Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[tlegend]

Sorry, if i created a thread that the girl i was interested in only had 34 D instead of the 36 B/C/D i am usually interested in, would i be granted the same level of understanding ?

 

Really though.....how does this thread affect you other than the minute it took to read it?

 

Seriously....

[pteromom]

Sorry, if i created a thread that the girl i was interested in only had 34 D instead of the 36 B/C/D i am usually interested in, would i be granted the same level of understanding ?

 

Well, I would definitely have to point out to you that 34D is much bigger than 36B. The number is how big around her body is... the letter is cup size.

 

 

OP, you have nothing to lose by giving it a shot. Height is definitely not one of the most important things.

[Bruce Leigh]

Ok then, a more serious answer, the seed of doubt has already been planted, you already see his his lack of height (your words, not mine or his) as an issue.

Unless you find some way to kill this seed of doubt it will continue to grow which will hurt him more than you if it goes sour.

Let him discover someone who will look on him without this doubt.

[Bruce Leigh]

Well, I would definitely have to point out to you that 34D is much bigger than 36B. The number is how big around her body is... the letter is cup size.

 

 

OP, you have nothing to lose by giving it a shot. Height is definitely not one of the most important things.

 

It was a hypothetical answer, i have no preference on cup size whatsoever.

Hang on, i am a bloke, am i not supposed to like big boobs at all costs??

[SadNLonley]

Can we hang out sometime?

 

 

Me too! Me too!

 

I've been told I have a strong personality and that I need a strong man to be able to handle me cuz Im too much. I guess that was a nice way of stating that I can be a real b**ch. lol

[harrybrown]

So what happens when your kids come along?

 

My dad was tall and he married my mother. (very short)

 

so there are several of us from 6'3" to my poor brother. He is really short.

 

So if the mom is short then sometimes her son can be short. He is not even 5' 6" tall.

 

ouch, really nobody for a short guy. So all you tall guys, help your sons out by marrying a really tall girl.

 

Or your son will be someone that the ladies will not give the time of day.

 

but my sons are only 6'1" and 6'2".

 

so much for the sarcasm, but look on the inside as well. Give the short guys and the tall girls a chance.

[Koopa]

I think its kinda odd when you see a short guy with a tall girl imo has to be awkward when she has to get something off the top of the fridge for him, but also feel bad for the girl when I see a guy 2 or 3 times bigger than she is thinking he could hurt her in bed with just one wrong move. To me a good looking couple is one where they are proportional in size to each other. But who am I to get in the way of love. Different strokes for different folks.

[pteromom]

It was a hypothetical answer, i have no preference on cup size whatsoever.

Hang on, i am a bloke, am i not supposed to like big boobs at all costs??

 

You can like whatever you like. And if an opportunity comes along to date someone who is outside what you like - whatever that is; boobs, weight, hair, race, whatever - and you want to come here and ask if you should consider it, then sure, go for it.

[snappytomcat]

kali isn't knocking the the height thing shes just asking questions,and shes going out with the man.

why do some of you get so defensive sheesh.

and I wouldn't get offended as a woman with big boobs,if a man started a thread saying,whats better big one or small ones

[Bruce Leigh]

kali isn't knocking the the height thing shes just asking questions,and shes going out with the man.

 

But I must admit..the height bothers me a little bit.

 

Oh dear

[thefooloftheyear]

These height threads kill me....

 

Im 5'6" ...maybe 7" on a good day...Im very athletic with a rock solid 210 lbs- 400+ lb bench..19" arms..etc.And I am well educated, witty, and a master in my field..

 

 

Im almost 50 years old and never had a single time in my life where I EVER had any trouble getting attention from women...I went through the hottest girls in HS as well..No one ever mentioned it..Ive gone out with women who were 5'9" and 5'11"....And I know several short guys, including my brother and many of my cousins who all have had great relationships/marriages with great and attractive women..

 

Most typical women are under 5'4" anyway...And tall women have big feet, which is a huge turnoff....

 

I just dont get the point..? And if you are shorter you are likely to lead a much healthier life as you age...All my taller buddies have bad knees and backs, etc..

 

Sure there are some women who for some stupid reason think that taller is somehow superior? I dont know why this is...What can a taller guy do that a shorter guy cant? Change a light bulb or get something off a high shelf? Who gives a shyt?

