Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[PJKino]

Again you are completely missing the point! *Sighs*

 

There is more to attraction than just physical appearance, and to many people personality and emotional connection are actually much MORE important than physical appearance.

 

That is the positive in the dating world that short men need to focus on! Focus on the positives! Focus on the fact that there ARE women out there who love and who are married to short men! And leave the bitterness behind because its only holding you back!

 

So you admit a women cant be also physically attracted to a short man among other traits

[Xinreeki]

Yes even the "positive" posts about short men usually are not too complementary,comparing a short dude to obese and disfigured women is not very positive lol

 

It seems even the few women here who admit to dating short men talk about how his other traits attracted them as if its impossible for a women to actually be physically to a man whos not tall thats pretty depressing

 

Also its only you who is negatively viewing obsese and disfigured women. I NEVER said anything bad about them. Many obese and disfigured women are awesome people! And there are people out there who love them dearly for who they are!

 

Also weight, disfigurement AND height are all highly relative and subjective qualities!

 

A person may appear disfigured to some and yet beautiful to others.

 

And a "short" man may appear short to some, and yet tall to others who are shorter than him!

[Woggle]

I won a fight against a man who seemed to be almost twice but in reality my fighting days are over. I am against violence these days.

[mesmerized]

So who would win in a fight matters to you? as i said fellas do not take people here too seriously

 

 

What I'm saying is women are attracted to alphas, to winners...and physically a strong tall male is the representation of that.

 

Is this really that hard for you to understand? Or you're just trying to fight it because you don't fit in?

[Content]

 

What I'm saying is women are attracted to alphas, to winners...and physically a strong tall male is the representation of that.

 

Is this really that hard for you to understand? Or you're just trying to fight it because you don't fit in?

 

Sorry honey i dont have many problems attracting women i just think you're a little kooky is all no offense

[PJKino]

Also its only you who is negatively viewing obsese and disfigured women. I NEVER said anything bad about them. Many obese and disfigured women are awesome people! And there are people out there who love them dearly for who they are!

 

Also weight, disfigurement AND height are all highly relative and subjective qualities!

 

A person may appear disfigured to some and yet beautiful to others.

 

And a "short" man may appear short to some, and yet tall to others who are shorter than him!

 

You're really dancing around my question..are you PHYSICALLY attracted to any short men?

[Xinreeki]

You're really dancing around my question..are you PHYSICALLY attracted to any short men?

 

How short?

 

As I've already said, my bf is about 5 foot 5 and I love him dearly. We've been together for over a year now and are extremely happy together.

 

And in the past I've dated even shorter men. One was about 5 foot I think, and the other was about 5 foot 3 and THEY BOTH broke up with me.

 

I honestly still think you're missing my point though.

 

Not all women are the same!! Not all women are attracted to the same physical / emotional / personality attributes in the same types of guys!

 

But at the same time, people have little control who they are attracted to or what they find attractive in others! You just have to keep looking for that special someone who DOES find you attractive, who DOES love you for who you are.

 

And in the meantime, improve yourself in the ways that you can improve yourself, to maximize your attractiveness and increase your chances of finding that special someone.

Edited July 1, 2013 by Xinreeki

[PJKino]

How short?

 

As I've already said, my bf is about 5 foot 5 and I love him dearly. We've been together for over a year now and are extremely happy together.

 

And in the past I've dated even shorter men. One was about 5 foot I think, and the other was about 5 foot 3 and THEY BOTH broke up with me.

 

I honestly still think you're missing my point though.

 

Not all women are the same!! Not all women are attracted to the same physical / emotional / personality attributes in the same types of guys!

 

But at the same time, people have little control who they are attracted to or what they find attractive in others! You just have to keep looking for that special someone who DOES find you attractive, who DOES love you for who you are.

 

And in the meantime, improve yourself in the ways that you can improve yourself, to maximize your attractiveness and increase your chances of finding that special someone.

 

Short being under say 5'9

 

So no youre not physically attracted to short men you could have just typed that out instead of long winded repsonses trying to dance around it

[William]

Merged into consolidated height thread.

[tbf]

Short being under say 5'9

 

So no youre not physically attracted to short men you could have just typed that out instead of long winded repsonses trying to dance around it

Did you not read the same post as I just did? She outlined the height of three men who would be considered very short, of which her current boyfriend is 5'5".

[Cracker Jack]

^Yep. Was wondering the same.

 

But again, that only shows that some people only read what they want to read. It's easier for certain people to stay focused on the negative.

[KungFuJoe]

It's pretty easy to tell who are the insecure people here...

 

The ones who are constantly harp on how unfair it is that they aren't tall or well built and how shallow it is that women prefer those types over them.

 

Guys, maybe if you worked more on your self esteem issues rather than try to blame everyone else for life being "unfair", you might have a bit more success.

