Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[SteveC80]

It's so wrong to judge a man on his height - something he can't change about himself - but so right to judge a "plain jane" on looks she can't change?

 

Who's judging? im saying they should get together since theyre on the same level of attraction

[tbf]

I would like to think so, but his alter ego's already have a few posts in this thread from the other end of the spectrum.

Thanks for the heads up. Never synched the two until now. Disturbing.

[ThaWholigan]

Thanks for the heads up. Never synched the two until now. Disturbing.

I did a while ago

 

EDIT: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/383190-short-man-not-equivalent-overweight-woman-8.html#post4749219

Edited July 1, 2013 by ThaWholigan

[WHOLESALEPACK]

I did a while ago

 

EDIT: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/383190-short-man-not-equivalent-overweight-woman-8.html#post4749219

No, it's not. A short man is the equivalent of a very unattractive woman (if she's getting closer to being chubby then it will make her look more unappealing). She may be slightly overweight, have small or big boobs or be of my same height or so but those things can be overlooked. However, if she has an ugly horse face then she's going to have a hard time finding a man that can overcome that.

 

Still, even unattractive girls aren't virgins and they do manage to get dates. I do admit that it's harder for a guy if not only is he lacking in height but in social skills and has a awkward, depressing personality. I have yet to hear about a too short/tall woman or ugly one that can't get a guy.

Edited July 1, 2013 by WHOLESALEPACK

[Cracker Jack]

No, it's not. A short man is the equivalent of a very unattractive woman

 

Absolutely not true. My experiences with the opposite sex would be all but an illusion if this were true.

 

And blanket statements like this are baseless and quite silly, anyway. Really no point in summing up short men, overweight, unattractive women, as every situation is variable depending on the people.

[AD1980]

The only interest ive had from women is from hispanic women,for whatever reaason maybe because hispanic guys on average arent that tall hispanic women are not worshippers of height like others so id sugest short guys stay in that lane.

 

Black and white women are pretty big into height as a whole,most women ive been friedns with mostly white are pretty infauitated with height and will not date a guy under say 5'10.

 

In those communities beign a tall man is like hitting the lotto.

[Miss_raptor]

Not as important as you'd think. I prefer taller men (being 5'9"), but I've dated people, the shortest guy was 5'4".

 

You may be dismissed by certain women, but if you bring a lot to the table, your height isn't that important.

[MrTurk]

How much does height matter to a woman?

 

 

Majority of women wont want anything to do with a guy that is shorter than them. There are a lot of women that are shorter than you....but many of them still like taller guys(around 6ft and up)

 

Many people on here will sugar coat it, and try to give you a pep talk, saying its really not that big of a deal. But in the real world....many women are very superficial about the height of men.

[mesmerized]

Physically, height is huge in attracting women. I don't care what people on this forum say but in the real world a guy your height is going to have issues having women wanting to rip his shirt off. However, you are lucky you are a man and there are factors other than looks that can make you attractive to women. Work on those. Get a good career, style, charm...and hope for the best. There are a lot of women out there married to/with men who are short, bald, fat or any other "flaw" or imperfection you can think of so....

[sillyanswer]

I saw a profile of a pretty and petite woman the other day on a dating site. She claims to be 5'1" and says that because of her height she doesn't want to date someone who is very tall. She goes on to say that she considers 5'7" to be tall.

 

She should be popular with some of the guys in this thread.

[atomicdog]

I've had the same crisis of confidence myself, as I'm not the tallest guy.

 

My advice is to find and hang around short guys who are good with women.

 

For example there's a guy I work with who's shorter than me (probably 5'6 or 5'7) and when we've been out for drinks, I've seen him kiss at least 3 women, which is 3 more than I've ever kissed when going out to bars. (I've kissed girls, but in different settings than a bar.)

 

Also you need to find a strength - physical if possible - that will make up for your averageness of height.

 

For example the guy I talked about above does have a nice face, and is good at dancing.