 

Just live your life and make the best of what you have...Trust me, if women are rejecting guys because they are short-they are using that as a smokescreen..Its just a lame excuse for other inadequacies..

 

YMMV

 

TFY

Edited May 16, 2014 by thefooloftheyear

[thedj10show]

Isn't there some psychological effect that shorter people generally endure? Something like always having to prove...or validate...or make themselves known?

 

Just a random thought.

 

Yeah, it's called being thrown in trash cans, gym lockers, and being the butt of every short joke. Then it's also called never getting your fair shot at sports teams because height is everything, so your stats have to be much better than the guy that's taller than you because he always has that "potential" to be better. It's called girls telling you not to ask them to prom because it would be embarrassing. That psychological effect. Did I say Napoleon complex? I meant emotional abuse. But keep saying short people have some sort of mental defect hardwired into them.

[thedj10show]

How important is it for a man to be taller than a woman in a relationship?

 

Would love both male and females opinions on this. I'm pretty tall (5'9) and I've never dated a guy who was shorter than me (I've never dated a guy under 6' actually), but I just met one that I might actually like. But I must admit..the height bothers me a little bit. It doesn't seem to bother him though.

 

What is the general opinion on this subject?

 

Thanks all!

 

As a 5'7" guy, I'm currently in the initial dating phase with this dance teacher that is 5'9", and from what I can tell, it doesn't bother her at all. She's never mentioned it, and given that we met on OLD and I have my height explicitly listed, it's not like I've hid it either. She's all legs, and me being a legs guy, I love it! I can't imagine telling her not to wear heels either, as I'd love to see those legs in pumps! Although how you ladies manage to walk around in them is a whole different mystery.

[Phoe]

These height

Most typical women are under 5'4" anyway...And tall women have big feet, which is a huge turnoff....

 

I'm tall and have small feet!

[thefooloftheyear]

Yeah, it's called being thrown in trash cans, gym lockers, and being the butt of every short joke. Then it's also called never getting your fair shot at sports teams because height is everything, so your stats have to be much better than the guy that's taller than you because he always has that "potential" to be better. It's called girls telling you not to ask them to prom because it would be embarrassing. That psychological effect. Did I say Napoleon complex? I meant emotional abuse. But keep saying short people have some sort of mental defect hardwired into them.

 

I dunno...kids did the same thing to fat kids, ugly kids, kids with zits, you name it.....Anyone who gets "broken" by that crap needs to take a hard look at themselves...

 

And OK, so at my height, Id never be the star of the basketball team, but I WAS the star of the wrestling team and made the varsity football team as well....Being "short" is no handicap whatsoever and it really amazes me how much guys get hung up over this...Its shocking, frankly...

 

TFY

[thedj10show]

I dunno...kids did the same thing to fat kids, ugly kids, kids with zits, you name it.....Anyone who gets "broken" by that crap needs to take a hard look at themselves...

 

And OK, so at my height, Id never be the star of the basketball team, but I WAS the star of the wrestling team and made the varsity football team as well....Being "short" is no handicap whatsoever and it really amazes me how much guys get hung up over this...Its shocking, frankly...

 

TFY

And that somehow makes it right, that it happens to anyone who is different? You think these kids shooting up schools are doing it because they're so well liked by everybody? As a kid, all you want to do is fit in. You know how fun it is to be scraping TRASH and ROTTEN FOOD off of your clothes because you've been tossed in an industrial-sized garbage can? Anyway, I digress.

 

I'm an exceptional soccer player and golfer. Golf was easy, because it's individual play and your score speaks for itself. Soccer was the hard one because (a) your coach who is your teacher sees you getting picked on by everyone and knows you don't have the respect of your team and (b) if you're as good or slightly better than the guy with a half-foot on you, he's going to get the playing time in hopes that the light goes off in his head and his physical superiority will make him a better player. That's what my coach explained to me on my junior varsity team. I didn't blow up until I went to college, and the captains and coaches just wanted the best players and results, and supported those that were the best.

[somedude81]

I dunno...kids did the same thing to fat kids, ugly kids, kids with zits, you name it.....Anyone who gets "broken" by that crap needs to take a hard look at themselves...

 

And OK, so at my height, Id never be the star of the basketball team, but I WAS the star of the wrestling team and made the varsity football team as well....Being "short" is no handicap whatsoever and it really amazes me how much guys get hung up over this...Its shocking, frankly...

 

TFY

 

The main reason guys are hung up over being short is that most women are hung up over guys being short.

