Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[thefooloftheyear]

"He didn't think you were tall enough to be a leader".

 

Yes, I will - because it is my experience. Both Bloomberg and Stallone are about 5'8", no?

 

That's not really short...

 

The way some people talk around here, anything shorter than 6-1 is short...

 

I dont know whats reported as factual, all I know is that I am absolutely 5'6 and stood eye to eye with Bloomberg and Stallone may have been a hair taller...Meh, an inch here or there wouldnt have changed the course of either mans life...

 

Its not about height...but I suppose you are entitled to feel as you do..

*shrug*

 

TFY

[R3d]

The manlet status cutoff for last year was 5'10. I think it got raised to 6'0 for 2014 though.

 

Either way, I am a manlet by a long shot.

[silicone]

The way some people talk around here, anything shorter than 6-1 is short...

 

I dont know whats reported as factual, all I know is that I am absolutely 5'6 and stood eye to eye with Bloomberg and Stallone may have been a hair taller...Meh, an inch here or there wouldnt have changed the course of either mans life...

 

Its not about height...but I suppose you are entitled to feel as you do..

*shrug*

 

TFY

 

Statistically, we both know what short is. Socially, it depends on the area. Obviously an inch doesn't change much, but 4 inches can.

 

Pretty much everywhere though, I am short at 157cm or 5'2".

[KaliLove]

"He didn't think you were tall enough to be a leader".

 

Yes, I will - because it is my experience. Both Bloomberg and Stallone are about 5'8", no?

 

That's not really short...

 

Having met Stallone I can assure you that he is most definitely NOT 5'8.

[thefooloftheyear]

Having met Stallone I can assure you that he is most definitely NOT 5'8.

 

He aint 5-10....or any taller...as is reported...*shrug*

 

TFY

[Bruce Leigh]

Having met Stallone I can assure you that he is most definitely NOT 5'8.

 

You are right, he is 5'9

[Candy_Pants]

You are right, he is 5'9

 

He's short. 5'5" MAXIMUM.

[KaliLove]

He's about 5'6 or 5'7. I'm 5'9 and he was definitely shorter than me.

[Bruce Leigh]

Quick look at the web says that he is somewhere between 5'6-5'7.

 

" Official height " says 175cm-177cm.

[Candy_Pants]

I've seen the guy. He's not 5'7". And his width makes him seem even shorter.

[somedude81]

I've seen the guy. He's not 5'7". And his width makes him seem even shorter.

 

That's not an encouraging thought.

 

How big should I short guy try to get?

[Untouched]

That's not an encouraging thought.

 

How big should I short guy try to get?

 

NOT big. Lithe, defined and fit.

[Bruce Leigh]

That's not an encouraging thought.

 

How big should a short guy try to get?

 

Should never go too big, why sacrifice agility for bulk?

[silicone]

The problem I can see very quickly and I've fallen into it is that I am working out to look like what I find to be attractive given that what I find to be attractive is found to be attractive by other people.

 

Ie, you're working out for other people and not yourself. That's a dangerous path to go down.

 

Also, there's a difference between 5'7" and 5'5". Many of you have seen or met him but can't agree on his height.

[D.Mc.]

Sorry OP, maybe one of the other posters was right about the height thing making women unhinged in the U.S. I'm admitting publicly that I've added one inch (5'9") to my OKC & POF profiles to try to discourage mssgs. from short men. Physically it matters to me. As of yesterday, I got 2 mssgs one from 5'5" & one from 5'8". I guess they didn't read my profile? If I'm standing over a man, how can I feel feminine & sexy? I can share 1000 interests & core values, have a complete mental connection, but I would never be able to see the man as sexually attractive: no relationship would be possible for me without it. I'm surprised that this doesn't matter as much to men when they messg. women taller than them? Even worse, since I would never say "sorry you're too short for me", I have to send them a reply declining on some other reason which is lying.

[sillyanswer]

Even worse, since I would never say "sorry you're too short for me", I have to send them a reply declining on some other reason which is lying.

 

Or do what happens with 99% of all other messages on those sites: ignore them.

[thefooloftheyear]

Sorry OP, maybe one of the other posters was right about the height thing making women unhinged in the U.S. I'm admitting publicly that I've added one inch (5'9") to my OKC & POF profiles to try to discourage mssgs. from short men. Physically it matters to me. As of yesterday, I got 2 mssgs one from 5'5" & one from 5'8". I guess they didn't read my profile? If I'm standing over a man, how can I feel feminine & sexy? I can share 1000 interests & core values, have a complete mental connection, but I would never be able to see the man as sexually attractive: no relationship would be possible for me without it. I'm surprised that this doesn't matter as much to men when they messg. women taller than them? Even worse, since I would never say "sorry you're too short for me", I have to send them a reply declining on some other reason which is lying.