 

If you don't have a nice face, you can always go to the gym and get fit/buff and maybe go to a tanning salon, so your skin will look nicer.

 

Another guy I know from work is even shorter than the first guy I told you about, and he trains hardcore and has a muscular physique.

 

When I added him on Facebook I saw that he met a pretty attractive woman and posted pics of him kissing her, etc. and changed to a relationship status with her soon after.

 

These experiences have made me much less worried about height than I used to be.

 

So yeah, my advice is, meet tonnes of short guys who get laid and that will prove to you psychologically that height isn't a big problem.

[silicone]

I've had the same crisis of confidence myself, as I'm not the tallest guy.

 

My advice is to find and hang around short guys who are good with women.

 

For example there's a guy I work with who's shorter than me (probably 5'6 or 5'7) and when we've been out for drinks, I've seen him kiss at least 3 women, which is 3 more than I've ever kissed when going out to bars. (I've kissed girls, but in different settings than a bar.)

 

Also you need to find a strength - physical if possible - that will make up for your averageness of height.

 

For example the guy I talked about above does have a nice face, and is good at dancing.

 

If you don't have a nice face, you can always go to the gym and get fit/buff and maybe go to a tanning salon, so your skin will look nicer.

 

Another guy I know from work is even shorter than the first guy I told you about, and he trains hardcore and has a muscular physique.

 

When I added him on Facebook I saw that he met a pretty attractive woman and posted pics of him kissing her, etc. and changed to a relationship status with her soon after.

 

These experiences have made me much less worried about height than I used to be.

 

So yeah, my advice is, meet tonnes of short guys who get laid and that will prove to you psychologically that height isn't a big problem.

 

5'6" - 5'7" is probably the shortest you can go. Many of those experiencing the deeper issues are 5'5" and below.

 

Strength will make up for height, as does physical presence - but there is a limit that you can go to. Not just that, how are you going to compare to the same, but scaled up version?

 

Height isn't a problem to short men, it is a problem to women.

[ls32ssibm]

Probably one of the most hilarious and absurd physical preferences that many women have.

 

 

I get the whole taller guys leave them feeling more protected. It's complete nonsense with no real basis since the invention of pointy objects and the like, but I get the evolutionary desire to have a taller guy.

 

 

But wait, I need them to be taller while I wear my stilts to make my ass look better because apparently exercises to tone the butt are too hard.

[phineas]

My opening message on OLD to a woman my height (5'8") who said she loved 5"' heels was:

 

"Hi,

It wouldn't bother me at all if you wore 5 inch heels on our first date.

Just putting that out there. :)"

 

She gave me her number , we've talked, & arranged to meet next week.

 

Why let your jimmy get rustled over a woman like this.

She's one in a million. seriously.

 

Also, I can fricken care less if a woman is taller than me. It kinda turns me on actually.

[nescafe1982]

Probably one of the most hilarious and absurd physical preferences that many women have...

 

But wait, I need them to be taller while I wear my stilts to make my ass look better because apparently exercises to tone the butt are too hard.

 

As a 5'10" woman with a toned butt, I *still* love to wear heels. Frankly, I ran into a lot more troubles finding men who were okay with that than anything else. I actually had one dude ask me to change my shoes before we went out together (for the record, he was 6' tall).

 

Yes, I like taller too, but didn't exclude the shorter dudes just for their height. BUT- they tended to sort themselves right out of my dating pool by being insecure about my height.

[MrTurk]

Yes, I like taller too, but didn't exclude the shorter dudes just for their height. BUT- they tended to sort themselves right out of my dating pool by being insecure about my height.

 

I love how it seems EVERY woman on this forum seems to have no issues with a guys height....almost acting as if they struggle to find guys that accept them.

 

I've been on dating sites and all I've found is the total opposite....the women have it written in black and white...in their profile

 

DO NOT EMAIL ME IF YOU ARE UNDER 6ft

 

I LIKE TO WEAR HEELS SO YOU MUST BE OVER 6ft

 

I DONT CARE THAT I'M ONLY 5' 2 I LIKE VERY TALL GUYS

 

Thats only a few of the many, many statements I've seen by women

 

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[Imajerk17]

I cant fault the women too much. See I like thicker girls because I want cushion for when I'm pushin.

