Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[NJ123]

I really don't give a diddly-squat about height.

 

My 'unreasonable' prejudice is regarding communication skills. (Unreasonable, because it seems trite and picky, but really isn't, taking al things into consideration.....)

I'm serious.

 

What about you - would you like to rest your head on your girlfriend's shoulder, as you walk along the street?

 

lol now YOU'RE trying to change the conversation to something different completely. I knew this topic was going to start arguments, but I'm seriously wondering what the true reason behind this is. No one wants to admit how shallow it is, & keep comparing things to what you actually have control over.

[evanescentworld]

It's actually a very reasonable question, and one I see you have neatly avoided answering, because obviously, it's the women who have the problem...

 

Would you like your GF to be taller or shorter than you?

 

And let's be clear here: I'm not arguing with you, at all.

[CarrieT]

lol now YOU'RE trying to change the conversation to something different completely. I knew this topic was going to start arguments, but I'm seriously wondering what the true reason behind this is. No one wants to admit how shallow it is, & keep comparing things to what you actually have control over.

 

Look, you are new here.

 

This discussion has been going on for YEARS over here....

[NJ123]

True. Just play the hand you're dealt. That's all any of us can do.

 

(Wait until you get old! I'm 54, and ya know, I just don't turn heads unless I drop something breakable. There are many unchangeable traits.)

 

I'm noticing in this topic it seems people from other countries are the ones posting about not caring about height. Maybe it's more of a U.S. thing with a lot of women preferring tall guys?

[Maleficent]

Well hey, tons of women do it. Tons of women get breast implants, and change their hair color/length & whatever else. I don't get why people here keep giving example of things you can actually change with low risk. For height I think there is some type of surgery to get it done, but it's extremely rare for anyone to get it due to the extreme risks of the surgery.

 

What is your point exactly?

 

Just because getting a boob job is virtually not risky at all doesn't remove the shallowness of men who refused to date a women below D-cups.

 

There aren't different degrees of shallowness. It's shallow or it's not.

[NJ123]

It's actually a very reasonable question, and one I see you have neatly avoided answering, because obviously, it's the women who have the problem...

 

Would you like your GF to be taller or shorter than you?

 

And let's be clear here: I'm not arguing with you, at all.

 

It doesn't matter to me honestly. It really doesn't. I mean of course I know I have no chance with a 6 foot tall woman, and that I could understand. And I should add there's obvious exceptions that's why like I said I put "a lot of women" in the topic thread title & not all like you seem to think I'm implying. Since for example no 6 foot tall woman will want to date a 5'5" guy. And I get that in that particular situation. But what's annoying is seeing a 5'3"-5'4" woman preferring a guy who's 6 feet+ tall. It's like why skip over all the shorter guys, it makes no sense to me in that particular situation.

[evanescentworld]

I'm noticing in this topic it seems people from other countries are the ones posting about not caring about height. Maybe it's more of a U.S. thing with a lot of women preferring tall guys?

 

Oh yeah, you're right. All Americans are just American, with absolutely no cultural diversity or regional differences at all....

[love1336x]

I USED to be that way when I was a teenager. I only wanting to date tall men! In fact I would tell my closest friends, I would never date a man who wasn't taller than 5'9. i didn't want my children to be short. At the time I hated being short, and I felt it was a curse.

But, you see your tongue has a way of teaching you a lesson.

 

I fell in love with a man who was 5'4, and he made me so happy. I didn't even mean to fall in love, it was totally love at first sight.

 

Now of days, I don't care how short a man is, i am not so swallow I have changed my ways.

[evanescentworld]

.Since for example no 6 foot tall woman will want to date a 5'5" guy. .....

 

Right again....

[NJ123]

Oh yeah, you're right. All Americans are just American, with absolutely no cultural diversity or regional differences at all....

 

lol you keep sounding argumentative in your posts. It's just a fact that a big % of women prefer tall guys. Why is that so hard for you to believe? I'm just trying to understand why though. And no one wants to give actual reasons for it. I think just 1 poster in this thread gave one.

[xxoo]

lol you keep sounding argumentative in your posts. It's just a fact that a big % of women prefer tall guys. Why is that so hard for you to believe? I'm just trying to understand why though. And no one wants to give actual reasons for it. I think just 1 poster in this thread gave one.

 

Because it's sexy.

[evanescentworld]

OK:

 

Because some people prefer a taller partner, and others prefer a shorter partner; some people prefer to date/marry people from their own cultural background, others prefer to diversify.

 

people like different things because people are different.

 

And that's about as close to being 100% generally true as anything else you'll read on here.

