Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[R3d]

You've never heard tall, dark, and handsome? Listed in exactly that order?

Like a burger and fries, or the sun, the moon and the stars.

 

 

You're grasping at everything to hold on to your convenient excuse.

 

So it shows that tall is the most important thing. When you go to get burger and fries, obviously the burger is the most important part of the meal and the fries are just icing on the cake. Same with the sun. Earth can survive without the moon or other stars, but without the sun, the world would end. Similarly, without tall, the man ends.

[MidwestUSA]

So it shows that tall is the most important thing. When you go to get burger and fries, obviously the burger is the most important part of the meal and the fries are just icing on the cake. Same with the sun. Earth can survive without the moon or other stars, but without the sun, the world would end. Similarly, without tall, the man ends.

 

You're 16. Have you considered getting serious help now?

[R3d]

I know I went a little overboard there but you catch my drift.

[thefooloftheyear]

So it shows that tall is the most important thing. When you go to get burger and fries, obviously the burger is the most important part of the meal and the fries are just icing on the cake. Same with the sun. Earth can survive without the moon or other stars, but without the sun, the world would end. Similarly, without tall, the man ends.

 

I think I am going to fall off my chair now......

 

TFY

[clia]

The bold is what I'm questioning. There is a reason why you listed tall first, even if you think you weren't doing them in any order.

 

The majority of women think height is an advantage for men. And when I've done so horribly, it sucks that I've been forced to get by without that advantage. I need all the advantages I can possibly get. Not the negative of being so short and several others I have that build upon each other.

 

I'm never going to get over the thought that I would have done so much better with women if I was just four inches taller.

 

I was talking about a poster who is tall in his own thread. Jeez. Then you dragged my post over here.

 

As I've told you, your problem is not your height. But I understand why that's a convenient scapegoat excuse for you.

[somedude81]

I was talking about a poster who is tall in his own thread. Jeez. Then you dragged my post over here.

 

As I've told you, your problem is not your height. But I understand why that's a convenient scapegoat excuse for you.

 

I didn't want to thread jack Medium.Lumo's thread talking about height. The fact that you brought it up was shocking to me.

 

How can I believe that height isn't important when I keep seeing things to the contrary?

[Potz4prez]

Yeah, like skyscrapers and roller coasters -.-

[R3d]

Yeah, like skyscrapers and roller coasters -.-

 

What?

 

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[Bruce Leigh]

How can I believe that height isn't important when I keep seeing things to the contrary?

 

If you keep looking for it, you will find it, especially on the internet.

 

Never knew the height thing was an issue until i read about it online. Not my experience over the years. At least in the UK.

[somedude81]

If you keep looking for it, you will find it, especially on the internet.

 

Never knew the height thing was an issue until i read about it online. Not my experience over the years. At least in the UK.

 

I wasn't looking for it. And yet there it was shoved in my face. That thread was pretty much the last place I'd expected 'height' to pop up.

[somedude81]

Made big mental and emotional changes, started weightlifting, picked up my new life-hobby (swimming), cut back on unhealthy habits and started opening myself up to risks. I'm still the same person - just without all the thorns and tar. Still working on being better every day.

 

What are these big mental and emotional changes? Did they really have enough.

 

Interestingly enough, you mentioned weightlifting and swimming becoming a new life-hobby. Did you use to be overweight or at least have an unattractive body?

[somedude81]

Irregardless of why women think height is an "advantage"...think about it for a minute,...

 

How is height really an advantage??

 

What practical reason is there to be 6'2" as opposed to 5'6 or 5'7"? Truth is that from a practical standpoint there is no advantage....Period..And if you want to look at this further, there are several advantages to being shorter..

 

 

Good loooking is good looking...Like I stated previously..I think the only guys who really have some beef are the ones that are 5' and under...Even then, surprisingly, some have no issue..

 

At the end of the day you need not be great with women...>All you really need is one good one.,,,

 

 

TFY

 

It's an advantage to women.

 

I agree with with you that there is no real advantage to being 6'2 or 5'6. But to women there is, and the 6'2 guy is much more attractive. That's just how it is.

