Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[PJKino]

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201306/why-women-want-tall-men

[soccerrprp]

Dutch and German. Hardly a universal pronouncement.

 

Again, I am short and have had little to no problems dating. I've dated taller women too.

 

Don't bother with such studies. What for? It won't change my height.

[clia]

You missed these parts:

 

Men were most satisfied with women slightly shorter than them (about 3 in.),

 

The other finding, that short men and women are both dissatisfied with their height,

 

they point out that height preferences are not universal throughout the world, as has been shown in studies of non-Western sample.

[Imajerk17]

I'm not saying that women are these deep creatures who only care and judge on inner beauty. Indeed some women do judge men on height and yet get their switches tripped when a man makes a disparaging comment about a woman's age (as in too old) or weight. Or even anything that could be taken as such! Which does make me shake my head...every woman was young once but a short guy was always short.

 

However, whining about how tough dating is due to your height or age is just dumb. Plenty of short guys have success with women and plenty of older women have their share of suitors.

Edited February 21, 2014 by Imajerk17

[Tayken]

If that is the case and all this women are hooking up with taller men...why then has the divorce rate peaked, and more women going on dating sites?

 

Perhaps it's time they focused on something more interesting? Unless of course denial is not just a river in Africa?

[Negative Nancy]

A discouraging "study"...

 

 

To see if the women would go for short guys who were successful, ABCNEWS’ Lynn Sherr created extraordinary résumés for the shorter men. She told the women that the shorter men included a doctor, a best-selling author, a champion skier, a venture capitalist who’d made millions by the age of 25.

 

 

Nothing worked. The women always chose the tall men. Sherr asked whether there’d be anything she could say that would make the shortest of the men, who was 5 feet, irresistible. One of the women replied, “Maybe the only thing you could say is that the other four are murderers.” Another backed her up, saying that had the taller men had a criminal record she might have been swayed to choose a shorter man. Another said she’d have considered the shorter men, if the taller men had been described as “child molesters.”

 

 

The desire for tall men begins very young, apparently. ABCNEWS gave elementary school students a test, asking them to match a small, medium or large figure of a man with a series of words. The kids overwhelmingly linked the tall figure to the words strong, handsome and smart. The linked the short figure to the words sad, scared and weak. More than half of the kids also chose to link the short figure to the words, dumb, yucky and no friends.

Edited February 22, 2014 by Negative Nancy

[somedude81]

It's nice to see how desired I am simply because of my height

[Badsingularity]

At 5'9" I am almost always the tallest man in the room.

[No Limit]

I wouldn't date a guy shorter than me.

 

But I'm just 160cm/5'3'', and since I'm female it's not too much of an obstacle. It also made me aware of how clumsy a few of the taller folks are.

I'm just glad I inherited the height of my mother. Otherwise I'd be around 6'0'', basically not being able to wear high heels and fearing knee problems in the not too distant future. No thanks.

[Weezy1973]

Essentially the people whose preferences reject me are not a good match - so basically I couldn't care less! Why worry about things you can't control (like your height - or other people's preferences)? What an immense waste of time...

[topaMAXX]

A discouraging "study"...

 

This is something that I've seen repeated over and over again all over the internet.

 

It does not jive with my personal real life experiences, as I've been "selected" over tall men numerous times.

 

Generally, I find that if a woman is attracted to the man, all bets are off. I've been involved with many women that have stated that they've only dated men 6 ft + until me (and I'm nowhere near that).

[Lei Ping]

The only place a Man has to be tall is in the saddle.

[man_in_the_box]

At 5'9" I am almost always the tallest man in the room.

 

You live in the shire...?

[Tayken]

At 5'9" I am almost always the tallest man in the room.

 

And probably the best dress too...cos your clothes wasn't custom made or bought from the same one store

 

The only place a Man has to be tall is in the saddle.

 

Don't open that can-o-worm.

 

But I'm just 160cm/5'3'', and since I'm female it's not too much of an obstacle.

 

How many MEN have you met / seen SHORTER THAN YOU? Emphasis on men and not boys

 

Apart from him

[No Limit]

How many MEN have you met / seen SHORTER THAN YOU? Emphasis on men and not boys

 

Apart from him

 

Maybe one or two in almost 18 years of lifetime.

Maybe that's what makes it easier for me. Not to mention all those guys who still want the petite type by their side to 'protect' her.

[somedude81]

I wouldn't date a guy shorter than me.

 

But I'm just 160cm/5'3'', and since I'm female it's not too much of an obstacle. It also made me aware of how clumsy a few of the taller folks are.

I'm just glad I inherited the height of my mother. Otherwise I'd be around 6'0'', basically not being able to wear high heels and fearing knee problems in the not too distant future. No thanks.

As long as you don't have requirements that a man must be 4 inches or more taller than you, I don't have any problem with that.

[ZipperZapper]

A lot of women are fixated on the idea that the guy they bring into their lives has to be a certain height, just so they can look good in high heels, or feel protected. Talk about shallow.

[silicone]

I don't know what to feel on this.

[Revolver]

I'm over 6ft and it's never done a damn thing for me

[somedude81]

I'm over 6ft and it's never done a damn thing for me

Then you must come across as super awkward with girls.

 

If I was just 5'10 like my dad, I'd never be single.

[man_in_the_box]

Then you must come across as super awkward with girls.

 

No we don't.

[somedude81]

No we don't.

Do you and Revolver share one body?

 

We are revolver_in_the_box

[man_in_the_box]

No idea, for all I know he is my alternate personality taking over. Or my unknown twin brother.

[Noproblem]

I really feel for you, what you write is really sad

I say work on your physical shape, stay fit, wear things that make you look attractive. Take care of your hair, choices styles that make you look taller. Spiky! Wear shoes that increase your height.

And most importantly be confident

If a guy is looking nice & confident & attractive many girls will forget about his height.

But if you are making it a big deal, we can sense it!

There is nothing wrong with you and act like you own the place.

Guys will always look down at you, but that's ok

Be more successful and charming, and then you'll get the girls they will never have.

[somedude81]

What sucks the most is when women choose to talk to guys taller than you.

 

I actually had a girl yesterday that I was talking to, immediately turn around and start talking to a taller guy and she completely forgot that I was there.

 

I've also known this girl for about a month and talked to her frequently in class. I was getting close to asking her out, and I know that I'd just be wasting my time.