[GorillaTheater]

I'm not prepared to call any element of attraction "shallow". I happen to have a thing for short part-Hispanic curly-haired brunettes with big smiles. Well, one at least. We're attracted to what we're attracted to, be it appearance, personality or character, it changes over time, and we don't have a hell of a lot of control over it. It's pretty unrealistic to expect otherwise.

[NJ123]

Because it's sexy.

 

lol explain. Why aren't short guys sexy?

[evanescentworld]

OMG!!! She was KIDDING!!!

[Quiet Storm]

lol you keep sounding argumentative in your posts. It's just a fact that a big % of women prefer tall guys. Why is that so hard for you to believe? I'm just trying to understand why though. And no one wants to give actual reasons for it. I think just 1 poster in this thread gave one.

 

I gave a couple different reasons in my post.

[xxoo]

lol explain. Why aren't short guys sexy?

 

It's just sexy. Just as wide shoulders, strong jaw, and thick forearms are sexy. And a whole lot of other things, both physical and non-physical.

 

Short guys can be very sexy, but the actual height might not be why they are sexy. For example, I don't find chubby bellies sexy, but a guy with a chubby belly can be very sexy if he has other sexy qualities.

 

Just be sexy.

[NJ123]

OMG!!! She was KIDDING!!!

 

lol she clearly wasn't by her next post.

[evanescentworld]

Another reason:

Many women - of any height - would dislike dating a guy on the short side - if he has a height complex.

 

And that's absolutely true.

 

And stop lolling when you clearly don't mean it.

 

She did include short guys who she considered sexy, but I see you failed to mention that.

[Phoe]

I am not concerned about a man's height. The men I've dated were 5'6 to 5'10, so they were all in a close range to each other.

 

I don't hold it against them, because I wish men wouldn't hold height against me. I'm 5'8, and have been told I am too tall. Men tell me they'd prefer a woman to be shorter than me.

 

No one can help it

[NJ123]

OK:

 

Because some people prefer a taller partner, and others prefer a shorter partner; some people prefer to date/marry people from their own cultural background, others prefer to diversify.

 

people like different things because people are different.

 

And that's about as close to being 100% generally true as anything else you'll read on here.

 

But don't you think it's ridiculous for someone to rule someone out just due to their height alone? If for example the woman has tons of common interests with the guy, thinks he looks attractive (except for height), thinks he has a great personality, & she gets along with him perfect. But just due to the preference for someone tall, she won't seek a relationship with him? Isn't that being really shallow?

[evanescentworld]

But don't you think it's ridiculous for someone to rule someone out just due to their height alone?

Not if it's a personal preference, no.

If for example the woman has tons of common interests with the guy, thinks he looks attractive (except for height), thinks he has a great personality, & she gets along with him perfect. But just due to the preference for someone tall, she won't seek a relationship with him? Isn't that being really shallow?

 

Find an exact scenario like that, and then ask her.

Until then, it's just your hypothesis, and an unanswerable question.

 

You've had 4 pages of responses.

 

What exactly are you wanting?

For all and every woman to fall at your feet and admit they're shallow, or what?

 

LIke I said: Instead of trying to find out the whys and wherefores of the attitudes of others, I'd be more concerned with addressing yours.

Because when it comes to dating you - you're the one who counts.

[NJ123]

Another reason:

Many women - of any height - would dislike dating a guy on the short side - if he has a height complex.

 

And that's absolutely true.

 

And stop lolling when you clearly don't mean it.

 

She did include short guys who she considered sexy, but I see you failed to mention that.

 

why are you being so argumentative with me for? It's kind of weird like you have something against me. And thanks for giving a reason with an explanation behind the reason finally.

[NJ123]

Not if it's a personal preference, no.

 

 

Find an exact scenario like that, and then ask her.

Until then, it's just your hypothesis, and an unanswerable question.

 

You've had 4 pages of responses.

 

What exactly are you wanting?

For all and every woman to fall at your feet and admit they're shallow, or what?

 

LIke I said: Instead of trying to find out the whys and wherefores of the attitudes of others, I'd be more concerned with addressing yours.

Because when it comes to dating you - you're the one who counts.

 

Fair enough. And you keep implying I think every woman is like this. From the thread topic title alone it should be obvious to you I know not every woman cares about height, but a lot do.

[NJ123]

It's just sexy. Just as wide shoulders, strong jaw, and thick forearms are sexy. And a whole lot of other things, both physical and non-physical.

 

Short guys can be very sexy, but the actual height might not be why they are sexy. For example, I don't find chubby bellies sexy, but a guy with a chubby belly can be very sexy if he has other sexy qualities.

 

Just be sexy.

 

But it seems like to me from what you said that a short guy has to put in more effort for you to be as attracted to them as a taller guy. Which means you'd prefer a tall guy over a short one.