[clia]

I wasn't looking for it. And yet there it was shoved in my face. That thread was pretty much the last place I'd expected 'height' to pop up.

 

You need to stop taking everything so personally. My remarks in that thread had nothing to do with you.

 

You make a lot of remarks on this site that might make women with small boobs or women who are overweight feel bad about themselves, but I don't see them throwing a conniption fit every time it happens. Are we allowed to mention a poster's height at all without running the risk that you might freak out because he's taller than you?

[Potz4prez]

What?

 

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The taller the better -.-

 

What are these big mental and emotional changes? Did they really have enough.

 

Interestingly enough, you mentioned weightlifting and swimming becoming a new life-hobby. Did you use to be overweight or at least have an unattractive body?

 

Depression, social anxiety, yada yada yada

 

Nope. Always tall and lanky. Now I'm just tall and lanky with muscle.

 

Swimming is really like meditation for me. When I get out of the pool, it's a total zen moment.

[somedude81]

You need to stop taking everything so personally. My remarks in that thread had nothing to do with you.

 

You make a lot of remarks on this site that might make women with small boobs or women who are overweight feel bad about themselves, but I don't see them throwing a conniption fit every time it happens. Are we allowed to mention a poster's height at all without running the risk that you might freak out because he's taller than you?

 

I know that thread wasn't about me. If it was about me, I would have actually been offended.

 

I was pointing out how big of a deal it is for a guy to be tall and how important it is to women.

 

You yourself have said that being tall is an advantage for a guy. So I'm not even sure why we're having this discussion.

[thefooloftheyear]

It's an advantage to women.

 

I agree with with you that there is no real advantage to being 6'2 or 5'6. But to women there is, and the 6'2 guy is much more attractive. That's just how it is.

 

 

No different than a woman who has a stomach you can bounce a quarter off of has an "advantage" over other women who cant in the eyes of some men..

 

So effin what!!!

 

You simply refuse to accept that there are shorter men that have NEVER exoerienced the type of bias you have....If it was such a big deal, I would have heard about it..Ive lived almost half a century and never heard about this massive height bias until I stumbled upon this site..

 

Its not as you say....sorry..

 

TFY

[somedude81]

No different than a woman who has a stomach you can bounce a quarter off of has an "advantage" over other women who cant in the eyes of some men..

 

So effin what!!!

 

You simply refuse to accept that there are shorter men that have NEVER exoerienced the type of bias you have....

Why should I give a flying fu*k if there are short men who never experienced the short mans bias?!

 

Good for them!

 

I wouldn't wish that misery on anybody.

[KaliLove]

For the bazillionth time..it's not your height, it's your attitude. There are millions and millions of married short dudes out there who have already proven you wrong. I guarantee you they did not meet their wives while whining about their height and refusing to acknowledge any of their other flaws.

 

I went out with a guy who was 5'7 recently and I'm 5'9..I gave him a chance because he was confident enough to make up for the height. It didn't work out because he was a guitar strumming, ghost-believing, moving home to live with his mommy weirdo, but it had nothing to do with his height.

 

Get the **** over it and try actually putting some work in to improve yourself instead of being a whiny little b*tch and blaming women and genetics for your shortcomings. Yup, I said shortcomings. Deal with it.

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[somedude81]

For the bazillionth time..it's not your height, it's your attitude. There are millions and millions of married short dudes out there who have already proven you wrong. I guarantee you they did not meet their wives while whining about their height and refusing to acknowledge any of their other flaws.

Do you honestly think that I'm whining about my height when I'm trying to meet women?

 

You don't have a clue what I'm like whatsoever when I'm trying to meet women.

 

I went out with a guy who was 5'7 recently and I'm 5'9..I gave him a chance because he was confident enough to make up for the height.

 

That's great.

 

Get the **** over it and try actually putting some work in to improve yourself instead of being a whiny little b*tch and blaming women and genetics for your shortcomings. Yup, I said shortcomings. Deal with it.

Ha ha! I bet you think you're a total badass.

 

You're right. I have never put in an once of effort in trying to improve my shortcomings and become more attractive to women. The thought has never occurred to me. Thank you for opening up my eyes.