 

Being short is a negative to most women. Yes some don't care about a mans height. Though frankly it doesn't matter if a woman doesn't care about height if she isn't available.

 

I've been rejected by far more women then I'd like to remember, and I'm certain me being 5'6 was a factor for several of them. And yes, I've been called short by girls that I used to be interested in.

[R3d]

Yeah, it's called being thrown in trash cans, gym lockers, and being the butt of every short joke. Then it's also called never getting your fair shot at sports teams because height is everything, so your stats have to be much better than the guy that's taller than you because he always has that "potential" to be better. It's called girls telling you not to ask them to prom because it would be embarrassing. That psychological effect. Did I say Napoleon complex? I meant emotional abuse. But keep saying short people have some sort of mental defect hardwired into them.

What kind of high school did you go to? My high school is nothing like that. Yes, there is height discrimination but not nearly to the degree at which you're talking about. The worst thing I heard regarding height was last year a group of girls were laughing and making fun of a girl for 15 minutes for her new short boyfriend, which I'd say is still pretty bad. At the same time, I don't see any throwing in trash cans, gym lockers, or anything like that at my school.

 

Then again, I guess the high school I go to is known to be one of the friendliest and have the least bullying so I guess it's just my school (by the way, I am a sophomore and 5'3.5). I don't know. I have heard some rumors about how bad some high schools are, so I guess mine is just extra friendly. I hardly ever see people picking on others. If it is, it's usually all in fun. Though the whole popularity and drama **** is still there...so it's still far from perfect...

 

I should count myself lucky though...

[thedj10show]

What kind of high school did you go to? My high school is nothing like that. Yes, there is height discrimination but not nearly to the degree at which you're talking about. The worst thing I heard regarding height was last year a group of girls were laughing and making fun of a girl for 15 minutes for her new short boyfriend, which I'd say is still pretty bad. At the same time, I don't see any throwing in trash cans, gym lockers, or anything like that at my school.

 

Then again, I guess the high school I go to is known to be one of the friendliest and have the least bullying so I guess it's just my school (by the way, I am a sophomore and 5'3.5). I don't know. I have heard some rumors about how bad some high schools are, so I guess mine is just extra friendly. I hardly ever see people picking on others. If it is, it's usually all in fun. Though the whole popularity and drama **** is still there...so it's still far from perfect...

 

I should count myself lucky though...

 

I went to a suburban/rural school in Rochester, NY where we were one of two minority families in the community. Every once in a while when I run into one of those scumbags now, they'll say "Sorry man, you're a really good kid and you didn't deserve the **** we gave you". Yep, that one sentence erases 10 years of being sick to your stomach every single day. I actually should have taken that scholarship I got to one of the best Catholic schools in the city, but I didn't believe in Jeebus, so I didn't feel like wasting 2 hours a day on reading fairy tales. So I guess I did play a role in not getting away from it...

[KaliLove]

Oh dear

 

How did I knock his height by saying that my personal preference is for taller men? I'm not insulting him for being shorter than me. Touchy much?

[KaliLove]

These height threads kill me....

 

Im 5'6" ...maybe 7" on a good day...Im very athletic with a rock solid 210 lbs- 400+ lb bench..19" arms..etc.And I am well educated, witty, and a master in my field..

 

 

Im almost 50 years old and never had a single time in my life where I EVER had any trouble getting attention from women...I went through the hottest girls in HS as well..No one ever mentioned it..Ive gone out with women who were 5'9" and 5'11"....And I know several short guys, including my brother and many of my cousins who all have had great relationships/marriages with great and attractive women..

 

Most typical women are under 5'4" anyway...And tall women have big feet, which is a huge turnoff....

 

I just dont get the point..? And if you are shorter you are likely to lead a much healthier life as you age...All my taller buddies have bad knees and backs, etc..

 

Sure there are some women who for some stupid reason think that taller is somehow superior? I dont know why this is...What can a taller guy do that a shorter guy cant? Change a light bulb or get something off a high shelf? Who gives a shyt?

 

Just live your life and make the best of what you have...Trust me, if women are rejecting guys because they are short-they are using that as a smokescreen..Its just a lame excuse for other inadequacies..

 

YMMV

 

TFY

 

So nobody is allowed to have any physical preferences at all? We should all just force ourselves to be attracted to everyone on the planet?