 

Absurd or not thats what I want.

[tbf]

"I like my men to be tall because I like to wear heels"

 

This translates to, "I like tall men". So? There are plenty of men who like big breasted, bubble butt women. So?

[New User]

I love how it seems EVERY woman on this forum seems to have no issues with a guys height....almost acting as if they struggle to find guys that accept them.

 

I've been on dating sites and all I've found is the total opposite....the women have it written in black and white...in their profile

 

DO NOT EMAIL ME IF YOU ARE UNDER 6ft

 

I LIKE TO WEAR HEELS SO YOU MUST BE OVER 6ft

 

I DONT CARE THAT I'M ONLY 5' 2 I LIKE VERY TALL GUYS

 

Thats only a few of the many, many statements I've seen by women

 

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Yeah. There's a few of those. In my area I'd say it's well under 10% though. I can't help but suspect that the things that we are defensive about seem to get multiplied in our minds; in my case I guess that would be baldness. It's been on a few profiles, but so what. It hasn't been on all or even most of them by a long shot and personal experience has shown me pretty clearly that a lot of women don't care if you don't have hair.

 

 

I cant fault the women too much. See I like thicker girls because I want cushion for when I'm pushin.

 

Absurd or not thats what I want.

 

 

Come to Missouri- you'll be in heaven.

[sillyanswer]

I've been on dating sites and all I've found is the total opposite....the women have it written in black and white...in their profile

 

Yes, I've seen lots of those statements as well... but it's far from all the women. (when you think about how many profiles just say something lame like "ask me if you want to know anything" you'll realise this!)

[sweetkiwi]

Why let your jimmy get rustled over a woman like this.

She's one in a million.

 

I don't think you understand what "one in a million" means !!

 

Anyway I like tall guys. I am also very short. But my interest and sexual attraction to tall men has nothing to do with my choice of footwear. Nor do I say in my OLD profile that I only date tall men. If I fall for a guy it doesn't matter how tall he is. But it does just so happen my guy is 6'2" ...

[Mascara]

I'll let you into a secret. We only use the "I like to wear heels" line to make you feel better. It actually means "look, I'm just physically attracted to very tall men, it's just what I find attractive". In much the same way that guys will say they want a thin woman for "health reasons". We all know it's really because fat girls simply don't perk up your pecker.

[sillyanswer]

I like tall girls. If the short girls want to wear heels to fool me then I'll go with that.

 

(just be sure you can actually walk in them)

[PlumPrincess]

Man if you have self confidence issues...run, don't walk...run away from this place.

 

I never knew being a short guy was such a bad deal. What's funny is that I'm 6'2" and I never thought me being tall was any kind of advantage. I've seen plenty of short guys with hot chicks.

 

Then I come here and it's like being a short guy is synonymous to having leprosy.

The weird thing is, I was never really concerned about height (which is a bit surprising maybe because my mom seems to consider it something important). But reading all the posts of the short guys here, I'm starting to notice height and to associate shortness with low self-esteem and that is really not that attractive.

[MrTurk]

I'll let you into a secret. We only use the "I like to wear heels" line to make you feel better. It actually means "look, I'm just physically attracted to very tall men, it's just what I find attractive".

 

At least you got the ovaries to be honest and admit it

 

I've had plenty of arguments with women on dating sites that use the "heels" excuse....and none of them want to admit that its bull****.

 

I've told them they are basically choosing shoes over a relationship. What it means is they are dismissing a huge chunk of the male population by not even looking at the section of men under a given height. Even though that section is still 3-4 inches taller than then the ladies when they dont wear heels.

 

Normally I would use the phrase...."do women think guys are stupid not to figure this out?" But sadly...I feel many men are stupid