Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[writergal]

We petite ladies have more energy than the Energizer Bunny. That's why men prefer shorter women.

[MoreCoffee]

But are there more guys who will date tall women than there are women who will date short men? Hmmmm...

[Supernatural]

A woman taller than a man is odd.

A man taller than a woman is normal.

A man and woman of the same height is rare and you take them very seriously.

 

I'm 6'0". I prefer women 5'9" - 5'11". I hung out with a chick who was 6'2" once. It felt really strange. I also got beat up by a girl once in elementary. back when I was like 5'4" and she was 6'0", so maybe I'm subconsciously afraid.

I like women right around my height. Equal or inches shorter. A woman with length is sexy. A slim, tight, fit, healthy body. Put a sword in her hand with a tight outfit when the zombies come. Wowza!

[preraph]

There are some men who will only go for petite girls. I got a close-up look at it with a friend of mine who was very small and pretty and she and I used to talk about it. It's a mix, of course. Some are insecure guys who I guess are just a little afraid of women and the small size makes them feel more manly or adequate or whatever. Some are, I'm told, guys who aren't well endowed and mistakenly think a small woman means a small -- you know. Some are really small guys (some of whom are relentless once they find a girl smaller than they are and get very angry if they won't date them). And some just think they're cute and it means absolutely nothing except random preference.

 

And I think some guys equate short with harmless, which is a fallacy. I remember telling some guys I worked with about the time my short pretty friend socked a guy at a concert for coming up from behind and grabbing her ass, and the reaction I expected was "Oh, that's great," because to me she was heroic, but instead it was "Really? I never would have thought she'd do something like that. She's so little." And she is little and she is sweet, but she's not helpless and she's not taking any more crap than taller women will. In fact, she was a lot braver than I'd have been and I am quite a bit taller than her. I think short girls had to learn to be scrappy when younger.

[somedude81]

For the record, I prefer women who are interested in me

 

Though nothing is more attractive than being able to easily look a woman in the eyes.

[Priv]

We petite ladies have more energy than the Energizer Bunny. That's why men prefer shorter women.

 

I concur

[WesternWizard]

Even though I'm mid-height for a man, I love tall women and I would dream of dating one. Why do most men prefer to date a shorter woman? Why wouldn't they date tall women?

 

I'm talking 5'10+ tall woman. I've heard this many times that men just won't take taller women. Why?

 

Damned if I know... I'm 6'6" and would love to be with a woman who's 6'3".

 

Best guess is some guys want child-size women because they can pretend they're robbing the cradle. Buncha old goats!

[Priv]

Because they are cute and cuddly and when they are angry they look even cuter and cuddlier. And feistier.

 

 

I have no rational explanation, besides the above. Go go petite women power.

[Art_Critic]

It's all about puzzle pieces.. it makes for a better 69

[somedude81]

He's about 5'7"

 

So many things can create attraction. The list is long. I'd say that it is a minority of women who require height for attraction, but the majority include height as one factor in creating attraction. V-shaped build, jawline, broad shoulders, shapely forearms (swoon!), and other physical features also are included. For most women, hitting one or two of her physical sparks may be enough, and then the intangibles factor in.

 

Yeah, that's what I remember. You are one of the few women who are perfectly fine dating a short guy, since you married one

 

There are many other women who place more importance on height than you do. If a woman has never dated a man under 5'8, then odds are that she requires guys to be tall to be interested in them.

 

I really wish there was a way I can actually test if women are looking for a tall guy or not. That way I can acquire some data, and also don't bother getting to know/flirting with the woman that refuse to date short guys.

[Priv]

My girlfriend is 6'0 and I love it! To me there is something simply stunning about a tall woman. I am 6'4 and have dated someone as short as 4'11 and I love short women also, but there is just something about a tall woman that gets me going:love:

 

You know what your problem is? You just like women...

[somedude81]

But are there more guys who will date tall women than there are women who will date short men? Hmmmm...

 

This thread is giving some interesting albeit disappointing results.

 

Almost all men seem to prefer short women.

 

And of course women don't want to date men shorter than them.

 

That means that short men have to compete against tall guys for the short women. Since only short girls will date short guys it makes things much harder for short guys.

 

Tall guys should just go for tall girls and leave the short girls for the short guys. That way everybody is happy.

[xxoo]

. You are one of the few women who

 

It's really not rare. You just pay attention to the vocal minority that requires tall.

 

I know countless actively dating or married men shorter than 5'8". How do they do it?

 

Some posters jump in at this point and say those women settled. And around and around we go. That argument really just reveals the insecurities of the speaker.

[aussietigerwolf]

Lol that's what my bf says

 

Because they are cute and cuddly and when they are angry they look even cuter and cuddlier. And feistier.

 

 

I have no rational explanation, besides the above. Go go petite women power.

[bubbaganoosh]

Good friend of mine is 6'5" 260 pounds and his wife is 4'10" and 90 pounds. He needs a kiss all he does is pick her up and kisses her. He says it's better then having to bend down. He's been doing it 30+ years and so far so good.

[OwMyEyeball]

This thread is giving some interesting albeit disappointing results.

 

Almost all men seem to prefer short women.

 

And of course women don't want to date men shorter than them.

 

That means that short men have to compete against tall guys for the short women. Since only short girls will date short guys it makes things much harder for short guys.

 

Tall guys should just go for tall girls and leave the short girls for the short guys. That way everybody is happy.

