soccorsilly Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 My old neighbor has been flirting with me via text messages over the past few weeks. She is married (unhappily) and I am divorced and currently in a casual to semiserious dating relationship. I am in a quandary as to what to do. I flirt back with her, and she is an attractive woman. I would certainly not mind taking it to fruition, but...part of me says go no further--she is married and the other part says play it out a little more. She is well aware that I am not looking for anythign serious (and I do not think she is either) but as we all know that can change as circumstances change. I know the CW is to steer clear, but thought I woulf toss it out to the LSers and see what you all have to say! Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Stay away immediately and completely. Fooling around with married neighbors is not a joke at all. Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Dude, stay away. Give yourself the gift of being able to sleep at night knowing that (a) when put to the test, you did the right thing, and (b) there isn't a betrayed husband out there looking to crush your skull. A gift like that is worth its weight in gold, if you ask me. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 I guess that is what I would fear the most, that the husband would be a crazy bastard who would put you in the hospital. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 You have to take into consideration 1) the feelings of the lady you are currently dating. Would she mind? Do you have a very open relationship? 2)the fact that she is married. If her husband does not actually mind(which I doubt), great. If he *would* mind, well, flirting (and possibly end up sleeping) with someone else's wife is utterly wrong. Is he cheating on her? If he was blatantly cheating on her I guess I would not feel guilty about it(I have weird morals I guess). 3) the husband's size. As other posters suggested, it's better not to risk being beaten up by a jealous guy the size of a cupboard. I'd say go for it only if both your girlfriend and her husband have no problems. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 Do not go for it no matter what. There is nothing good will come out of this. Link to post Share on other sites
JarrodsLady Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 Advice from a former OW: RUN FOREST RUN, AS FAST AS YOUR LITTLE LEGS WILL CARRY YOU! Seriously! Link to post Share on other sites
Author soccorsilly Posted August 19, 2004 Author Share Posted August 19, 2004 Forest Ran! Did not pursue it one way or the other. Last night she send me a text message saying that she is getting a new cell and will give me the number in a bit. Later last night she texts me the new number. I replied with something oh so suave and debonnaire as "wow I am flattered--your private number" And she replies that "in case you did not hear Dave and I are splitting up" I called and she siad it was a lopng time coming and she cant wait to get out. I said I was sorry but not surprised and offered a shoulder to cry on or a sounding board to vent. So, now what????? Link to post Share on other sites
shamen Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 You said that your relationship with your dating partner is semi serious. Have you two talked about seeing other people? In regards to her separating from her husband... be her friend and be there for her. Please do not sleep with her until this relationship with her husband is truly over. Just be careful for both your own and her feelings! Just a quick story about a situation similar... My ex and I were on the verge of breaking up for a long time. Have been friends with another man for quite some time. Lots of talking, became very close with the other man. Feelings developed, they were discussed. Nothing happened because I was still in my relationship. My ex and I broke up and my other friend basically bailed on me as a friend because he felt like he was caught in a triangle that he didn't want to be in (his "intentions were not honorable," as he put it). That was 5 months ago and we are only now (and I'm not totally sure if it's really happening) just beginning to re-establish a friendship. I still have no idea where we stand. I felt like I lost a great friend and I'm really sad about it. Please be careful, oh fellow Marylander! Link to post Share on other sites
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