kalie Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Im a grandmother of a 21 mo baby boy. He is the most beautiful thing in the world to me. My dtr and I have always had a rough relationship. But only when she is in contact with her father. She does not seem to beable to be near us both at the same time. Her father lives in Utah, remarried with a 4 year old. He moved away from our kids long ago. He ignored them until recently. My son, 21, will not have much to do with him. But when he starts with my dtr she will not have anything to do with me. She has now said I cant see the baby. This just rips be apart inside. Ive done everything I could for this girl. Bought her a car she never paid for, bailed her out of jail once...you name it. Her father and I were really bad together. We fought all the time. Apart Im a much better person. He has convinenced her she and her husband should move away from me because I will be a bad influence on the baby. I have been nothing but helpful, child care several days a week. I even took on a 2nd job after the baby was born and handed over my checks to my dtr and her husband because she couldnt work right away. I started dating someone seriously. She resents that. Last sat when I was watching the baby I asked her what time she would be home from work. Just a question. She exploded. Saying that since I met this man I dont have time for my grandson. Not true. In fact his man loves the baby, not having children of his own he adores being around him. I had two days off from my job over the 4th. I volunteered to take the baby one of the days for the whole day. We did the park, swings, lunch, dairy queen.....all of it. Then the 2nd day off she called and wanted me to take him too. Of course I did. Without resentment. Now how am i being a bad grandmother/parent? Ive devoted my entire life to my kids/grandchild. Tears, i miss the baby. Kalie Link to post Share on other sites
miz_barby Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 I'm sorry for you...you can hear (or see) the pain in your words! Maybe since she began going around her father again he's realized too how much he needs them in his life and has tried to convince her you are a bad person because he is afraid she'll come back to depending on you and he won't get to see them much. Either way since you've done so much for them *even if you and your dtr don't get along* and you're good to your grandchild she SHOULD NOT keep him from you. You should try talking to her on the phone or something and let her know you want to keep the past just that (the PAST) and move on and get along for the sake of the baby so you can continue to be a part of his life. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 I am so sorry to hear about this! Children should not be used as pawns in adult fights. Grandparents have rights too! BTW I have a 21 month old too Link to post Share on other sites
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