 

What is your height and weight?

 

Be honest...Its just an anaonymous forum...No one knows who you are anyway...Im just curious..

 

TFY

[thefooloftheyear]

The problem I can see very quickly and I've fallen into it is that I am working out to look like what I find to be attractive given that what I find to be attractive is found to be attractive by other people.

 

Ie, you're working out for other people and not yourself. That's a dangerous path to go down.

 

Also, there's a difference between 5'7" and 5'5". Many of you have seen or met him but can't agree on his height.

 

 

Nothing wrong with putting on some size...If you actually can..

 

Forget what the other posters said...S.S. is a bit(1-2") taller than me 5'6"-5'7"...I stood right next to him several times..

 

TFY

[D.Mc.]

Hi TFY,

 

I'm actually 5'8" & working on getting under 135lbs (stuck there now) & really missing carbohydrates in all their bready, ricey, potatoey goodness. The height thing matters because I recognize the "cave woman" part of my brain. None of us live as hunter/gatherers anymore, but some females (me too) still respond instinctively to males who are larger than them b/c it indicates that they can hunt down large prey & protect them from danger: "Og big & strong- kill mammoth good". Sorry but it is in us genetically for a reason, although when the dead rise to eat the living, skinny short people who can get out through small windows/hide in small spaces & survive w/little food will be the dominant gene endowers.

[thefooloftheyear]

Hi TFY,

 

I'm actually 5'8" & working on getting under 135lbs (stuck there now) & really missing carbohydrates in all their bready, ricey, potatoey goodness. The height thing matters because I recognize the "cave woman" part of my brain. None of us live as hunter/gatherers anymore, but some females (me too) still respond instinctively to males who are larger than them b/c it indicates that they can hunt down large prey & protect them from danger: "Og big & strong- kill mammoth good". Sorry but it is in us genetically for a reason, although when the dead rise to eat the living, skinny short people who can get out through small windows/hide in small spaces & survive w/little food will be the dominant gene endowers.

 

OK...great...

 

Not to be a smartass, but Im 5'6ish/5'7" and 210+ and have a 400 plus pound bench press and 19+ inch arms....So your typical 6'2" 185 lb bf is somehow a better "protector" than a guy like me?

 

Or better yet, I personally know a guy that is a current UFC top 5 fighter in his division...he is about my height and 160 lbs....He looks like an average guy in good shape, but..he can kick just about anyone's ass you can put in front of him...regardless of size...He'd be out of the picture as well??..

 

I respect your reasoning, and I have heard of it before..but it really makes me scratch my head...I think if most women said "I just dont like the way we look standing next to one another" id be more inclined to accept that ...

 

And FTR, I am NOT one of the crying aszes that thinks they are worthless because they arent 6'2"++....My height has never been an issue for me..

 

Thanks for the response and good luck to you...Hope you find what you are looking for..!!

 

TFY

[Weezy1973]

OK...great...

 

Not to be a smartass, but Im 5'6ish/5'7" and 210+ and have a 400 plus pound bench press and 19+ inch arms....So your typical 6'2" 185 lb bf is somehow a better "protector" than a guy like me?

 

Or better yet, I personally know a guy that is a current UFC top 5 fighter in his division...he is about my height and 160 lbs....He looks like an average guy in good shape, but..he can kick just about anyone's ass you can put in front of him...regardless of size...He'd be out of the picture as well??..

 

I respect your reasoning, and I have heard of it before..but it really makes me scratch my head...I think if most women said "I just dont like the way we look standing next to one another" id be more inclined to accept that ...

 

And FTR, I am NOT one of the crying aszes that thinks they are worthless because they arent 6'2"++....My height has never been an issue for me..

 

Thanks for the response and good luck to you...Hope you find what you are looking for..!!

 

TFY

 

I believe she's talking about lust (i.e. instinct) and attraction, not logic. You're trying to make it logical, which attraction is not.

 

It's why I think youthful looking women with small waists are the most attractive - evolutionarily speaking they represent the most reproductively fit women out there - whether I'm actually thinking logically about it or not! I don't even really want kids...

[iiiii]

The height thing matters because I recognize the "cave woman" part of my brain. None of us live as hunter/gatherers anymore, but some females (me too) still respond instinctively to males who are larger than them b/c it indicates that they can hunt down large prey & protect them from danger:

 

I agree, I think many women do like to feel that way - but I also think because we women are all individuals, we often associate that good, protected feeling with different characteristics in a partner.

 

In other words, I reckon some women feel "protected" if their guy is really ripped or just really strong - even if he's short- whereas others feel "protected" with a really confident or a really successful man, and still others get that feeling when the guy is tall. None of those is wrong, just different.