[R3d]

No different than a woman who has a stomach you can bounce a quarter off of has an "advantage" over other women who cant in the eyes of some men..

So being a short guy is the male equivalent of being a fat girl.

Do you honestly think that I'm whining about my height when I'm trying to meet women?

Exactly what I say when people say that it's the insecurity that's turning off girls. Do you actually think I complain about my height when I am talking to girls?

[somedude81]

Well, how's whining online for the past several years helped you, mate? Has it been therapeutic?

 

Actually yes

 

This is my place to rant. Keeps me sane in the outside world.

 

I'm a completely different offline.

 

Just don't let yourself become the virgin suicide spree killer, and you come back here as often as you'd like to ask total strangers why you can't get laid, asking for well-meant advice that you disregard, rueing all of the tall men and women of the world from the safety of your computer screen, searching for answers that you already know because it provides you with some sort of pity high.

Too late for that. I've had sex a few hundred times last year. Oh well. Maybe in the next life.

[KaliLove]

Do you honestly think that I'm whining about my height when I'm trying to meet women?

 

You don't have a clue what I'm like whatsoever when I'm trying to meet women.

 

Thank goodness for that!

 

That's great.

 

No it wasn't. He was creepy.

 

Ha ha! I bet you think you're a total badass. No..I know I'm a total badass.

 

You're right. I have never put in an once of effort in trying to improve my shortcomings and become more attractive to women. The thought has never occurred to me. Thank you for opening up my eyes.

 

You're welcome.

 

So what are you doing to improve yourself besides b*tching on Loveshack? Are you seeing a therapist to deal with your crippling self esteem issues? That would be step number one.

 

Women can smell insecurity and self-defeat in a man from miles away, whether you talk about it directly or not. Whether or not I know what you're like when you're picking up women, I know for sure that they can tell you're insecure about your height, and probably other things as well.

[somedude81]

You're welcome.

 

So what are you doing to improve yourself besides b*tching on Loveshack? Are you seeing a therapist to deal with your crippling self esteem issues? That would be step number one.

Look over my past posts. I'm not in the mood to detail it all out for you.

Women can smell insecurity and self-defeat in a man from miles away, whether you talk about it or not. You might consider working on those issues first.

 

LOL.

 

No they can't.

 

My ex didn't have a clue at all about any of my issues.

 

None of my female friends ever knew a thing about my insecurity either. Frankly, women are horrible at reading men, or else they would never end up in abusive relationships.

[thefooloftheyear]

So being a short guy is the male equivalent of being a fat girl.

 

Exactly what I say when people say that it's the insecurity that's turning off girls. Do you actually think I complain about my height when I am talking to girls?

 

 

Absolutely not....

 

Its just that what some people view as "ideal" some people dont quite fit...And big friggin deal..

 

And let me point out a few things here...I might have brought it up before, but not sure...

 

Many women will outright lie about this stuff...They have a habit of not wanting to be the "bad guy" when it comes to dating and breakups/relationships...Thats why they pull the "its me its not you" crap when they drop guys on their heads..Even though its absolutely you...They also might tell a guy he is too short, because thats less impactful than telling him he is ugly or a loser..

 

Another thing is that women tend to be idealistic...So they make kneejerk comments about their "ideal man"...Tall, rich, big dick, blah, blah,,,Romance novel/daytime soap opera type of garbage..Then when they realize they dont exactly have the goods to cash in on those demands, all of a sudden they ease up on their "wants"...

 

Point is, dont necessarily believe you were rejected because of your height...It could easily just be a smokescreen..

 

TFY

[somedude81]

So why are you even here? Not being able to get a relationship? I doubt you've had sex that many times, you've spent hours posting on this site pretty much every other day for the past year or so. lol

 

Do you really value a relationship? I guess you're too hot for one, I bet they'll never think they can ever keep you around.

 

Look at my post history. I barely posted at all between May and December of 2013. Guess what I was doing.

 

I'm here because I want to get into a relationship again and I'm having trouble, mainly meeting women that are actually available.

 

Is there a point you're trying to make?