I'll put forth a motion with your idea at the International Congress of Men meeting planned for later this year. I'm sure we can all put aside our measuring tapes and come to a reasonable arrangement.

[RoseMadder]

 

Tall guys should just go for tall girls and leave the short girls for the short guys. That way everybody is happy.

 

I wouldn't be happy! I'm 5.3 and my man is 6.4, I like tall men!

 

To the OP, I've just asked my other half why he likes me being small, he says it's because it makes him feel bigger (and he likes that my boobs press on his tummy when we hug hahaha!!) For me there's no feeling in the world like being hugged by him, if I'm upset I can walk into his arms and instantly feel protected and calm.

[Priv]

I'll put forth a motion with your idea at the International Congress of Men meeting planned for later this year. I'm sure we can all put aside our measuring tapes and come to a reasonable arrangement.

 

Not sure. I think I have heard the League of Extraordinarily Tall Gentlemen is boycotting the ICM.

 

 

Besides that. The 'petite versus large woman; the definitive winner' is slotted between 'a critical analysis to measure one's size; the stockholm formula in a global context' and 'global warming and what it means to motorcycle gas output restrictions; do we really care?'. And you just know stockholm formula debate is going to eat up the debate time.

[ascendotum]

This tall crap is really just a thing online. I've never met a decent woman in person who refused to date a guy under a certain height. Never. There might be plenty of women online who say they require a guy to be 6' tall to date him, but they do not represent the majority of women. Sure, a lot of women may be attracted to tall guys, but it is not the end all of physical attraction. I have seen plenty of short guys with beautiful women.

 

To me there are two ways to look at people's OLD requirements. I do think that they do give an insight into people's real unfiltered preferences. At the same time I do realize there are lots of people who will be rejected who would have been a prospect IRL. Myself and a number of of my friends say they wont find a gf on OLD as good as we have IRL. Because we can/have done better IRL it means that OLD is not a true representative of romantic life, but if it starts to dominate your options/strategy then it will distort your prospects when you are just a pic + stats in an online catalog.

 

As for women who refuse to date short men, I think its a bit hard to say that with certainty. You know the saying, 'watch what women do not what they say'. A lot of women (and men to a lesser degree imo) are conscious of not being seen as superficial/shallow. In the other short girl thread, there is a couple where they like the short girl/tall guy dynamic because of her boobs pressing up against his belly. That couple if they split up are not going to say that when rejecting shorter men/taller women, because in the scheme of comparability in an LTR it sounds twatty, so they'll just say 'you're not my type' or 'not feeling the chemistry' to others, without going into what they really desire. Whether people get what they really desire or fall for in love with other attributes that over-ride what they wanted, is another story.

Edited September 11, 2014 by ascendotum

[No Limit]

I'm female and barely 5'3", and actually I rarely see guys around here having a small GF. I guess the best thing for most is the boob-view when they're standing right next to you.

 

By being larger and stronger, I am able to throw my woman around, manipulate her body, and overpower her in bed. She flippin' loves it. She keeps telling me how much she loves to be dominated by me. SO.... it works?

 

I envy your girlfriend.

[somedude81]

I wouldn't be happy! I'm 5.3 and my man is 6.4, I like tall men!

 

To the OP, I've just asked my other half why he likes me being small, he says it's because it makes him feel bigger (and he likes that my boobs press on his tummy when we hug hahaha!!) For me there's no feeling in the world like being hugged by him, if I'm upset I can walk into his arms and instantly feel protected and calm.

 

Thanks for proving my point.

 

If tall women only want to date tall guys. And short girls want to date tall guys. Who is left to date the short guys?

[Andy_K]

I'm 5'11, and my preference is for short to average girls of around 5'2-5'6, although my last couple exes were fairly tall at 5'8. So it's not set it stone.

 

Shorter is better to a point, but beyond that it's just going to cause neck ache when kissing or difficulty having sex standing up, so there's a limit

[blueskyday]

I'm 5'2" and my guy is 6'1". I asked him why he prefers me at this height, and he said it makes him feel strong and masculine and that I'm a living doll, beautiful and perfectly formed. Aww!

 

He went on to say that he loves how feisty and funny I am when I'm mad even though I'm so small. He said that I'm clearly the one who wears the pants in the family. I'm thinking that maybe my small physical size balances out my big personality which thinks I'm 6 feet tall!

 

I've dated men of all sizes. It doesn't matter one bit to me. Maybe it doesn't matter much to men either. (My guy has dated women of all shapes and sizes.) It's really the whole package. Every woman brings a certain combination of things to the relationship, physicality only being one.

Edited September 11, 2014 by blueskyday

[veggirl]

I'm almost 5'9 and have never had a problem attracting guys, never had a guy say I'm too tall or anything like that. I've had plenty say I'm the tallest girl they've been with, though. Mostly I've dated guys right around my height (guys about 5'11) and yes I'm taller than them in heels

 

I don't think most men prefer short women, I don't think most men care that much about height tbh.

 

I will say that a lot of guys I've dated are leg men. They love long, lean legs which you aren't gonna find on a short girl.

 

I had a roommate who was 6 ft and very pretty. She never had a problem attracting guys, and all the guys I saw her date were shorter than she was.

[CheckItOut]

I see tall men with short women quite often, but I don't think it's generally a preferred thing. At least for me, I've never heard of men preferring shorter women. Interesting.