 

At the other extreme, I don't think many women would prefer a man who was cowardly, short, skinny, and weak - maybe for the very reason you describe. He wouldn't be bringing home many mammoths.

[topaMAXX]

OK...great...

 

Not to be a smartass, but Im 5'6ish/5'7" and 210+ and have a 400 plus pound bench press and 19+ inch arms....So your typical 6'2" 185 lb bf is somehow a better "protector" than a guy like me?

 

Or better yet, I personally know a guy that is a current UFC top 5 fighter in his division...he is about my height and 160 lbs....He looks like an average guy in good shape, but..he can kick just about anyone's ass you can put in front of him...regardless of size...He'd be out of the picture as well??..

 

I respect your reasoning, and I have heard of it before..but it really makes me scratch my head...I think if most women said "I just dont like the way we look standing next to one another" id be more inclined to accept that ...

 

And FTR, I am NOT one of the crying aszes that thinks they are worthless because they arent 6'2"++....My height has never been an issue for me..

 

Thanks for the response and good luck to you...Hope you find what you are looking for..!!

 

TFY

 

Dude, I don't know why you have to keep saying things like this post. It almost seems like you're trying to prove to yourself that being short is not a bad thing.

 

As a guy that's around your height, in all honesty, it IS a bad thing. It's a disadvantage. Sorry, but that's the truth.

 

Personally, I get girls too. AND I get girls on cold approach. I do better with women than most of my friends. That still doesn't change the fact that my height is a significant disadvantage.

 

In the end, you win some, you lose some. We both lost on height, but we won on other things. That's life, I suppose.

[thefooloftheyear]

Dude, I don't know why you have to keep saying things like this post. It almost seems like you're trying to prove to yourself that being short is not a bad thing.

 

As a guy that's around your height, in all honesty, it IS a bad thing. It's a disadvantage. Sorry, but that's the truth.

 

Personally, I get girls too. AND I get girls on cold approach. I do better with women than most of my friends. That still doesn't change the fact that my height is a significant disadvantage.

 

In the end, you win some, you lose some. We both lost on height, but we won on other things. That's life, I suppose.

 

NO....youre wrong, man...Its only a bad thing for YOU and other guys like SD..Do I immediately have to join the "short guys crying in their beer club" because I am short?

 

You say your height is a disadvantage.....fine...you are entitled to think that it is...You say "lost" om height, but I see it as I "won"...Ive said it before...Its NOT a disadvantage.....For me, its an advantage...I can list several reasons why..I wouldnt want to be 6'2" over what I am now..

 

Listen to me...

 

Dont believe it if you want, but Ive never approached a woman in my life, dont need to do PUA tricks. never asked a woman for her number, Never needed to go to a foreign country to get attention from a woman, heck, I am not even "on the market" and get lots of attention from women...Attractive women as well..Guys say they have never been apperoached by a woman in their lives, I dont understand that...Happens all the time for me..

 

I'm not perfect, but Im a physically healthy individual..I take care of myself, and I have had nothing but success in my professional life ..No one has ever called me short...EVER....

 

So please tell me where I "lost"? Is it maybe because I cant change a lightbulb in the ceiling fixture without a step stool? I have some problems like everyone else does, but height isnt one of them and never was...Speak for yourself, ok?

 

TFY

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Edited May 31, 2014 by thefooloftheyear

[topaMAXX]

NO....youre wrong, man...Its only a bad thing for YOU and other guys like SD..Do I immediately have to join the "short guys crying in their beer club" because I am short?

 

You say your height is a disadvantage.....fine...you are entitled to think that it is...You say "lost" om height, but I see it as I "won"...Ive said it before...Its NOT a disadvantage.....For me, its an advantage...I can list several reasons why..I wouldnt want to be 6'2" over what I am now..

 

Listen to me...

 

Dont believe it if you want, but Ive never approached a woman in my life, dont need to do PUA tricks. never asked a woman for her number, Never needed to go to a foreign country to get attention from a woman, heck, I am not even "on the market" and get lots of attention from women...Attractive women as well..Guys say they have never been apperoached by a woman in their lives, I dont understand that...Happens all the time for me..

 

I'm not perfect, but Im a physically healthy individual..I take care of myself, and I have had nothing but success in my professional life ..No one has ever called me short...EVER....

 

So please tell me where I "lost"? Is it maybe because I cant change a lightbulb in the ceiling fixture without a step stool? I have some problems like everyone else does, but height isnt one of them and never was...Speak for yourself, ok?

 

TFY

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Says the guy that's always trying to prove to a board of anonymous strangers that height is not a factor by overcompensating with muscle mass.

 

Also says the guy that's never made a cold approach in his life.

 

Hello TFY, this is Earth calling. Are you there? Are you there, TFY?