 

Women can smell insecurity a mile away.

[PJKino]

Did you not read the same post as I just did? She outlined the height of three men who would be considered very short, of which her current boyfriend is 5'5".

 

She couldnt asnwer when i asked if she was PHYSICALLY attracted to them she just said other traits made them attractive partners

[Mme. Chaucer]

^Yep. Was wondering the same.

 

But again, that only shows that some people only read what they want to read. It's easier for certain people to stay focused on the negative.

 

Even more, they want to focus on only the stuff that confirms whatever they're stuck on. There is NO interest in exploring any further than that.

 

It's so much simpler to blame one's difficulties on the unfair hand they've been dealt genetically along with roughly half the world's population.

 

IMO, THAT'S actually shallow.

[Mme. Chaucer]

She couldnt asnwer when i asked if she was PHYSICALLY attracted to them she just said other traits made them attractive partners

 

Um … "attracted" is "attracted." It's not the same as saying "he's a great guy and I admire him." Evidently she felt sexually inspired towards him. That's all that counts.

 

If you're expecting women to say to themselves, "wow! He's as handsome as Brad Pitt!" when they behold you, if you're actually not godlike, then you're setting yourself up for misery.

 

Oh. I forgot. Women don't think Brad Pitt is attractive.

[Cracker Jack]

She couldnt asnwer when i asked if she was PHYSICALLY attracted to them she just said other traits made them attractive partners

 

But WHY does it matter? How does her answering a question specifically change your outlook? If she was to straight up come out and say "I'm only attracted to short men", would you feel better or something?

 

Like I always say, PJ, you're stuck in endless misery over this height crap, and it's really not a good place to be.

[tbf]

She couldnt asnwer when i asked if she was PHYSICALLY attracted to them she just said other traits made them attractive partners

One is a boyfriend, the other two exes who dumped her. This usually translates to being attracted and wanting physicality with these partners.

 

You're not understanding how different people's attraction concept is comprised of many traits. For some, physical attraction is dominant. For others, if they're attracted emotionally and/or intellectually, physical attraction gets sparked/fanned/flamed high, as a natural extension of intimacy. Wash, rinse, repeat with variable attraction concepts.

 

Now if you're asking if being a short male is an overwhelming asset, as it pertains to majority of women. No, it's not. But being a below average height male doesn't have to be liability.

 

It's like me crying about not being model perfect. As far as women who are model perfect, more power to them. For men who prefer model perfect women, that's fine too as long as they don't trash women who aren't model perfect.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Yet it happens every day. Multiple times every day. Most women who are attacked know their attackers.

 

How many instances are there of a woman who befell tragedy because her boyfriend was 5'6" 140 instead of 6'0" 220 lbs? I'd venture to guess close to none.

 

Wait. Are you trying to say that women who like tall, big guys are wrong because they might be safer if they chose a little man? Is that what you're getting at here?

 

Or trying to draw a parallel between the height of a boyfriend and the chanced for a woman to "befall tragedy"?

 

We are not talking about a woman actually BEING safe with a tall big man, we are talking about a woman who FEELS safe when she's with one.

 

Do you realize how completely off in left field you're drifting? Into dangerous waters, my friend.

 

There are many instances of women who could have fought off their boyfriends if they were smaller men.

 

Awesome perspective! Just one more reason to be happy I married my 5'8" husband. I'll be able to fight him off when he goes violent on me. Didn't even think of that!

 

P.S. Why did this have to be a whole new thread that then needed the attention of the mods to move it to the HEIGHT thread? Why not just post there in the first place?

[SteveC80]

Short men just have to go after average plain janes you probably wont be able to get attractive women

[KungFuJoe]

Short men just have to go after average plain janes you probably wont be able to get attractive women

 

Yup...short guys should just stick to trying to attract married women with straying eyes.

[Southern Cal Dude]

Thank God I'm 6'4".

[Anela]

Short men just have to go after average plain janes you probably wont be able to get attractive women

 

It's so wrong to judge a man on his height - something he can't change about himself - but so right to judge a "plain jane" on looks she can't change?

[Drseussgrrl]

I think this whole thing has really been debated to death, backed over, and run over again.

 

Look dudes, there's nothing you can do about your height. So what if we told you that women don't like short dudes at all. Will that make you feel better?

[Mme. Chaucer]

Short men just have to go after average plain janes you probably wont be able to get attractive women

 

You sure do rest on your laurels about how tall and handsome you think you are. Perhaps it's for a different thread, but is there more to you than what you see when you spend (considerable, evidently) time in front of a mirror?

[Cracker Jack]

You sure do rest on your laurels about how tall and handsome you think you are. Perhaps it's for a different thread, but is there more to you than what you see when you spend (considerable, evidently) time in front of a mirror?

 

I would like to think so, but his alter ego's already have a few posts in this thread from the other end of the spectrum.