 

Great! I have a 600lb friend I should introduce you to.

 

I see that you felt the need to put your muscle mass in this post. You're obviously very insecure. I personally don't care for muscles. Does that make me a bad person too?

 

I'm not saying nobody should date short men. I'm saying I've never been attracted to short men before. But again, I am still giving this guy a chance because he's really sweet. I'm going out with him in about 20 min.

Edited May 17, 2014 by KaliLove

[KaliLove]

The main reason guys are hung up over being short is that most women are hung up over guys being short.

 

Being short is a negative to most women. Yes some don't care about a mans height. Though frankly it doesn't matter if a woman doesn't care about height if she isn't available.

 

I've been rejected by far more women then I'd like to remember, and I'm certain me being 5'6 was a factor for several of them. And yes, I've been called short by girls that I used to be interested in.

 

Stop whining about it and find a girl who likes short men. There are tons of them out there.

[thefooloftheyear]

And that somehow makes it right, that it happens to anyone who is different? You think these kids shooting up schools are doing it because they're so well liked by everybody? As a kid, all you want to do is fit in. You know how fun it is to be scraping TRASH and ROTTEN FOOD off of your clothes because you've been tossed in an industrial-sized garbage can? Anyway, I digress.

 

I'm an exceptional soccer player and golfer. Golf was easy, because it's individual play and your score speaks for itself. Soccer was the hard one because (a) your coach who is your teacher sees you getting picked on by everyone and knows you don't have the respect of your team and (b) if you're as good or slightly better than the guy with a half-foot on you, he's going to get the playing time in hopes that the light goes off in his head and his physical superiority will make him a better player. That's what my coach explained to me on my junior varsity team. I didn't blow up until I went to college, and the captains and coaches just wanted the best players and results, and supported those that were the best.

 

Ive never had these experiences...This is despite being the SMALLEST person in the entire class(girls included) for many years...And no, of course its not right, but my point is what are you going to do about it? Sit around and cry in your beer because some azxhole decided to pick on you??...

'

News flash...People wont like other people based on a variety of reasons...They might be black, fat, bald, stupid, whatever...Fck them and live your life...Your experiences arent unique..

 

And I totally disagree with your comments regarding sports....I kicked everyones ass on the wrestling mat, making it to the State Championships every year...I was typically the shortest guy in the weight class...It was never an issue...No coach would dare consider a taller guy based on "potential"...Thats nothing but horseshyt...If you are good you are good, if you suck- you suck...(not you personally--you get the point)...

 

TFY

[thedj10show]

Ive never had these experiences...This is despite being the SMALLEST person in the entire class(girls included) for many years...And no, of course its not right, but my point is what are you going to do about it? Sit around and cry in your beer because some azxhole decided to pick on you??...

'

News flash...People wont like other people based on a variety of reasons...They might be black, fat, bald, stupid, whatever...Fck them and live your life...Your experiences arent unique..

 

And I totally disagree with your comments regarding sports....I kicked everyones ass on the wrestling mat, making it to the State Championships every year...I was typically the shortest guy in the weight class...It was never an issue...No coach would dare consider a taller guy based on "potential"...Thats nothing but horseshyt...If you are good you are good, if you suck- you suck...(not you personally--you get the point)...

 

TFY

 

That's fair enough. Our high school athletics program was basically determined by whose parents were on the PTA board and could get in the teacher/coach's ear about playing time. Because our teams were never in contention for states, it became a popularity contest. As soon as I went to Michigan State for college, I realized the world is not as backwater as my high school town and I never looked back.

[KaliLove]

I dunno...kids did the same thing to fat kids, ugly kids, kids with zits, you name it.....Anyone who gets "broken" by that crap needs to take a hard look at themselves...

 

And OK, so at my height, Id never be the star of the basketball team, but I WAS the star of the wrestling team and made the varsity football team as well....Being "short" is no handicap whatsoever and it really amazes me how much guys get hung up over this...Its shocking, frankly...

 

TFY

 

You would if you were good at basketball...

 

Again, I have never said that being short is a handicap. I said that I have never been attracted to a man who is shorter than me.

 

I am taller than the average woman. That makes me the freak, not him. Why am I not allowed to be physically attracted to men who are taller than me? Why is it any different from being attracted to blonds vs brunettes? Or big vs little? Or smart vs dumb?

 

Would I be taking this much flack if I'd started a thread about dating a man who was dumber than me?