blue17 Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Well I posted something similar to this about 3 months ago. Right now it seems that I don't have any group of friends to hang out with. My best friend lives kind of far from me (30 min by driving, and I don't even drive), and he also has a girlfriend he spends a lot of time with. They have offered to hang out with me whenever I feel like but if its my best friend and his girlfiend, me hanging out with them just seems like a tagalong. My friends girlfriend also has this girl that hangs out with them now and then.....but she used to like me (she's tried to make out with me at a party recently) so I really try to avoid closed social situations with her. If its in a big group she cool to hang out with, but anything that would seem remotely like a double date I would want to stay a away from. My other 2 good friends aren't really in the same friends circle as me. They have their own group of friends.....which I could classify them as my aquaintences. They don't know my number (they don't call me) I dont know their info....I only hang out with them through my good friend. It's getting to the point where I would call my friend.....and then see what his group was doing...and hang out with them. I am cool with all the guys in that group, but I don't even talk to most of them outside of that group situation. I want a group of friends to hang out with.....not leeching off my friends connection. I have no problem calling people up and seeing what's going on, but when I don't know that many ppl its kinda hard...and i feel bad asking my friends to see what's everyone doing everytime. Things were good at the end of the year, I tried out drinking a little bit (i know its 'bad' but i drink fairly responsibly now) and was having a fun time at parties. I met a lot of new ppl, got a lot of new experience, did well on my course subjects, everything was good. The start of the summer was just a continuation.....lots of ppl to hang out with, lots of parties....things to do. Now it just feels like I'm out of the loop again. My friend doesnt call me anymore (the one who sort of includes me with his group now and then....he used to call every few days during the summer to see if I wanted to hang out). Last time I called him I asked what they were doing.....and they said they were at someones house just hanging out...and if they were going to do something they would call me. Of course he didnt call....so either they didnt really do something or he just didnt bother to call. So i've tried calling.....that doesnt seem to work out that well anymore (and they stopped calling me) so basically i'm stuck here. I don't even really NEED a group of friends to hang out with right now...i just need stuff to do with people. I'm happy going to parties now and then, hanging out with my best friend now from time to time, and continuing playing basketball and weight lifting. I usually find ppl I know and can converse with them at parties, theres a few ppl who I really like....but of course we are in different friends groups so it's hard to see them often. But if I don't even have people to talk to or call up....(without just being a tagalong) then I can't even find out if there are parties goin on. Anywho....I don't even know what I'm asking for. Maybe suggestions on how to find stuff to do....ways to find if my so called friends are even friends........or how I can cope with not having anything to do (which i've been doing for about 2 weeks now and i'm bored of it). Thx for listening. Link to post Share on other sites
RoboHobo Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 Hey, I know what you mean about the spare wheel thing, it can be tough. How about joining a sports club and interest group? I don't know if you like sports but team sports build great friendships. Link to post Share on other sites
simplybrill Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 ok well if you're like me the old "hey join a club" advice isnt really useful. Here's what ya do - call just about everyone you know, and someone will bite eventually. You cant be the only one with nothin to do at the time. Even if ya are- sometimes not hangin around with the same idiots who leave you hangin is a good thing. Link to post Share on other sites
blue17 Posted July 25, 2004 Share Posted July 25, 2004 well things are looking better.....that friends group i was talking about where i was the 'spare wheel' is in better shape. I sort of made friends with another guy in the group, so now that's 2-3 people in that friends circle i can talk to.....enough so that I dont feel like a tagalong if i hang out with them now and then. Altho i am posting this message on a Saturday night .....i've been going out a lot more recently. I sort of agree that joining clubs is kind of hard....cuz its difficult to find ones around. I love to play basketball and soccer....but I don't know of any clubs around here for that. I don't even know of any amateur basketball teams where I live....which sux. Maybe its different in other areas, but finding 'clubs' where I live barely exists. Link to post Share on other sites
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