems to be pretty common. I am in the same situation as well and we live together. No matter what, I cannot leave no matter how much i try. I will give the same advice given to me, which I don't know if it really helps, (have not tried it yet but it sounds good): Talk to him. Give him a last chance to change, and really be serious. Don't just say it to say it. With me, I am going to say I have other living arrangements and all, and if he doesn't try to change, then he must not care as much as you thought. There is no reason why any of us should go through what we do. We all know how bad it will hurt but why keep torturing ourselves. I know it is way easier said than done, but what about staying with him getting married and having kids (if not already) will just make it harder. Link to post Share on other sites
TheLostOne Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 Why Dont you just look at it this way... he was probably cheated on in his last relationships ... by the sound of it ... it was pretty bad... just keep reasurring him... that you would never do such a thing... and that you love him every time... gradually it will go away... i know because i was that kinda guy... he loves you... Link to post Share on other sites
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